Today, my boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me in a text message. Then I found out from a mutual friend that he "came out" and told everyone at our school that he is gay. He has known he was gay for years and he was just using me as a cover up. What a great way to start my senior year. FML
I agree, your life sucks (20047) - you totally deserved it (2316)
On 11/09/2009 at 11:02pm - love - by amanda_ae_erin (woman) - United States (Georgia)
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You guys were together that long and you're just going to be a senior? Did you two never have any intercourse?
... Wonderful to see that nine to ten year olds are declaring themselves in a relationship and fucking each other by the swingsets :D
Sorry OP, but... really, 7 years? I hope this is college, even if the wording sounds like high school >>;
#75 - On 11/10/2009 at 5:51pm by failuristic
You're his beard and, most likely, he's your skirt. Welcome to 2009. <:
#2 - On 11/10/2009 at 3:26am by caancoha
Okay, senior in college then you were what 14/15 when you started dating. If you are in high school then you were eleven. I am not saying that love cannot last that long (though this might prove it does not last) but if you were that young when you started dating then you can't have known what love really is, you were never challenged, you never went through those key stages of liking other people. Which I think is important to deciding if who you are with is the one, having that to compare. But, I think this relationship sunk long ago is you did not know he was gay for YEARS.
Did him taking your clothes not key you in. LOL. Kidding. But if he did not feel free to tell you this, thinking you would understand or he felt like he could use you, well it makes you seem really easy.
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That sucks!! U must be hot. Gay guys only want good looking pretend GFs :) It makes a better cover, u see. They r v picky! But i have to admit, that's got to be one of my worst nightmares! ughh, what can u do? u don't have the right equipment to begin with.
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If they're not attracted to females, how would they be able to tell if one is hot?
By seeing whether or not they have spontaneously combusted.
#20 - On 11/10/2009 at 4:15am by allmidnighteyes
@18: Doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, you can still tell if someone is attractive or not...
#25 - On 11/10/2009 at 6:48am by kevind23
@18 - can't you tell if a member of the opposite sex is attractive? just because you don't personally find them "hot" it doesn't mean you can't acknowledge their aesthetic value.
You know people might not think you were some 14 year old pretending to be straight when he isn't and being embarrassed about it. (Being gay is not something to be ashamed of.) Using real words, instead of stupid slang that no one understands, makes your argument that much more potent. So cur, stop being a jackass and learn how to write, and think.
:) point taken. My advise to you is to chill F out. Save this pent up aggression for something more appropriate. You will live longer. I assure you.
Yeah, #18, I have a hard time believing that you don't know when another guy is attractive. You don't have to go "OOOO hot damn that's nice!!" but you still can tell. I know when I see a pretty girl, I hate her :) haha
#73 - On 11/10/2009 at 5:01pm by Sun_Kissed18
omghehe, some people have no lives therefore they treat websites like FML as their life. they take it upon themselves to police the website, and think correcting grammar makes them elite and witty. when in reality, people who have lives use correct grammar in the situations where it actually matters (school, work, etc) and don't take grammar on insignificant humor websites seriously. so just feel sorry for people like her.
#82 - On 11/10/2009 at 8:02pm by expen_dable
tiancai - seriously?? I'm a straight woman but I can tell when another woman is good-looking or not, so why wouldn't a gay guy be able to? Geez, he's gay, not BLIND. I can tell if someone's attractive even if I'm not sexually attracted to them.
You should have known when he didn't fuck you in that 7 years..
#12 - On 11/10/2009 at 3:43am by WonderBlunder
theres obviously something wrong with you
if after SEVEN years of being with him you didnt realize he was gay
#13 - On 11/10/2009 at 3:47am by melissa_10
It has nothing to do with flamboyance. If they dated for 7 years (and hopefully she means senior in college), she should have noticed. I'm guessing that even if they did have sex, he wasn't all "into" it... seeing as he's gay.
I'm not saying she deserves it, but I don't see how she wouldn't have noticed something being weird in their relationship after so many years.
Not all guys glitter in the sunlight, I mean unless he says, "My name is Edward Cullen" then it is likely he was able to hide his vamp--homosexuality from the world.
Being in a relationship for doesn't mean that they would necessarily have sex, though. Therefore, point is invalid. Some people don't want to until their married. That's nothing new or strange.
#79 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:23pm by quicksilver
7 years? so u started dating him when u were what, 10? Ugh. and all this time you didnt realise? YDI for being stupid and weird
#14 - On 11/10/2009 at 3:53am by IMB916
Still FYL because it would suck to just find out now your boyfriend was gay...
But wtf SEVEN YEARS? AND in high school? It's not ever worth that
So you two have been dating since elementary school? I call bullshit on this one.
#28 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:36am by turdburgers
#31 When these are posted does not reflect when they were submitted.
#33 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:57am by waterynuggets
at least he told you now so you might actually get to finish high school dating someone who's NOT gay.
