Today, I found out I'm sterile. My wife and I have three kids: 14, 11, and 4. FML
I agree, your life sucks (46896) - you totally deserved it (1705)
On 09/26/2009 at 10:06am - love - by bitchplease (man) - United States (South Carolina)
oh wow this is just wrong!!!! 14? wow... maybe u become sterile after the kids???
#1 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:39pm by princesni
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? The guy who posted the story is the one who's sterile.
#30 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:11pm by dedcircuit
the chances of him becoming sterile after having the kids are not very good... unless he suffered some sort of accident, but he would remember that
though it is possible to become sterile in... unobtrusive ways. (ex. excessive smoking can cause it)
#34 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:14pm by irishfever
im like pretty positive their yours. she would have to lead like 2 lives to cheat on u for so long
#41 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:27pm by CaymanIslands546
it's possible you became sterile after the kids were born. i'd get more information from your doctor before accusing your wife of infidelity, just to be on the safe side. and if the kids really aren't your biologically, please don't hold that against them. just think, if you had known all along you were sterile, what would you have done? probably gotten a sperm donor, right? hell, maybe that's what your wife actually did (as opposed to sleeping with someone). if you had difficulties conceiving, she might have figured out your sterility before you did, and gotten the insemination without your knowledge so as not to hurt your feelings.
#42 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:28pm by diet_otaku
@42. I agree with you untill the end. Why would the wife just go off and do something like that without telling him first? Thats a pretty big decision to make alone. I'm sure the OP would have liked to know that they kids weren't really his even if it hurt his pride a little. Besides, thats a HUGE lie to tell 3 times over 14 years.
#51 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:26pm by Sun_Kissed18
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sperm donor ... fucking another guy? wats the difference? they're both cheating if the OP didn't know another man's 'fluids' were entering his wife-no matter the procedure-coitus or no coitus! lol
anyway can't believe there hasn't been a Maury Povich reference yet so here goes...
OP.... You are....NOT the father! FYL!
#57 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:46pm by FuckMyLyphe
This. The kids are yours in every way that matters, so please don't hold it against them. Plus, you don't know how long you've been sterile or anything else about the whole situation. Get some tests done before you make a life-altering move for you and your kids.
#78 - On 09/26/2009 at 5:17pm by pope_suburban
Why does it matter? Sure she might have cheated but at least OP has children. I understand and am not condoning cheating, and we do not know why OP is popping blanks, but he does not say how long they were married for before 14 popped out. Maybe they were married young, or OP met his wife right after she got out of a bad relationship and they married quickly. Or they were married for multiple years before OP's wife/ex wife/mother of his children?? sought out another man because she wasn't having a child---actually those all sound horrible.
#81 - On 09/26/2009 at 5:25pm by RubixMonkey
just asking, but does being sterile mean that there is ABSOLUTELY no chance of having a kid? or does it just mean that it's really really low?
#85 - On 09/26/2009 at 5:57pm by the_stereotype
Sterility is meant to imply there's no chance, but there are ways to get over it and sometimes it does happen anyway... Nothing's for sure anymore these days!
Anyway, the sterility could have happened after the kids. There are things that can cause it without your knowing... Definitely check with the doctor.
Like others have said though, if they aren't yours, don't hold it against them. You raised them, that makes you their dad, even if you aren't related.
... in fact, along that "nothing's for sure" line, there COULD be possibility of mistake, and he's NOT sterile. Oh man what now this is getting HEATED
#89 - On 09/26/2009 at 6:42pm by DameGreyWulf
#42 and any1else who says he may have become sterile after they were born need to go talk to carlos mencia
#41- Do you really like, think that like, they could seriously like, be his?
#121 - On 09/27/2009 at 2:41am by mystomachurts
#59- aaannd who has said any different? have you not read all the comments properly?
#122 - On 09/27/2009 at 2:44am by mystomachurts
yeah, how dare she get preggo, even if she had the kids by the husband who later on became sterile...oh what is the world coming to
Unless its a "Me, Myself and Irene" moment where all his kids are a different race to him.
