Today, I proposed to my girlfriend of 4 years. Her response? First, she threw up all over me and then she started crying hysterically. I'll take that as a no. FML
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On 11/12/2009 at 12:36am - love - by youmakemesick - United States (New Jersey)
yeah...
OP should have taken a leaf out of this guy's book:
http://www.fmylife.com/love/5407615
Today, my boyfriend asked me to marry him by handing me a ring and telling me, "Okay we're engaged now." I should have seen it coming when we started dating, I went to his house one night and as I was leaving he said, "Okay you're my girlfriend now." FML
#35 - On 11/12/2009 at 10:39am by IgniteMe28
Nobody throws up just like that. May be she was crying for her throwing up and ruining the proposal. May be she was not feeling well. This is such an important decision of your life and you are letting it ruled by assumptions. FYL
first, why did she throw up?
second technically that wasnt a 'no'.
maybe you just caught her on a bad day...bad timing??
#2 - On 11/12/2009 at 6:05am by cheque_please
hm... mabye this is what she was thinking.
"Today, my boyfirend finnaly proposed to me. Unfortunatly I got so nervous i threw up all over him. I then started crying hysterically, knowing i had ruined the moment i had always wanted."
probably not cuz she didnt want him.
but if this is the case she cracks underpressure way to easy.
#62 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:45pm by imeverywhere
#62 My thoughts exactly.
She threw up due to the stress the proposal caused.
Avoid wives like that, man!
She was probably too overwhelmed with the proposal.. don't be disheartened... She didn't "actually" say no.. Cheer up.. :) propose again and see what your chances are... Good luck
#5 - On 11/12/2009 at 6:13am by vishmir
I'd talk to her about it, sounds like a stress response.
Maybe she had been worried about you asking her for a while? worried you would ask? worried you wouldn't?
and maybe she figured out what you were doing before you asked and got nervous which made her throw up?
The crying hysterically might have been embarassment for throwing up or for another reason.
Maybe she had thsi whole moment built up in her mind and wanted it to be perfect which made her nervous and the crying could be because she thought she ruined it.
you never know unless you talk about it. If she hasnt actually said no then you'll never know.
if you havent talked with her or dumped because of this then you probably shouldnt be married anyway if this is all it takes.
#6 - On 11/12/2009 at 6:15am by killerpenguin247
Correct me if I'm wrong, but don't girls usually cry when they get really happy? Maybe puking and crying are her ways of saying yes. Odd creatures these females are.
Hey that wasn't exactly a full out 'NO' it could have just been like overwhelming happiness, well either that or she was feeling sick and then the shock of getting proposed too was just too much for her stomach.
#10 - On 11/12/2009 at 6:48am by baby_gurl2405
No. This could very well be true. My friends boyfriend of four years proposed. She started crying and had to run outside to throw up. And she had very valid reasons for the reaction.
#49 - On 11/12/2009 at 3:23pm by MonkeySpeaks
that happened to my friend once, his wife ( before she was his wife ) kept puking and stuff
when he proposed to her. dont worry
I'm terribly sorry :(. But the question is .... Why did she throw up?
#15 - On 11/12/2009 at 7:15am by HyperactiveJer
I don't know if I can believe this. it just seems like if this happened you would have had an answer by the time you decided to post this. I'm mean really how many post FML's on the day the incident happens. So yeah if this had happened if would take at least 24 hours before you would come to post and within that time you would have. heard something out of her. but hey I'm not the fake police so whatever
well guess your year is ruined. time to go find a new one
#17 - On 11/12/2009 at 7:18am by hXcsoccerplaya
That doesn't have to mean no, maybe she was sick and thought it was funny that she threw up right when you asked her.
maybe she's pregnant thats why she blew chunks! and the crying? well you just proposed AND then she threw up on you, I don't think the story she wants to tell everyone when asked 'how did he propose?' is ' i vomited all over him when he asked!'
Dude, I am not even going to pass judgement on this one, because we are clearly not getting the whole story.
There are any number of things, completely unrelated to you, that could have been the cause of her "reaction".
#23 - On 11/12/2009 at 8:25am by smackieonassis
I lived in New Jersey for a year. Throwing up and crying hysterically means "yes."
I learned this the hard way when I got lost there and asked a Jersey girl if she knew the way to Bayonne.
I had the same thing happen when I asked a toll worker directions to Trenton. Her name was Jim.
#26 - On 11/12/2009 at 9:27am by Brave_Sir_Robin
Um... she could have already been sick, she could have been so taken aback that she became sick, or perhaps something else (nothing's coming to me at the moment, but there's probably more). Crying hysterically could also be a number of things. It could be more about being taken aback. It could also be elated joy manifested in some strange way, though perhaps not entirely surprising since she did just blow chunks all over you. You won't know until you ask.
Of course, it could be exactly as you say, but to presume that just because it didn't jive with what you expected is completely asinine (unless you have damn good reason). Your story lacks several key components actually be all that understandable. In fact, the only thing that your story would appear to imply so far is that you're a presumptuous asshole and that you don't know when to shut up, else you just might look smart for a change. Considering that, perhaps you really weren't ready to propose yet. Given your general demeanor, she might even deserve someone better than you.
In absence of a legibly sane story teller, I would say that response #1 probably should've been to ask her what's wrong, response #2 should have been to ensure she's okay, and after that, reasonable discussion at an acceptable pace (for her) about what you, she, or the both of you should be doing may have possibly worked. Now quit acting like an ass and either explain yourself or just don't bother at all.
[edit] BTW, if you're curious, I clicked neither FML nor YDI. Want to know why? It's not apparent whether it's one, the other, or perhaps even none.