#30 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:43am by mizanonymous
=( YDI for being a liar, liar face. I call super BS on this one if its true then YDI for dating someone when you were 10/11. =/
#34 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:57am by Kickmehard
Because in college you don't go around "telling everyone in school." Everyone is in different buildings at different times for the most part and hardly ever cross paths unless they are in a class together, the student union or a student organization.
If this is in fact about college, the OP is sort of creepy and immature to go around telling everyone that he's gay. Just join the freaking common ground group.
#39 - On 11/10/2009 at 9:02am by just_me_tmp
If you started dating him at 10 years old, you can't really complain that he wasn't in touch with his homosexuality. It takes time to fully accept/realise it - he really wouldn't have had a clue at that stage. So yeah, it sucks, but YDI. Didn't you realise in 7 YEARS after he had not shown any physical attraction/affection towards you?
To all who say "you should have realized before": it's not that easy to tell. Don't you remember the numerous FMLs here where people complain that everyone around thinks they are gay, while they aren't?
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Aw. Don't worry, you're young. By the time you're done, you will have turned a lot of guys gay.
While it is generally believed that most gay people are born that way, there exists the possibility that there are women with whom sex is so disgusting and unpleasant that otherwise straight men suddenly prefer butt-sex with other smelly, sweaty, hairy men.
You must be one of them.
o wow that sucks but there wasn't ANY hint that there was something off in your relationship? I had a couple good friends in highschool who I knew well for years and when they finnaly came out I was never surprised because you can just tell :/ or did your seven year relationship consist of kissing in between classes and rarley seeing each other outside of school?
#45 - On 11/10/2009 at 10:12am by Starfire22
Why should she "swallow her feelings" and support him after he used her for 7 years? A jerk like that doesn't deserve anything from her.
coming out is hard. some people don't do it until after they're married with children. although being gay is becoming more and more accepted by society in general, coming out is still a terrifying process to go through. Yes, it sucks for you, but try to be supportive for him. Likely you're one of his best friends and friends are what he needs right now.
#46 - On 11/10/2009 at 10:48am by gregumsdagreggy
EXACTLY I'm glad someone else knows what the REAL FML situation is. I mean yeah you just got heartbroken but you have no idea what it's like for him. Actually you should be proud of yourself that he chose you (most gay men in denial will find the "hottest" girl to use as his cover up). So yeah, don't blame him, blame homophobia! There will be many saved heartbreaks if society didn't shun homosexuality.
7 years and you never picked up on a single sign that your boyfriend was a little light in the loafers? Sorry, but YDI for being so oblivious. Even the most manly gay guy out there still looks at guys.
#47 - On 11/10/2009 at 11:11am by TheTruth1428
I am gonna assume you were in high school since he told everyone in school.
While normally I fight for the people who have been together for years and years and one of them decides to break up so they can experience being with othe people...you should have broken up way before this.
Dating the same person through middle school and high school is kinda cute, but overall not how you should experience life. Personally I think the heartbreak and crushes and "Falling in love" is essential for later in life. Plus it's better for comparing potential partners, you have a better idea of what you like and don't like in a relationship, because everyone is different.
Now havin said all of that: you are a bitch, he comes out and you run to complain on FML. He was not datin you purely as a cover, if you started dating at 10 years old he more than likely didn't know he was gay. Maybe he figured it out recently, or finally admitted the truth to himself. You should be right there loving and supporting him not being completely selfish and acting like he ruined your life.
#50 - On 11/10/2009 at 12:14pm by KarasuFyre
Why does everyone seem to think that his feelings are more important than hers? She feels angry and hurt and betrayed, because he used her for at least a good portion of the 7 years they were dating. If she feels he is not worthy of her friendship after all that, she has every right to just walk away.
Apparently being a homosexual gives you a free card to use and dispose of people with blatant disregard for their feelings. If he was so concerned about his sexuality then he should have remained single instead of USING her as a cover up. =/ He could have told her and asked for her help to keep his secret but he didn't. He lied to her for 7 years.. that's if this is true which I don't believe it is. But there are cases like this which are and my statement applies to those.
#59 - On 11/10/2009 at 2:08pm by Kickmehard
Its not that bad, you guys weren't even married. It happens to alot of people, your not alone. one day you will look back at it and laugh.
you're in high school, you dont know what love is and its better you know he's gay now that to catch him pounding another man in the ass when you go to visit him in college next year
YDI for considering something you started with someone at 10 years old a real relationship.
Is anyone else sick of seeing all these dramatic posts from little kids? I know, I know... I choose to read it, so its my fault, blah blah... but really, I swear there weren't that many of these stupid ones when I started reading the entries on this site. Oh well.
OP- one day, though it may be many years from now, you will realize this was never "love" and is really not a big deal. There are many worse things to encounter in life, and you will laugh someday over this melodrama.
#57 - On 11/10/2009 at 1:04pm by everydayisFML
Aaah yes, the old "my boyfriend is gay" tale... A staple FML anecdote indeed. I was wondering when the next one would come along, and here it is.
Incidentally, didn't you ever wonder why he only ever rooted you from behind with a blindfold on? And insisted on calling you Darren?
You must have been pretty terrible at being a gf, to turn him against women forever.