That would be LOL.
(and tragic. Very tragic. im sorry :'( )
he shld act like he doesn't know, randomly move to georgia, divorce her there.
georgia is the only state that if you can provide proof of infidelity, there is no half n half law
that means you get it all (with certain exceptions) and leave the bitch out on the street..
or so i hear
#155 - On 12/24/2009 at 12:18pm by deathmajestic
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I agree with #7!
#4 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:40pm by FuckMyLyphe
Did you agree with #7 before they even posted? Are you from the future? Whoa...
#17 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:49pm by Hellcrapdamn
This would have been good, except #7 turned out to be a total douchebag. It is good without the context of #7 though.
#24 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:03pm by ForestFire0
It would have been good if it was original. This has been done so many times it's just annoying now, and a waste of space.
Maybe you became sterile in the last few years? It happens.
#5 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:41pm by tomakobriefs
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lmfao u just got pwned bitch LMFAO GET A LIFE
Doesn't really matter if they're his, now. If they were born while he was married to her, legally they're his responsibility now. The law sucks sometimes.
#16 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:47pm by SubAtomicBeauty
yeah, and the shitty thing is that if he tries to divorce his wife then he won't be able to keep the kids.
#67 - On 09/26/2009 at 4:13pm by paivarotti
Well, he is not divorced yet, and he is not banned from leaving the country on account of missing child-support payments, yet. He should talk to a lawyer to find out what he legal options are - but maybe those are not the only ones to consider...
i'm just curious why I'm the only guy thinking about how he can work it over with his wife rather than divorcing her. divorcing is never pretty, and imho, should be for repetitive offence and a refusal to repent
Now I do not know all the different laws in the world but if you are not the biological father so it's not required to take care of? But as I said it sucks the ISF now he is not the biological father.
The law is that after a certain number of years of being presumed to be, and acting in role as, the father, he can no longer get out of the obligation, no matter what a DNA test says. It's for the well-being of the kids, and he is past that time frame.
#54 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:41pm by o0ginger0o
Ok, let me summarize.
Get a DNA test done between you and the three of your kids. They do make a mail-in lab test nowadays (just look for it online)
If you find out your not the father of at least one of these kids, she's been banging someone else. Even if you aren't getting out of your obligation with the kids definitely get a divorce lawyer. I'm pretty sure you'll get a break on the alimony checks. Not the child support though, sorry.
#112 - On 09/27/2009 at 12:28am by TheJawsman
just because you are sterile doesnt mean that you can't have kids. it just means that your sperm count is very low
if youre sterile you cant have kids. and even if his sperm count was just really low, what are the odds of him having 4 kids??
#46 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:54pm by mylifeisfuckedd
There are a couple different ways to be sterile. Low sperm count is just one of them. The sperm could be malformed or there could be a complete lack of sperm in the semen, in which case he couldn't have kids at all.
@OP: Man, that sucks. I usually don't sympathize with these FMLs, but in this case you truly are the victim.
#96 - On 09/26/2009 at 8:00pm by Victoria2103
You're classified as sterile if you're total sperm count is low or if more than a certain percentage of them are malformed (two tails or whatever). That said, it only takes ~100 sperm to get to the egg for one to fertilize it. A man that *only* has 50 million sperm per ejaculation would be called sterile. Obviously the chance of any sperm making it to the egg is very low, but they could get lucky. Sterility isn't 100% unless one's (healthy) sperm count is essentially zero. It could be that the OP is just lucky (or his sperm count dropped slowly to its current level).
I like the monopoly one.... They should make a monopoly game with a sperm bank!!! The game of life!
