Today, my boyfriend of three years sent me a text saying: "I don't think we can see each other anymore, the nights were great, but I think I'm falling in love with Julie". I'm Julie. FML
I agree, your life sucks (26014) - you totally deserved it (1097)
On 11/13/2009 at 10:07pm - love - by JJ (woman) - Canada (Alberta)
Why would she break up with him? He loves her enough to get rid of his pussy on the side! That's real commitment.
well, its sucks that he is cheating on you, but he is leaving the other girl so you got a choice to make, to stay with him, or leave him because he used to cheat on you. and most of all, FYL =D!
#25 - On 11/14/2009 at 4:27am by brutallyhonest24
who is to say he wont go and cheat again? And they were together for 3 years, how long was he cheating? And it took 3 years for him to fall in love? It's fishy and you shouldn't stay with him.
#63 - On 11/14/2009 at 2:07pm by Spitfire86
Uh maybe because he was cheating for God knows how long. BTW I sure hope your post was sarcasm and you weren't being serious.
This was in response to Cracker's comment
he could have been using the other woman for sex, or only dated a week, or maybe you dont like him having woman for friends
or maybe you hate his mom
after three years and cheating on her, he 'thinks he' starting to fall in love with her'
I don't call that 'he's in love with you'
He doesn't even know for sure, he only 'thinks' that
all in all, it is an FML, no 'good news' whatsoever
#84 - On 11/14/2009 at 9:20pm by OLOtheDemigodess
Stay with him, and completely cut off sex... the relationship will eventually end and he suffers more that way.
At least he's falling in love with you? FYL, but at least that means he's probably not going to cheat on you in the future if he feels like that.
#3 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:10am by Twinklestar
No, that only means that he's gonna cheat on her, and mistakenly send a text to Shaniqua one day that says, "I don't think we can see each other anymore, the nights were great, but I think I'm falling in love with Shaniqua".
#5 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:12am by allmidnighteyes
xD take it as a compliment I suppose?
then again..it depends on how you think of it.
#4 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:11am by allisha
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Personally, I think that's a good thing. He might have been sneaky, but now he wants to be exclusive and committed to you. When I was first dating my boyfriend, we were not exclusive and were allowed to see other people. A few months later he said he didn't want to see anyone else and that he loved me and wanted to be with only me. Now he lives with me a year and a half later. Things just work out like that. I say give him a chance.
#6 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:16am by saviisneat
They were dating for three years before this. I'm going to give the poster the benefit of the doubt and say they were supposed to have been exclusive through most of that.
Thus, he was cheating on her. And he's a dick.
I bet people are gonna say "Stop complaining bitch he's falling in love with you!" and completely miss the point of this FML. Cheaters never stop. I don't care what people tell me, I fully believe that if a person cheats once then they will cheat again. It's in their personality. Leave him and let him lose both this person he just broke it off with and you.
"I don't think we can see each other anymore, the nights were great, but I think I'm falling in love with *insert-name-here*"
#8 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:19am by allmidnighteyes
i agree, a cheater is a cheater... they aren't respectful or honest and feel entitled to whatever they can get away with. i don't know, maybe you should confront him until he buys you things to win you back and then dump him and clean up on ebay.
#55 - On 11/14/2009 at 1:01pm by amazingkate
On the bright side, at least he chose you...
But yeah, he's an ass. Tell him if he's so "in love" he should at least care enough to send the text to the right person...and that the feeling's definitely NOT mutual.
#9 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:24am by pikantna777
Talk about a double-edged sword. Although you do have a number of opportunities for a really witty and amusing break-up text, should you decide to send one. I suppose it's really a win/win, because either he's going to behave himself or you're rid of his inept, faithless ass.
#10 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:28am by pope_suburban
You should dump him for not knowing that "each other" is two words. Sure, his being able to break off his affair because he realizes that it's you he really needs is commendable and all, but do you REALLY want to spend the rest of your life with a man of questionable grammar?
I think that's called sarcasm.
Now, on topic... 3 years??? and only now he thinks he's in love with you? Fuck that, fuck him.
It sucks that he cheated but look at the bigger picture: HE is ending it, because he loves YOU. Maybe this is one of those times when u give him a second chance. Idk..if it was me, I would, but its up to you
#14 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:42am by IMB916
Maybe he is ending it.. but what about the previous 3 years that he has most probably been cheating? would you stay with someone if the cheated on you?
Are you sure you're the Julie he's talking about? Just saying.. pretty common name:p
#15 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:44am by mylittlecrow
i would love to hear the follow-up if she replied, "hey, you sent that text to the wrong person, idiot. it's over!" and he said, "um, no, i'm in love with Julie Q."