Fuck your life, and fuck you.
Never waste 7 years of your life being in a relationship in high school/ college! Go out and have fun.
Seven years and you couldn't tell you were both checking out guys? Whatever.
#61 - On 11/10/2009 at 2:28pm by TylerDurdenUMD
As other people said... senior year of high school means 17/18. So you were 10/11 when you started, which is fifth grade.
Senior year of college is better, and then that's about sophomore of high school you started dating, but if it was since middle school, wow. I wouldn't have expected it to last until high school. Just the way it's written, the entire schooling knowing, screams to me high.
Still sucks, though.
EDIT: But as someone else said. Seven years and you didn't have any inclination what-so-ever?
#62 - On 11/10/2009 at 2:31pm by babylon_pride
Is it possible he wanted to keep her away so bad he just told everyone he was gay?
#65 - On 11/10/2009 at 2:55pm by CallMeHush
Wow the exact thing basically happened to me last year. it was only about a year, but it was a text and everything. don't listen to people, you didn't "turn" him gay, and it's not your fault for not knowing. if he had only known for a few years how could you know? people generally assume their significant others are of the correct orientation. try not to blame him too much for leading you on, it's really hard to come to terms with that, although you do have a right to be angry.
There is a ridiculous need for the OP to post whether or not its senior year of HS or college. Two very different things.
#70 - On 11/10/2009 at 4:08pm by Brooklynxman
It's pretty obvious that it's college genius. Together for seven years seems to be a dead give away. Unless you honestly think they could have stayed together since elementary school.
"Everyone at school" sounds like high school to me, although age-wise, college makes more sense. But then again, this doesn't sound like it was a particularly "normal" relationship, so maybe they were together since age 11.
That really sucks, but it must suck a lot for him, too. Think about all those years of hiding because society doesn't accept who he is. I'm not saying he's not guilty or didn't hurt you - he certainly is - but he's been through a lot too.
That sounds like an awesome way to start your senior year! You're too young to be in such a long-term relationship anyway. Have fun! Get to know yourself better. Fall in love again! I bet you don't even remember what that feels like. This is TOTALLY an opportunity to turn lemons into lemonade.... and throw in some sweet tea vodka while you're at it. ;-)
#77 - On 11/10/2009 at 6:39pm by blackandgold
YDI for dating him since u were 10 years old... he probably didn't know what sexual orientation is back then!
#78 - On 11/10/2009 at 6:55pm by lebrockshard
the same thing happened to me!! except we weren't dating for that long
#80 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:37pm by olivecami101
Seven years and you didn't notice? Seriously? What, did you not talk to him? Did you know him at all? Dude, YDI.
#81 - On 11/10/2009 at 7:57pm by containsnosoy
LOL. Great big, dirty beard. But I sympathise with you.
#83 - On 11/10/2009 at 8:12pm by postaltubealex
haha. amanda erin light. what a coincidence i was scrolling through these and found it.
let me clear some things up, since its about my best friend.
1. it was not 7 years. you officially dated for a total of MAYBE 2 years, on and off.
2. he broke up with you 2 months ago. nice try.
i know it must feel bad, and i deffinitly feel for you. BUT, there is no reason to exaggerate
to get attention on a website from thousands of people you dont know honey.
its immature. and yes, im calling you out.
i think its funny you deleted my wall post about it. since youre so proud and stuff
of your little story.
haaa, wow.
annakd :]
Shouldn't you have noticed REALLY soon???
When I was 10 I could tell when someone was gay wearing pink shirts and doing the Beyonce haha.
I mean, shouldn't you have noticed when he didn't give you hugs or anything?
#86 - On 11/10/2009 at 9:37pm by scateice
they didnt start dating when they were ten. they dated for a bit in ninth grade. and this year. and a couple weeks in between. come on amanda, get your story straight girly. youre makin yourself look stupid.
Wow, op I really hope you mean your senior year in college...
#91 - On 11/10/2009 at 11:42pm by fmlanonymous_00
A guy in high school did this to me, but it only lasted months. 7 years seems ridiculous.
#92 - On 11/11/2009 at 12:05am by pittstonjoma
This happened to someone I know. =-/ It worked out for her though, she got a hotter, smarter, nicer STRAIGHT man and the guy who had been using her for cover got no one. :)
#93 - On 11/11/2009 at 6:48am by startafire
i dont know if your making this up or not but if your serious can you think about him and how scared he was to tell anyone that hes gay before you go on this site (this goes for anyone) and think about the other person and how their situation is before you think your life is worse than theirs
#94 - On 11/11/2009 at 12:54pm by Listen2Music
this happened to me, he cheated on me with my best friend and a guy. fMl lol
#95 - On 11/11/2009 at 6:55pm by hmdixobn91
I'm not American, but from my exposure to American culture, I associate the term "senior" with highschool. Therefore, I'm assuming you've been dating this guy since you were 11 or something? That seems a bit of a stretch.
What a jackass! I'm sure you're too good for him anyway.
#100 - On 11/15/2009 at 4:31am by bored_person
