Today, my boyfriend of six years broke up with me for a girl he's known for less than 72 hours. Why? He wanted someone pure. I lost my virginity to him five years ago. FML
I agree, your life sucks (25193) - you totally deserved it (2007)
On 11/14/2009 at 1:19pm - love - by unengaged (woman) - United States (Texas)
Yes, because all marriages last forever.
And it just sounds like this guy is being a dick with a dumb excuse for breaking up. If that whole 'pure' thing really bothered him he would have broken up with her a long time ago. He just was done with the relationship.
#79 - On 11/15/2009 at 3:12pm by brandnewkey
contrary to what you think; that's not entirely true. Actually its quite biased. Guy's aren't all like that. There's obviously those who are ass***** but so are there women who are like that. What's sad is that the fraction of all those guys in the world make all guys look bad.
#94 - On 11/17/2009 at 12:07am by DragonitePaladin
How do you know he doesn't deserve her?
maybe there's more to this and it's just an excuse. =)
I just hate when people assume that someone doesn't deserve someone else without knowing the person.
But if that's the real reason, then yes, he probably doesn't deserve you, OP
#16 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:35pm by dudeitsdanny
I think most people operate on the general principle that most people do not deserve that special level of bullshit. As a rule of thumb, saying "You're not pure enough for me, thanks for the sex, bye" isn't something you'd expect an average person to have coming. It's less of a comment on the OP/the relationship and more of a comment that the ex was a rare breed of douche.
#37 - On 11/14/2009 at 7:04pm by pope_suburban
he wants someone who cant compare him to someone else in bed so they dont know how bad he is...
#45 - On 11/14/2009 at 7:48pm by brutallyhonest24
Maybe it was a test of purity that she clearly failed and is now tainted with the loss of her virginity thus losing the faith of her boyfriend who finds a deeper connection with virgin girls. Although, having caused the act of intercourse himself, and leaving his girlfriend because of it, I dub him unforgiven. Unless of course there a hidden meaning behind all of this and he's just afraid to admit it to his girlfriend... God dammit, who knows?
hah! good one.
OP: lose the guy. you're seriously better off without him. it's just a lame, lame excuse to break up with you.
#73 - On 11/15/2009 at 8:16am by scarlett361
He just likes them tight that's all. He's a douche though. Fuck being "pure" go do his best friend of something.
#3 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:15pm by confizzled
Just because you're not a virgin, that doesn't mean a girl's got a loose vagina. It just sounds like a bad excuse from the guy to me.
Um ydi for losing your virginity to a jerk. then again fyl...
#4 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:15pm by FederalAgent
KICK HIM IN THE FUCKING BALLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#6 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:16pm by mraide9r4
OP, you don't want a guy like that for a boyfriend anyway. Did you not see the signs in 6 years? Next time give more thought to your choice of a partner.
#7 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:18pm by lostfaithinpppl
(1) Does he know he was the one who took your virginity or have you been telling people you're as wide as the handicap parking?
(2) Maybe you've been giving it up to him so often, and too kinky, that he doesn't respect you anymore.
Sucks.
Meh, you're better off. Any guy who even considers whether his girlfriend is "pure" isn't worth being with.
#10 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:25pm by greenfairy
I wouldn't normally say this, but I think the situation calls for it. Go fuck his friends. Take pictures and send them to him.
the whole "he wants someone pure" thing is obviously a cover up for something else.
#13 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:29pm by muffinsareyummy
Hah, excellent point!
Also 25 has a point. This guy sounds like one of those pathetic fools who sleep with gals until he's bored with them.
#26 - On 11/14/2009 at 6:06pm by DameGreyWulf
-hangs her head in shame- XD
Naw, Jersey girls are trashy.
#49 - On 11/14/2009 at 8:37pm by littlexlion
So the other girl is "pure", probably younger, AND hasn't wasted 6 years on this asshole. Maybe she'll be smarter and get out before he ruins her too. It's sad that you wasted your virginity, 6 years, and maybe your good looks on him. FYL this time but YDI if you don't learn anything from this. :(
Wtf is this? She's not "ruined" for being in a relationship for 6 years. I don't know why you think that makes you give up your looks either. Do you think everyone in a relationship lets themselves go?
Wow that is so sad I almost feel sick. I almost feel you should warn the girl. Then maybe she will dump him and he will be left with no one.