#82 - On 11/14/2009 at 7:06pm by icansayanything
Aw, isn't that sweet? It's too bad you gotta ditch him now.
#19 - On 11/14/2009 at 3:58am by blastvortex
From the way i see it, i think he's kidding.
OP, dont be a bi*ch and ask him about this before taking any big step. (e.g. dumping him)
#21 - On 11/14/2009 at 4:02am by Antivirus
well, i'd say if you break up with him, you'll regret it. Not to say that cheating is acceptable but at least your bf really loves you. Stay with him.
This is no way an FML. its not bad.
Does no one else realize he could just be a total slimeball and just be using her as an excuse to break up with the girl because he's bored of her? Also, this is a FHL but he totally deserves it.
Now there's a theory I hadn't considered. Might want to remember that one...
#51 - On 11/14/2009 at 11:46am by arienh4
You should simply send him a text that says; "Aw honey, I love you too. Well, I did until I found out what a cheating asshole you are. Thanks for the heads up. Its over."
That is what I would do. However, should you decide to stay with him, you need to have a long, serious conversation about his cheating. Then, ass kissing and swearing it will never happen again should commence. :)
Goodluck
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I know what he did to you was wrong, but you shouldn't hack into your boyfriend's email and send yourself a break-up email. Dump him yourself, you know?
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Don't date cheating assholes. YDI
#27 - On 11/14/2009 at 4:40am by AntiChrist7
Yes, because I'm sure she KNEW he was a cheating asshole.
*sigh*
#29 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:13am by Witchcraft
Lmao I say talk to him about it. I don't think you should do anything else until you do.
#31 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:31am by Fr3sh2De4th
Is it wise to stay with someone stupid enough to confuse you with his side piece anyway? If he hasn't mastered the simple organisation skills needed to keep a couple of girlfriends, he will be a Mcdonald's crew member forever. Find someone with future potential!
#32 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:49am by CallMeHush
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You'll pretend like it never happened and continue giving him head during carides, movies, and dinner, like every good gf should.
Wow, after 3 years he's falling in love with you? What?
#34 - On 11/14/2009 at 8:00am by jessamyn_it_is
Sounds to me that after three years of relationship, he's just, "starting to fall in love" with her, he's actually just using his girlfriend (Julie) to ditch the other chick. A tried and true method for him.
#37 - On 11/14/2009 at 8:58am by simplesimplicity
sounds like you got it. i feel sorry for all the chicks here who think "beginning to fall in love" line from him is golden. also seems like commenters here feel like any relationship is better than none.
#59 - On 11/14/2009 at 1:07pm by amazingkate
It's because Love heals (conquers, fixes, overlooks, trumps) all wounds (heartache, pain, negativity). **
Didn't you know?
** Disclaimer - The above statement, and any implied or associated meaning behind this statement, is null and void when in reference, general or specifically, to any or all STDs.
#74 - On 11/14/2009 at 4:02pm by simplesimplicity
Why is it that people have such bad memory?
The quote was much different from what you just said.
#52 - On 11/14/2009 at 11:51am by arienh4
well at least hes falling for you and hes dumping the other girl
#40 - On 11/14/2009 at 9:39am by eefmylife_13
because it is not a good thing to find out your long term boyfriend is cheating on you.
#57 - On 11/14/2009 at 1:04pm by amazingkate
Dump him
If he cheats on you once
He'll cheat on you twice
#47 - On 11/14/2009 at 10:38am by HunterFalls13
Not necessarily true. Not for all people, after all.
You don't think that someone can learn from their mistakes, right? I've done things I consider immoral in the past, but I learned from it and am not going to do that again.
But yeah, dump him. He's "starting to fall in love with you" after three years? Bit late. If he'd done that after a couple of weeks into the relationship, yeah, fine. I'd even see myself forgiving that, depending on the circumstances (and since many relationships don't have a definitive beginning, like "we've been dating since the 14th of October", they might not have talked about being exclusive for a while), but after three years, unless they talked about it and are both okay with it, you'd just assume they're exclusive.
You /were/ officially dating, right?
#48 - On 11/14/2009 at 10:50am by __no_one__
Well that's tricky....
Love is nice and all but three years? Come on...and he was seeing another girl on the side nonetheless.
But maybe he was just confused about what he wanted...If you still want him tell him if he wants to keep you he'll have to make the hell up for that stupid text he sent you...If he really is falling for you that'll give him good incentive not to be such a douche in the future...