#35 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:19pm by f_alltheirlives
get a DNA test and if they arn't yours then get a lawyer and sue your wife for leing and for all the money you spent on HER kids
#13 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:46pm by Invisable_No_one
Nope, too late. http://www.canadiancrc.com/Newspaper_Articles/ABC_Duped_Dads_02OCT02.aspx
#56 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:46pm by o0ginger0o
fuck that shit, you just caught this bitch cheating, while you at work shes with some dude tryna get off?! FUCK SLITTING HER THROAT, CUT THIS BITCH'S HEAD OFF.
#15 - On 09/26/2009 at 1:47pm by DirtyDiana
"She's havin' another baby
In a month, and it's yours,
And you find out it isn't cause this bitch has been visitin' someone else,
And suckin' his dick and kissin' you on the lips when you get back to Michigan
So you jet back home
Cause you gon' get that hoe,
When you see her, you gon' bend her fuckin' neck back, yo'
'Cause you love her, you never would expect that blow
Obie told you the scoop, how could she stoop that low?"
Somewhat more appropriate.
#49 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:20pm by freudianego
Get a life? You have the lyrics memorized. You're just as bad as the poster of that comment is.
#52 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:30pm by Hairpastafreckle
While you claim me to be a hypocrite, I was not the one who cited Eminem. I simply said it was foolish and immature to say something like that. When that song came out, who didn't hear it? I was like 14-16. Some things just stay with you.
Who says they have the lyrics memorized? OH MY GOD, THEY RECOGNIZE THE LYRICS FROM A SONG, THEY MUST BE OBSESSED WITH IT. Really? Stfu douchebag.
I believe you said, get a life. And not once did I claim you to be a hypocrite, I just implied it. However, I make it my business to change the song whenever I hear one over and over and over again, that I do not like. You could try it. Just some things to stay with you.
#70 - On 09/26/2009 at 4:20pm by Hairpastafreckle
Wow... some of you people are really insensitive. If I were in that situation, I wouldn't totally screw over the kids. You have a child for FOURTEEN years, and suddenly you disown them. I mean... having kids for that long I can't imagine you wouldn't be attached to them.
Don't be a dick to the kids. It's not their fault. And he's the father, even if it's not biological, he raised them. They're his and I'm sure he loves them.
They're suddenly in a whole new context. It's like you've had a best friend for years, but suddenly find out he killed your father. Not only would you likely have a problem with him, but all the friends of his you met are probably a little tainted too. (Note: this analogy works even better if we assume everyone is a worm, and all of his friends resulted when he chopped up your father.)
#27 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:06pm by ForestFire0
Wow. Because killing someone is TOTALLY the same as having the nerve to be born of an adulterous relationship.
#33 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:13pm by rightsaidred
You are missing the point, the man has been cheated on for over a decade and just found out that his children are not biologically his!
#32 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:13pm by tommygunkid
Exactly. He's upset because his children aren't biologically his. It's not that he feels like he wasted time raising them, and I'm sure he'll love them regardless.
I wish I was born sterile... no worries about getting pregnant. D: And not having to pay for a sterilizing procedure...
They probably ARE your kids, and you probably just recently, within the past few years, went sterile. I hope your kids are smarter than you.
#31 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:12pm by sheheartsthings
In that case, wouldnt you much rather hope its not his children, and thus not inheriting his DNA? But then again, the whole "you are dumb" thing doesnt work and you lose...
#39 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:22pm by f_alltheirlives
They're your kids now. You could probably argue with the judge that by her lying to both you and the children she made a unhealthy home for them, and get custody.
Especially if whoever said that legally they are yours because she had them while you were married was correct.
Of course if everytime you look at the kids now, you see your wife cheating....well.....still, as an adult, it is your responsibility to not let those feelings effect how you treat them.
Anyway, get a paternity test BEFORE leaping to conclusions, as it is possible to become sterile later in life for all sorts of reasons both natural and otherwise.
#36 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:20pm by Brooklynxman
You people are heartless. Don't take it out on the kids. So what if after 14 years he found out they're not his? It doesn't change the fact that he raised the kids as his. Sometimes family isn't always about genetics.