#25 - On 11/14/2009 at 6:03pm by harleyrene
Whore = sleeps around for money
OP = has only ever slept with her boyfriend
...Your logic = fail
#32 - On 11/14/2009 at 6:19pm by SoniaLovesYou
I'd like to thank you both for Feeding the Obvious Troll.
#83 - On 11/15/2009 at 6:17pm by myfriend_youfail
He's a two-faced misogynist. Be glad you're rid of him, because any man who thinks it's okay for him to have sex but blames you for the sex he had with you is one big liability. Also, learn something from this, and hold your subsequent dates to a higher ethical standard-- for your own sake. Only sort of FYL, because you're better off without this kind of person in your life.
#28 - On 11/14/2009 at 6:09pm by pope_suburban
maybe he "wants someone pure" because he lasts about a minute and virgins are the only ones who wont know the difference. and i mean, its kind of what you get for dating a conservative tex asshole :]
#31 - On 11/14/2009 at 6:18pm by kisseshugsdrugs
Actually my first time was awful and I knew it the second it was over that it was awful. You don't have to be experienced to know that a guy lasting under a minute and/or you not having an orgasm is bad.
I agree he is most likely a lousy lover though.
well im saying compared to those who are experienced, or have had sex before. theres nothing to compare it to, nahmeannnn.
#66 - On 11/15/2009 at 3:59am by kisseshugsdrugs
I knew my first time was bad too. You'll just know. It doesn't really have to do with experience, it has to do with how it feels.
true, you can always tell if its horrible unless youre terribly naive. sometimes you might think the sex is good, but then when you hook up with someone else you realize what good sex actually is.
#91 - On 11/16/2009 at 5:44pm by kisseshugsdrugs
He's an ass, but hey, if he only wants virgins, you can take comfort knowing he'll never have good sex again.
FYL
i know how you feel. my boyfriend of 7 months dumped me because i wasnt "perfect" enough for him, since i wasnt a virgin when we started going out.
he wasnt one either. AND he didnt complain for 7 months.
im so sorry, i hope you find someone better =)
you don't deserve this prick. Go out and find a real man who will respect you no matter what. He has done you a massive favor, you do not want to be with someone that lives in the dark ages. buhhh-byeeeee
#39 - On 11/14/2009 at 7:18pm by patticake1601
Actually my first time was awful and I knew it the second it was over that it was awful. You don't have to be experienced to know that a guy lasting under a minute and/or you not having an orgasm is bad.
I agree he is most likely a lousy lover though.
He is no more pure than she is, but there must have been plenty of clues that he was a douche bag all along.
Better six years than sixteen.
#44 - On 11/14/2009 at 7:41pm by I_am_stupid_also
Because a ring on the finger changes him into a non-douche? O.o That makes no sense.
#47 - On 11/14/2009 at 8:28pm by CheshireHalli
Yes, actually. If a man has gone and bought a ring and promised to love his girl, and everything, then he is promising her that he will be a non-douche. Instead of just screwing her and moving on.
#50 - On 11/14/2009 at 8:55pm by possumisawesome
This is a reply to comment 50.
I'm hoping you are being sarcastic here because plenty of men and women act like complete jackasses after getting married. Sadly marriage doesn't mean happily ever after for everyone, and the business about knowing if your partner is a jerk or not before getting married isn't plausible because many people put on an act and do not show their true personalities until its too late.
no because a legally binding contract means he cant leave unless she says he can
entrapment (not engagement) ftw
Well, 50 has a point in that doing that is making a promise to not be a douche. Doesn't mean they'll keep it though.
Also, 55, there are ways to get out of marriage without permission from your partner.
#56 - On 11/14/2009 at 9:53pm by DameGreyWulf
True, 50 has a point about it being a promise not to be a jerk, I will concede to that :) Sadly in the case of this particular person I'm afraid even marriage probably wouldn't have kept him from doing this to her.
So the guy thinks it's perfectly all right for him to have sex and fuck as many girls as he wants (I'm guessing that's how he is) but the girls he dates have to be pure little virgins who have never seen a dick even though he's seen the inside of a million vaginas. What the hell is that?