OP, I hope you dumped him, right? It doesn't matter that he's falling in love with you. He was seeing someone on the side. While you can't expect monogamy right when you start dating someone, after three years there should have been one unless you mutually agreed to not be monogamous (you would mention it in your FML).
#53 - On 11/14/2009 at 11:57am by lostfaithinpppl
That's probably the line he's used on all the girls he has cheated on u w in the past 3 yrs. think about it, it's the perfect excuse, he gets ass on the side then when he's through he tells them he likes the other girl he's dating better.
Stop whining, mmmkay? He's leaving someone else for you, mmmkay? Be happy, mmmkay?
#56 - On 11/14/2009 at 1:01pm by Igotthepoint
Wonderful that he's breaking up with his bottom bitch for you, but at the same time... he had a bottom bitch to begin with :U
#58 - On 11/14/2009 at 1:05pm by failuristic
ok he cheated on you but it was a one night thing so he has feelings for you so just forget about it he must be sorry so be happy toghtger v
#62 - On 11/14/2009 at 1:59pm by lolhahahahhahaaa
Hey! At least he dumped the girl he was cheating on you with! You won!
#66 - On 11/14/2009 at 2:18pm by SilverStrs5
so in this modern day and age were no one can stay together and most people cheat on each other your complaining the your boyfriend is moving out of the majority and becoming a faithful boyfriend? you shouldnt be complaining lol your luckier than most women
#67 - On 11/14/2009 at 2:30pm by pyroanarchist23
talk to him about it but stay with him but you need to watch him more..if he loves you then he'll stay faithful this time..
I fail to see why people think she should stay with him because he "loves" her. A lot of people cheat and still claim to love their significant other and say they don't care about their lovers on the side. Whether this is true or not is irrelevant what is relevant is their "love" still doesn't keep them from cheating.
Also, if the OP was dating the guy for 3 years you have to wonder how long he's been cheating.
i dnt get it, he was cheatin on u but u found out tht he luvs u. just confrnt him bout it. it reely doesnt suk tht bad.
#77 - On 11/14/2009 at 4:13pm by bobbt32294
But you're Julie! Oh, just be glad you won. I mean, what are the chances it would work out anyway, being that he's a cheater and all. From my vantage point, you turned out to own his heart, but you're too good for him. Stick that one in your back pocket for when you're old. :)
Haha, that's too bad for his cheating, lying ass. Dump him.
#79 - On 11/14/2009 at 5:30pm by DameGreyWulf
Maybe you're schizophrenic and this is part of your therapy. The message was intended for the OTHER Julie.
#86 - On 11/14/2009 at 9:40pm by FerrariCake
I bet he was thinking about you the whole time.
Go get tested.
Just out of curiosity, what gift did you receive for your first- year dating anniversary?
#90 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:30am by thighsofglory
I won't say cheaters never stop, but he "thinks [he's] falling in love with [you]?"
After 3 years, he "thinks?"
This is a line he's feeding his little thing on the side.
I mean, sometimes people cheat. People make mistakes, get desperate, and god willing, come clean when they come to their senses, regardless of who they choose in the end.
But that right there is a load of shit.
#94 - On 11/16/2009 at 12:07am by FoundManyLemons
For those that say he's an idiot for taking 3 years to decide he *thinks* he's falling in love, my guess is he's sugar-coating his text to the mistress and he has loved Julie for a while.
#97 - On 11/16/2009 at 5:20pm by chrissy888
Has no-one considered the possibility that this could actually be a misinterpreted /JOKE/? Jesus, Figures the feminist lynch mob and the fake nice guys wanna damn the poor guy before knowing enough to make a fair judgement.
#99 - On 11/17/2009 at 11:22pm by andytheskanker
you get what you pay for. He paid nothing for you (a ring), so one could say you are cheap, or even worthless.
#100 - On 11/18/2009 at 1:33am by COBRAMORPH
thats a good thing. even though hes been cheating on u, he would rather have u then the other girl.
#101 - On 11/18/2009 at 8:58pm by dubbleChic
Forget this punk. These are the guys that make the rest of us look bad!
#102 - On 11/19/2009 at 9:19pm by Josh_Kekac
tell him that your glad hes falling for you cause now hes going to know what hes going to miss for the rest of his life.... and never talk to him again ... and i do mean never even if its years later and you bump into eachother by accident and both of you are married.
Maybe he wanted to get rid of ONE of his other girlfriends and used the 'I'm falling in love with Julie' as a cheap excuse. He lied to you, so he probably lies to his other girls as wel.
I say don't trust this guy.
This is just thin ice all over the place. One end is he has been spending time with another girl the whole time. Another end is that he is admitting to her that he is falling in love with you.