#30 - On 11/12/2009 at 9:56am by blastvortex
She was probably very overwhelmed by it all and that's how her body reacted. I hope you stuck around instead of just leaving her there like that.
#32 - On 11/12/2009 at 9:58am by BelaLugosisdead
Was she drunk? that may have had something to do with it. and I he was, why th hell would you propose to her in an inebriated state?
she prob was embaressed about throwing up when u proposed that she cried I kno I cried when my fiancee proposed it happens
#34 - On 11/12/2009 at 10:11am by Starfire22
when my husband proposed to me I was so excited that I was crying even though I knew he had been planning a proposal it still took me by surprise. just ask her again don't get too down about it yet.
My sister pukes when she is nervous. And no doubt she could have been crying from both embarresment and happiness. And I am sure you figured out her answer before posting this, at least I would hope you did and did not leave her crying hysterically cause you had to post the FML right this very second.
#38 - On 11/12/2009 at 10:55am by KarasuFyre
So she puked, it happened at an extremely unfortunate moment.. but maybe she cried because she was so embarrassed or ashamed that she threw up when she was proposed to. YDI because this isn't an FML. Be understanding for two seconds.
#40 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:30am by alainaxann
Did she give an answer? Her reaction is actually a natural response, the crying I mean. The puking is s nervous response that doesn't necessarily indicate a "no". Unless she actually said no, I would consider this, if not a clear "yes", a very definite "maybe". Give her some time to take it all in.
You know, that's why you don't propose to drunk women. Try and wait until they're sober. That way they're less likely to puke, and you'll get a yes or no answer.
Just a thought.
Something made her throw up . . . was she drunk? Had she eaten mushrooms? Is she sick? She thought her moment was ruined--I would have said "It's all right, I still [repeat proposal]."
Ok. This happened to my best friend. Her boyfriend of yrs proposed. She cried and threw up amd it most definitely was a big NO. Why? Her now ex was irresponsible. He was in debt from school and she was starting med school. The debt itself was enough to put strain on a relationship bu they were having problems already. The relationship was already going downhill. His solution was to go even further into debt, buy a ring a propose. The same month he did this he hadn't given her any money for rent, bills, or living expenses. Mind my friend doesn't need a man to take care of her. She's a Dr now. She's ridiculously strng and intelligent. The best person I know. But she needed a man who was responsible. Who she didn't have to take care of. Who could be an equal partner in hhe relationship. He showed more than once toward the end he couldn't. My friend sad she felt a wave of fear amd anxiety that was so intense that she ran outsid to throw up amd then hid crying. Her ex kept trying to push her to reconsider. Which put more pressure on her. She soon after ended the relationship.
Thank god for that. She is now a resident surgeon. She's saved lives. She's saved babies lives And delivered at least fifty via c section. (seriously, she did ob rotations). He ex carries a rock in his pocket amd is still dependent on others. He's even had the audacity to ask for for financial help two years after the incident.
Not to mention for evryine saying girls cry when we are happy? Yea sure well get teary or cry but well be laughing at the same time. Hysterical "this is bad" crying is way different from happy crying.
#51 - On 11/12/2009 at 3:47pm by MonkeySpeaks
Well, what did she say after that? Yes? No? Or did she just leave without explanation and never contact you again?
#48 - On 11/12/2009 at 3:09pm by BritishHobo
Sounds to me like you're targeting the weak young man
#55 - On 11/12/2009 at 4:54pm by ChaplinSnakker
maybe she is pregnant and the baby is from another man so shes cheating on u and was cry cuz u just proposed and shes cheating on u? she screwed up her life if that is so
#56 - On 11/12/2009 at 4:56pm by kagome43210
That still doesn't mean she meant "No". She could've been waiting for the day you propose to her but got too nervous and threw up.
#57 - On 11/12/2009 at 6:28pm by letthemxeatcake
Okay, so...?
I mean, what happened afterward? Perhaps your surprise just stressed her out extremely, or she wasn't feeling well in the first place. Not necessarily a "no."
#59 - On 11/12/2009 at 7:26pm by DameGreyWulf
There's girls for ya! You NEVER know how we'll react to even the best things.
#61 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:19pm by DontLetMeGo
Well, I'd confirm before returning the ring. People tend to puke when nervous or ill, not when offended at a thought of marriage. As for the crying? Again, it could be nerves, either at the horror or the joy of a long-term commitment.
So, ask again. You'll probably get an answer this time.
#63 - On 11/13/2009 at 2:43am by FoundManyLemons
I think it's probably already been siad, but just to say it again and give you even more support: Not necessarily, I once knew a girl who just threw up and cried whenever she was nervous. Being proposed to is pretty big, everyone handles things differently. She might've just been shocked. I know that it probably sounds kinda stupid and unlikely, but I'm serious. It's definitely possible.
#64 - On 11/13/2009 at 5:02pm by swagmotten
She's pregnant!!!!!!!
That explains the puking... and the crying. Maybe she was going to tell you but then you proposed. In that case, fail. Haha.
#66 - On 11/14/2009 at 12:16am by Srain
This is how it works: When he proposed, it was like saying "I'm not really Zac Efron, I'm Bobby Lee from Mad TV" and his GF barfs all over him.
#67 - On 11/14/2009 at 12:18am by UberDeserved
She was probably drunk at the time. So if that's true YDI. Probably cause no one would agree to marry you sober :P?
she's probably pregnant. the same thing happened to me when my boyfriend proposed right before i told him.
#73 - On 12/06/2009 at 9:27pm by lifesucksmoveon3
