Today, I called back a number I recently missed a call from. To my surprise, it was the number of my boyfriend's fiance (I had no clue). I've been with him 4 years, he's been with her for 6. Turns out, not only is he a cheating jerk, but technically *I'm* the other woman! FML
I agree, your life sucks (40013) - you totally deserved it (2506)
On 07/02/2009 at 9:31am - love - by Anna (woman) - United States (Illinois)
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I'm going to reply to the first post to get my comment on the top, even though my comment has nothing to do with the first one!
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I agree how nieve do you have to be to not realize that he had a whole nother relationship going on? YDI sorry but 4 years and you never once had a clue? Come on
#25 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:52pm by speak_a_da_truth
Well, that's stupid reasoning, because the other woman obviously didn't know that she was being cheated on for four years. So don't judge, because you obviously don't know shit about it.
#27 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:56pm by kscott88
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Kyothine, if you're going to reply to the first comment, at least try to make a comment that's relevant to the OP's statement. My statement is valid because it's attacking Kyothine's.
And before anyone chastises me, I know what the situation was. It's fun to troll sometimes.
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WHY is this an FML???? This is an FHL for shizzle. Look, her life is ten times more fucked. She was engaged with him, you weren't; they were together for 6 years, you were with him for 4. Quit complaining. Look on the bright side-- at least you weren't her.
That's a load of shit. Maybe it's slightly worse for the fiancee, but both the OP and the fiancee got screwed over, and both of them have fucked lives.
And yeah, people who cheat a lot do either get very skilled, or very careless (which is when they get caught). I mean, you don't have 24-hour surveillance on your partner, so you really won't have any idea what they're doing most of the time. It's not OP's fault she didn't know her boyfriend was cheating all this time! He's clearly a very proficient cheater, as he fooled his fiancee too!
I hate cheaters. All these stories you hear about cheaters make you damn paranoid
#75 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:03pm by divineinstrument
I agree completely, lol
I'd rather be the other woman than the woman that's being cheated on
#76 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:18pm by novella0013
i agree with divineinstrument. same thing happened to one of my best friends, except (thankfully) their relationship wasn't as long. her ex went out with her for 2 years, and he went out with ANOTHER girl 2 months after that and didn't tell either one. she wanted to get engaged and even dropped hints, but he told her he wasn't ready yet and proposed to the other girl. when both of them eventually found out, my friend was devastated and it took her several months to get over him.
it doesn't matter who was engaged and who dated the cheating bugger for longer. in the end, both girls are crushed and betrayed and it hurts.
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ur mom sucks some hobos dick
#93 - On 07/02/2009 at 9:52pm by BRBICECREAMTRUCK
for real.... this happened to me last year except i was the fiance. dudes a douchebag. i feel for you, hon.
#106 - On 07/03/2009 at 12:49am by Gillypants
wow.. tat must SUCK!
but that dude must be like.. a legend or something. being able to juggle 2 relationships for multiple years
More like F HIS L. He had a nice thing going on two chicks for THAT long? He deserves a medal, for going 4 years and cheating.
#115 - On 07/03/2009 at 3:29am by El_Jacky_D
Humorizer, your an idiot. He was making the point people just reply to the first message to get theirs seen.
Did he alternate spending the night? How the fuck does that work?
#129 - On 07/03/2009 at 2:02pm by nickyzinks
It should have been easy for him to get caught, actually. He was engaged and had a 4 year side relationship. He was either alternating sleeping at his fiance's and girlfriend's houses/apartments or claiming he was spending the night at his own place. I', assuming he had his own place because he couldn't live with either of the women otherwise the other one wouldn't be able to come over ever. What I don't get, though, is if he has his own place, neither of the women went they? He was with both of them for multiple years, so I would assume each had to have a few things at his place [clothes, toothbrush, make-up, etc], yet neither of the women noticed this stuff? If they never went to his place, then that's even more suspicious.
Either way, this guy is the definition of a scumbag.
#133 - On 07/03/2009 at 9:11pm by sickinlove13
You're pretty close though. Your boyfriend is really good at cheating. I'd review all past board game results.
#2 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:10pm by ForestFire0
Lol yeah he's obviously a great liar. He should be a politician. And I'm Lol-ing at the board game comment not the fact that ur bf has been cheating on two women for at least 4 years. Maybe he has more girlfriends. Didn't either of u meet his family? Are they in on this conspiracy?
#46 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:51pm by ImaBmyLonurTees
yeah he must be really skilled, i wish i was as good at anything as he is at cheating. like, i could come up with a plan but i could never cary it out with enough precision.
I would love it if his elderly parents were in on it. Maybe his dad will still give him high fives whenever either of them left. Ask questions about what it's like, and just generally cheer his son on.
#98 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:13pm by ForestFire0
that indeed would be awesome if the parents were in on it
#110 - On 07/03/2009 at 1:58am by Philthy_02
This is a song ment to the cheating, disgusting old pig of a man: Fuck you, by Lily Allen. Check it out. ..
#121 - On 07/03/2009 at 5:58am by missClumzy
Just out do her in all of the other places like sex n he will dump her n take u up
#5 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:13pm by stringking21
Yes, because that'll heal all the pain and make him a better person... Oh, wait..
#10 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:15pm by SimpleSimon
Reminds me of a guy I once dated...except he had a fiance and about 4 others on the side. The fiance had no clue.
#7 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:14pm by Lindsay46789
He was awesome at lying and had his friends cover for him.
#17 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:25pm by Lindsay46789
Just leave him, you don't wanna be those women that take other peoples boyfriends/girlfriends, do you? Or hopefully, both of you dump him so he learns his lesson.
Leave him. She should leave him too. Maybe you two could become best friends or something.