#37 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:21pm by boo_betch_boo
Ok I'm not sure what sterile means. But by the sound of it means a guy who can't have kids because of some sperm malfunction. Wow well dude the first thing i would do if i were you would be talk to your wife. If she starts to get defensive ask for a DNA test. Even if she doesn't get defensive ask for a DNA test. The main thing is communication you want to make sure you know those are your children but dont be an asshole to your wife until you find out that information. Because they probably could be your kids and because you disrespected your wife she wants a divorce. Or they could not be your kids and then all hell breaks loose. If they aren't your kids that would suck because you already build a connection with them. Shitty situation Get yourself a lawyer kick the hoe out i would say try to sue but damn you cant be that heartless. Hope there yours my friend. OR better yet hope they aren't maybe you can start over a new cool fun life by yourself. who knows.
#45 - On 09/26/2009 at 2:53pm by ithedarkone
BURN THE WITCH
(might be good to investigate moar before you're like "lol slut" and she's like "lol divorce" and it turns out you're a jackass)
There are many explanations for the 3 kids of yours--perhaps you became sterile recently, but weren't before? Perhaps your wife went to a sperm bank (that is, she knew you were sterile after no kids popped out, didn't want to humiliate you, and got a donation)? And even if they have no DNA of yours, you cannot turn your back on them! Why would you want to? You raised them, you cared for them...if they do have another "Daddy" (that is, if your wife really did cheat, and not use a sperm bank), where is he? Whomever the other father might be, he didn't do his duty as a father to those kids. You must be the better man, and continue to do yours. When they excel at school, sports, or whatever, remember that it was you who brought them up. Those kids look at you (not another guy) and credit YOU for helping them towards their accomplishments. Regarding your wife--have you had a happy marriage with her (up till now)? Has she been a good mother to YOUR children (they are YOURS after all, no matter whose DNA is in their cells)? You only just found out that you were sterile recently, that means that most likely you never suspected anything prior. Even if she might have cheated on you, she must have always treated you well. It's highly likely that she truly loves you. I wouldn't worry about it. Que sera, sera.
#48 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:15pm by whererthefriends
Well that WOULD explain why one is black, one is Hispanic, and the other is Asian.
#50 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:25pm by Chicostick
oh wow that really really sucks.
TIME FOR DNA TESTING:)
#53 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:38pm by ohshit_kristen
Just because you're sterile now doesn't mean you were sterile 4 years ago were you?
#55 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:44pm by Dragonmouth
I agree with the people that said you don't know that were ALWAYS sterile. And, like I've said on a couple other posts, the DNA legally doesn't matter at this point. http://www.canadiancrc.com/Newspaper_Articles/ABC_Duped_Dads_02OCT02.aspx
#60 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:49pm by o0ginger0o
love your name
and maybe you even was sterile b4 or after them kids
#61 - On 09/26/2009 at 3:49pm by bre_zip_it_up13
if it were me, i'd divorce the wife (assuming they're not actually yours) and continue to raise the kids.
Well, I'm glad you all know that the lab that tested for fertility would never ever have accidentally switched the test results.
It sucks to hear that, but once you get over teh shock, please question everything - not only your wife.
LOL, that's so weird.
I'm 11 and I have a sister who is 14, except my younger sister is 9
hehe.
Anyway, you could have just become sterile recently.
So don't bitch all in her face until you know all the evidence.
You should have asked her about it and then posted the FML so we wouldn't all be guessing
#64 - On 09/26/2009 at 4:01pm by scateice
Who says he "bitched all in her face?" No one.
And if he asked her about it and resolved the issue then this wouldn't be on FML to begin with.
I didn't say he did, I'm just saying he shouldn't be mad at her before he knows the whole situation.
As in, right after posting this, he yells at her for this when it might've not been her fault. I'm telling him not to in the FUTURE, get it?
#75 - On 09/26/2009 at 4:47pm by scateice
Then specify so we get it little girl. And why are you one here?