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He's a giant, selfish asshole-douche jerk. YOU on the other hand need to re-define your values, young lady. If you valued your virginity, then you should not have given it away without being married. Chalk this one up to bitter experience, feel sorry for this girl, because he'll likely do the same thing to her (maybe you should advise her of what he did to you?), and be glad as heck you got the lowdown on this loser before the wedding so that you didn't spend any more time with someone who clearly does not and never did love you. And hey, virginity is not what makes you a pure heart/soul/person, anyway. Your attitude about the world around you, how you look at life, what you expose yourself to, and how you feel about your own soul are what make you pure. So, here's some advice: Live a clean life. Be a good, honest, fair person. Value your body and your mind by not exposing either to things that would debase you, and enjoy your purity. He can't take away your spirit, so live well. It's the best revenge.
OP doesn't complain about her virginity, nothing suggests she's one of the people psychotic about sex/hymen.
Only her ex have some issues...
He is so not worth your time! You will find someone better who will respect you and not toss you aside when they were the one who slept with you.
hate to tell you but I'm sure he's known her for much longer than 72 hours for him to just throw away a 6 year relationship. He's now just finally worked up the courage to dump you for her
#59 - On 11/14/2009 at 10:30pm by captaincanoe
I've seen this FML like 45 times now. This is a pretty common one. Either it's fake or this girl is an idiot.
#60 - On 11/14/2009 at 10:31pm by saviisneat
I agree.
But if "abstinence is the answer", then the question must have been "What's the fastest way to get blueballs?".
Abstinence makes the Church grow fondlers.
But seriously, for some people not having sex is a good option, for others it isn't. No big deal.
#67 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:59am by Apocalyptus
sounds just like my ex. instead he slept with five other people behind my back. :) it'll all get better with time!
Fuck, girl, was his name Jason, by any chance? Sounds exactly like my ex-boyfriend of a few years ago. He sweet-talked me into dating him, threatened me into giving him my virginity, and then a month later he left me to bone some 14 year old because I wasn't "pure and innocent" anymore.....and that's disturbing, because he was 21.
Some guys are like that. They only date or have sex with virgins, and once the girl is "broken in", so to speak, they move on to the next one. It's along the same basis as pedophilia, believe it our not. Pedophiles only go for a certain age group, and once a child sexually matures, they no longer find that child attractive. In this case, the guy is only sexually attracted to virgins. Once a girl's virginity is lost, he finds her unattractive and looks elsewhere.
Egg his car. And his house. And warn the girl he's with, because if he only likes them "pure", he's sure to drop her eventually as well.
#74 - On 11/15/2009 at 9:59am by myfriend_youfail
Meh, he's lying. He's not pure either. Actually, there's no such thing as "pure". Anyway, he didn't dump you because you slept with him, that's stupid. He tried to come up with another way to say he's bored of you.
#75 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:26am by GrapefruitZoe
and how does he know this new female he met is 'pure'
you're too good for him
ad deserve way better :]
#76 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:52pm by outcast_qurl
what the hell is this supposed to mean? the guys a dick, but that doesn't mean you have to insult the whole state.
To all women ever:
If your boyfriend "wants someone who's pure" i.e. a virgin, run! Run screaming for the hills! Run away and never look back! Whether it's before or after he has sex with you, it doesn't matter. Just run!
#85 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:49pm by FoundManyLemons
he probley didnt like you anymore so he needed an excuse...
#89 - On 11/16/2009 at 2:03am by Bassplyer
I feel your pain. I've been with my boy friend for 6 years, he was my first and only. I caught him in a huge lie yesterday and he began to call me a whore just because I am a female. He thinks that just becasue I am a women I am a whore because a women can get any man they want.
I sincerly hope that person is your ex now no one male or female should be called a whore(or anything else) just because their partner is mad at them.
sorry, he probably meant pure for marriage. he probably doesnt like the fact that your stretched out down there with meat hooks.
#95 - On 11/17/2009 at 4:54am by ladiesman14
oh and by the way i dont mind if my girls are not pure or stretched out. just as long as they dont give me herpes or an incurable std. im 2 pretty for warts on my face or neck.
#96 - On 11/17/2009 at 5:06am by ladiesman14
that was just a sorry excuse to break up with you
and if he ' wants someone pure ' he wouldnt have done anything with you in the first place.
#103 - On 11/29/2009 at 6:37am by muahzzbaybee
