Today, I found out my boyfriend was crushing on his best friend. When I found out I asked him about it. He replied. "Don't worry babe, she is perfect and way too good for me". FML
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On 11/12/2009 at 12:09am - love - by Kittykatkrunch (woman) - Australia (Victoria)
I am sorry, but your boyfriend sounds like an insensitive jerk! That's so rude! He doesn't deserve you if he's like that.
you both have issues.
He has issues for thinking anyone is better than he is (though with comments like that who knows maybe he's right)
and you for putting up with that, if you stay with him without discussing the issue then your saying your not good enough to have a decent bf and your not as good a person as this friend he was hitting on.
#7 - On 11/12/2009 at 6:29am by killerpenguin247
ydi for not being as good as his best friend :P i did accidentally click ydi on this, so i guess i need to justify it somehow...
#8 - On 11/12/2009 at 7:00am by organisedchaos
Ouch, that stings. But if you want to look at the silver lining, crushing on someone else while you're in a relationship is not uncommon and if he feels like he can talk to you about it, he obviously feels very comfortable with you. He probably just didn't think about what he was saying, as he was trying to get out of the situation without insulting either you or your friend. Didn't work too well though, haha.
I HATE THE WORD CRUSH!
Unless it's being used to describe something losing structural integrity under pressure, anyone else???
#10 - On 11/12/2009 at 7:15am by QuentinM95
Yeah, but crushing? That's even worse than just saying crush.
#48 - On 11/12/2009 at 8:49pm by 8trickster8
well he does not respect you. there's the first problem. second he most likely shows it but you stay anyway.
i actually said i wasnt good enough later. and he is like she is just someone i cant get.. and i still have no clue how i managed to get you..
#47 - On 11/12/2009 at 8:28pm by Kittykatkrunch
Well, yeah it was insensitive for him to say that. But really, there's probably some truth to what he's saying... the best friend is most likely way out of his league, so it's not really like she's a threat to the incumbant girlfriend.
You two losers ought to settle for each other.
People make themselves miserable when then keep thinking that they have a future with people that are out of their league. When you are a 6 and your best friend is a 10, you're not going to hit that regularly. Look in the mirror, admit that you are a 6 and find another 6 to pair off with. Jeez.
If she's too good for him then you are too. In fact, kicking is too good him. You can see where this advice is heading, can't you?
#21 - On 11/12/2009 at 8:57am by wellinever
I would tell him " I'm sorry I just figuredout that I also am to good for you" and dump his ass or at least make him suffer a littl. my advice? get a coach purse outta his ass ;D
#23 - On 11/12/2009 at 9:54am by Starfire22
before the comments come in yes I kno I'm a bitch at times but I can at least admit that I have bitchy tendecies most girls do get over it
#24 - On 11/12/2009 at 9:56am by Starfire22
Edit button?
And your comment was all well and fine minus the "get a coach purse outta him"
word of advice: being a bitch is ok, being a greedy selfish bitch is really stupid.
#29 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:03am by KarasuFyre
At least he lowered his standards, because if he didnt you would be single.
#26 - On 11/12/2009 at 10:14am by donkey_hang_down
Hey, at least I kno how to get stuff, not implying to do it ALL the time but in instances such as the OP's if it was my guy, shopping spree all the way. At least I'm honest about it. AND it sure helps train the fiancée on thinking before he says something inconsiderate.
#30 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:23am by Starfire22
why would anyone want to marry someone as blatantly selfish and controlling as you?
oh well, it's his life...
I bet you know how to get a shot on the face too huh?
#33 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:59am by donkey_hang_down
O you misunderstand, he gets what he wants and I get what I want it's a very giving relationship. There is no selfishness on any of our parts.
#37 - On 11/12/2009 at 12:39pm by Starfire22
Heh, I understand what that's like. My boyfriend loves this other girl and when we get into fights about it he just tells me it really doesn't matter that he loves her because she would never get with him. Oh and he calls her his wife...
#32 - On 11/12/2009 at 11:58am by bubbles4me
You and the OP need to get out of those relationships. Don't let yourself be someone's second best, because there's someone out there who will see you as their best, period. I was in a relationship with someone who was in love with someone else, and was admittedly willing to give me up if it meant having her. I felt like a piece of trash for awhile, then I pulled on my big girl pants and got out of that relationship.
Since then, I got into a relationship with someone who loved *me* for *myself*, not because it was the best he could get. It'll be 4 years this month, I'm moving in with him, and I really couldn't be happier. If I didn't get out of that first relationship, who knows where I would be now. You might feel lonely without someone, and you might not meet someone else right away, but you need to learn to be happy with and by yourself.
#39 - On 11/12/2009 at 5:09pm by foolsangel
I'd really like to know why guys think that will make a girl feel better about the situation. It's more a slap in the face than anything, and I don't want to date a guy that sees me as the girl he has to settle for.
Some people really don't know how to speak.
Poor guy probably had his trains of thought crash while trying to think of a way to get him out of the situation AND please you at the same time.
There were no survivors.
#45 - On 11/12/2009 at 8:02pm by DameGreyWulf
thats so messed up if he thinks shes to perfect and to good for him then he must look at you like your not perfect to him when the best thing abut a girl is her inperfections !! so its better to be inperfect then perfect so yea
#51 - On 11/12/2009 at 9:37pm by tayxbabiex3
you can do soo much better than him! this is gonna sound harsh, but move on! he needs to realize how great of a girl he is has already. im so sorry that he's such a jerk.
#52 - On 11/12/2009 at 10:06pm by southerngal34
wow... same thing happened to me except my bf liked MY best friend. Believe me i learned things the hard way... get out. my boy friend ended up dumping me for my (ex) best friend... which is also when i found out about their secret relationship during the whole 2 years we had been together. and he had continuously told me there was nothing at all... that i was the only girl that he wanted to marry (yeah... right). at least yours told you i guess which is maybe good. there is nothing in a relationship when you know your significant other likes someone more. i was not happy at all and there was no trust (for good reason it turned out). i dont' know... maybe i'm just being pessimistic... take the chance if you believe in him... either way good luck to ya. i understand completely.
#53 - On 11/12/2009 at 10:08pm by CathyAMR101
Ok, when situations like this come up, this is when a good sludge hammer comes handy, because when he is asleep you take it and slam it right below his nuts and tell him that if he ever says that again, next time you won't miss....and people say I'm a cruel basterd...I would think not, I would much rather take a soup ladel and castrate him, but thats just me XD
#55 - On 11/13/2009 at 4:28am by bikeduster
Thats why you don't date a guy who's best friend is female, idiot.
#56 - On 11/13/2009 at 11:39am by jemmalou86
i sincerely hope you are not still together.
that's just wrong.
#57 - On 11/13/2009 at 11:50am by princessjane
we are... she kind-of stopped talkin to him past few days..
#58 - On 11/13/2009 at 6:13pm by Kittykatkrunch
I went through this exact situation (minus the annoying sentiment).
In my situation, it never got better. He's not worth it.
#60 - On 11/14/2009 at 9:06pm by kendramarie95
Damn! that sure makes him one Good ass bf.
cuz i tell u this rite now.. I WOULD NEVER TOUCH NE ONES NASTY LICE