#82 - On 09/26/2009 at 5:26pm by RubixMonkey
If she doesn't know any better, then she shouldn't be on here. If she's going to be on here anyways and play with the big kids, she will be talked to like a big kid.
Yeah I am not going to watch my language because some parent isn't watching their darling. She will learn all the big words anyways. If she wants to go on here then she isn't going to be coddled.
#128 - On 09/27/2009 at 4:07pm by RubixMonkey
OK seriously stop assuming that his wife cheated on him for 14 YEARS! It IS possible that he just became sterile sometime after his last kid things happen and no one really knows if something DID happen and he became sterile. Sometimes people become sterile after a certain age I know a girl who shortly after she turned 21 she was sterile and she wasn't before. She didn't have an accident or anything it just happend. Smae thing coulda happend to this guy. And cheating for 14 years sounds HIGHLY unrealistic if you actually think about it.
For the record, it is not true that it is "Highly unrealistice if you actually think about it." Many people cheat on their loved ones and manage to keep it a secret. Plus, how do you know that she hooks up with the same guy everytime when she cheats (If she does at all). She could have 15 guys on the side that she screws when he is at work.
There are a lot of veriables in this story, so nothing is for sure. She MAY be cheating on him, and she MAY not be cheating.
Stop assuming everybody and focus on the facts.
Lol you guys talk so much crap on this site, and i'm the one who needs to get a life? you guys wait for someone to say something you don't like so you can bash them. And I need a life? ha.
#84 - On 09/26/2009 at 5:30pm by DirtyDiana
You can actually become steryl, so its quite possible that you could have had the kids and then become steryl. (fracaso)
#88 - On 09/26/2009 at 6:40pm by joeydboy123
Those kids think you are their father, they love you. Don't take that away from them. Handle it with your wife, but don't hurt those poor kids.
#92 - On 09/26/2009 at 6:57pm by 110879
I have a question. how after 3 kids you now find out your sterile. That's not something that comes up in a regular check-up. you would have to have to be getting some fertility tests done. So were you and your wife trying for a 4th and having no luck? I'm with most people and saying that it must of happened after your 3rd kids because although possible I really don't see all 3 kids not being yours
judging on his profile pic he hasn't ever REALLY dealt with a woman. Some 17 year old emo tool. can't take anything he says seriously
#111 - On 09/27/2009 at 12:10am by mon_e_mons
so technically it's not 'your wife and your'
it's 'your wife and some other guy's' kids!
#101 - On 09/26/2009 at 9:02pm by Hockeylover87_71
Doctors have been wrong about this sort of thing before. My friend was believed to be sterile and she recently got pregnant. And it wasn't a result of cheating because SHE was believed to be the sterile one! It was a big shock. Apparently, afterwards, they re-examined her ovaries and they said that they STILL can't see how she managed to get pregnant.
I hope it's something like that and not that your wife has been unfaithful.
it is sickening how many women on here are sticking up for and defending the woman in this story. this bitch carried on a lie and misled her husband for 14+ years and women are condoning that type of behavior.
#109 - On 09/26/2009 at 11:49pm by skidbubble
Who's sticking up for the wife? All I see are people saying, don't blame the kids, and, make sure you check all possibilities before jumping to conclusions.
No one was saying that it was okay for the wife to be cheating!
Besides, whenever there's an FML where a woman finds out her husband's been cheating, there's all sorts of comments like, "Don't be a cockblocker" and implying that she was unreasonable to expect him to be faithful in the first place. There's never comments like that when there's an FML when a woman cheated.
I think cheating is despicable whether it's a man who does it or a woman who does it, but the double-standard isn't lost on me.
Wow, man. FYL. The bright side is that you do still have these three kids. Get DNA tests, if they arent yours, get rid of that cheating whore.
#110 - On 09/27/2009 at 12:06am by predatedcow
Now THIS is a FML. All these 'oh i had to wake up early' and 'Oh i peed myself' are nothing, NOTHING. This, THIS is a true FML
#113 - On 09/27/2009 at 12:38am by Neopopulas
You're sterile *now*. Depending on the cause of the sterility there's no reason that it hasn't occured within the last three years or that you're only "legally" sterile because you've got a really low sperm count. FYL for jumping to the conclusion that your wife must be cheating on you.
Dude, a lot can happen in four years, especially if you are older when you married.
#123 - On 09/27/2009 at 4:04am by RubixMonkey
I would do DNA tests on you and your children anyway. The doctor you have now could be wrong regarding your "sterility", the lab could have messed up (quite common), your test could have been mislabeled or your "sterility" could be related to sperm motility and RNA transcription in your sperm. Case in point, my relative fathered three kids, they are biologically his.
Two years after the last one, he found out that the DNA in his sperm fosters transcription errors (i.e. miscarriages) in 2/3 of his pregnancies. The lab handling his in-vitro never bothered to check because he had three healthy children (even though his wife had had about eight miscarriages...) Two hundred and fifty thousand wasted in-vitro dollars later... Just check your kid's DNA, trust me, the people who work at some of these labs are complete idiots and couldn't find their ass with both hands...
Just because you're sterile now doesn't mean you were when you had your kids. YDI for being a moron.
#127 - On 09/27/2009 at 2:23pm by HeroicDude
the nice thing about living in the 21st century is DNA tests like everyone else on here is saying. maybe the lying cheating whore really did not do it for 14 years but you can never trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and does not die!
"maybe the lying cheating whore really did not do it for 14 years but you can never trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and does not die!"
omgeezus! crashmld u have got 2 b the funniest misogynist on FML evar!
#132 - On 09/27/2009 at 6:28pm by FuckMyLyphe
You're not funny.
Everyone's heard that joke.
If you're going to be a misogynistic moron, be original.
#135 - On 09/27/2009 at 9:34pm by Witchcraft
So what? You might've become sterile after your kids were born. It's not like they're infants. Get a paternity test, and if you're not the father, THEN you can freak out.
#133 - On 09/27/2009 at 9:26pm by Witchcraft
crashmld: YOU are what is wrong with the world. f*cking chauvinist.
#134 - On 09/27/2009 at 9:27pm by Redrosesandrain
It's definitely possible that you weren't always sterile. There are dna tests for that if you want to know!!
Don't freak out yet! It's okay!
And don't listen to these assholes, they use this website to yell at people for no reason because in real life they're too scared to say anything to anyone.
Perk up!
#136 - On 09/27/2009 at 10:13pm by onemusicnote
Or maybe you developed an infection that had no outward signs that then caused you to become sterile later on...
you're an idiot.... I guarantee you became sterile AFTER you produced your children... "You can give them books, but some will only eat the pages."
#140 - On 09/28/2009 at 1:08pm by moo_moo_kitty
Oh damn! I'm sorry, hahaha..but I can't help but laugh. Your wife must be a stone cold bitch - but she sure knows how to play the game.
#149 - On 10/04/2009 at 6:10pm by ilikesalad
Total ripoff of the Chaos Theory movie. Unless it's true...in that case you should see that movie!
#150 - On 10/04/2009 at 7:38pm by imacomputer
#2 that was harsh!!! and funny lol high 5 to you
ummm yeah but seriously...on the optimistic side, maybe you became sterile after the kids??
#152 - On 10/18/2009 at 10:41am by poeticvibez07
u smoke weed ? i heae too much can make u sterile. but i dont really know.
#154 - On 12/08/2009 at 1:47am by louie111887
you should get your DNA tested, you know. maybe the doctor exchanged your test with someone else's..you really neverwinter know.
Have you been sterile your whole life? If yes then there is a problem. I'f im not mistaken people can become sterile at any time during their life. Never assume always ask first...
#157 - On 01/10/2010 at 10:00am by metro_mello