#12 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:20pm by redbluegreen
Ahaha that happened to me. I'm really good friends with the girl who has my ex-boyfriend's baby - the baby that was conceived while me and the guy were dating.
#29 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:58pm by caticaticati
Ha, it happened to me! The guy is looooong gone, but the girl and I still talk, and we found out about each other almost 5 years ago!
I find it strange that the fiance didn't suspect anything, depends on how often he was with you and how often he was with her I guess...
#13 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:21pm by Nozzanoggin
Duh.... I think she knows that. Thats not what she was questioning.... What the OP was so suprised about and found to be the real FML of the situation is that *she* was the other girl when she had been with her boyfriend for 4 years....
Yeah, I was totally thinking that same thing. God, I hated him. Loud Mouth Tool, indeed.
#28 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:58pm by kscott88
How could you not suspect anything after four years?! Surely there must've been times when things haven't added up. Either you're really gullible and believe anything he tells you, or he's an incredibly good liar. Oh wait... maybe both.
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YDI for having a cheating ass as boyfriend. Choose someone sensible next time, cause not all boys are like that
#23 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:39pm by AntiChrist7
She deserves it for not being psychic and realizing the guy she decided to date was a cheater? Really??
#30 - On 07/02/2009 at 2:59pm by shananigans
He probaly has 2 other women, thats he has been dating for months.
#35 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:17pm by lovelykendra5
Hopefully he loses you and his fiance. Damn cheater..
#37 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:19pm by scorpioserpent
okay well my moms boyfriend was cheating on mymom for so long my mom didnt suspect till someone told her . ... so yeah its kindaa eassy to hide it.
#39 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:25pm by Figureskater_15
That.. is awful.
Anyone can really hide almost anything if they try hard enough.
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how I'd feel. x__x
this man is a cheating god.. to cheat on 2 girls that neither know anything about the other... talent or ignorance idk
That sucks so much. Hopefully she's not mad at you because you didn't know...my ex did the same thing but it was with one of my friends and I found out about it. I tried really hard not to get mad at her because apparently she had no clue, and we directed all our hate towards him.
#42 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:29pm by fangsupKELS
I find that hard to believe unless you never introduced him to any of your friends. :/
to op- Dump him, pronto, and I hope his fiance kicks him to the curb as well!
#99 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:14pm by BLNovelist
She must have not met any of his friends OR family. Friends of boyfriends/girlfriends are iffy, though. I know a few people that have cheated on their boyfriends/girlfriends and their friends covered for them. ick.
#134 - On 07/03/2009 at 9:18pm by sickinlove13
Do you not know any of his family, any of his friends? I know some people claim commitment issues, but for four years? I've been the other woman without knowing, it took me about two weeks to figure out 'oh, he never invites me over to his house' and 'oh, he never stays the night'. There's no way he could have provided a fulfilling relationship for both of you. Jesus women! Expect more!
That's 87,600 minutes dumbass. So what do u deserve for being played like a math-illiterate trick??
#48 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:54pm by ImaBmyLonurTees
Actually, it's 2,102,400. 1460 days times 24 hours in a day times 60 minutes in an hour.
#51 - On 07/02/2009 at 4:15pm by smiller0789
Haha...I love that ninety3 and ImaBmyLonurTees can't do simple math...but smiller0789, technically its 1461x24x60=2,103,840 minutes. Don't forget about leap year!
*claps* for #58 I’m glad somebody caught that, the idiots before you are not only incapable of doing simple math, but also don’t realize that 1 year is actually 365.25 days. This is why every 4 years we add one extra day to that year.
#100 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:18pm by UncleverName_FYL
Nerds > Jocks.
Anyway, yeah, that sucks massively. The guy's obviously a huge asshole, and will die alone. I hope you and the (hopefully ex-) fiance move on and find the true loves of your lives.
How can you say she is an idiot when the OTHER girl did not know either and AGREED TO MARRY THE JERK? HELLLOOO?
#47 - On 07/02/2009 at 3:51pm by always_his
I have to agree with some of the other comments - how does he keep something up like that for 4 years? But hopefully you and the other girl will both dump him and maybe you and the girl will be friends and you can talk about how much of a jerk he is
#49 - On 07/02/2009 at 4:07pm by anonymous2323
YDI for not realizing anything after 4 years. Where does he sleep at night? I can't believe neither of you girls found it suspicious.
either this guy is super smart to o between two women for four years without any issues, or both women are super slow to catch him. four years??? how could that even be possible and you call him your boyfriend? I guess it's just you thinking you're his girl but he doesn't.
you are the other one. she's been with him for 2 more years and they're engaged.
there also is a good change you have an std now.
#56 - On 07/02/2009 at 4:30pm by ericpowpow
She knows she is the other woman...she put it into her fml. That's actually what makes this an fml, the fact that she has been the other woman and didn't know it until recently. Read before you post. Good point though about STI's.
YDI for dating that asshole. Not all boys do that, but you had to pick the jerk, own fault.
#57 - On 07/02/2009 at 4:47pm by AntiChrist7
this makes ZERO sense. the type of guys that pull this kind of shit are exactly the type of guys you would NEVER think would do it. dudes are scumbags. they'd never do ANYTHING to upset you and cause you to do something that could possibly lead to discover his dirty little secret.
#108 - On 07/03/2009 at 12:56am by Gillypants
As horrible and unbeliavable as that sounds, something similar happened to a friend of mine... That's awful I'm sorry.
I can't say YDI because no one deserves to be cheated on, but I must agree that you are very stupid. I can't believe after 4 years when he wasn'tspending the night with you it wasn't raising a red flag, come on!
I bet this guy is a real gem, I would put money on the fact that he is over 250 lbs. (in a bad way).
#62 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:00pm by grindsmygears
i dont know why, but i call bullshit
4 years?! i dont see how it'd be possible to juggle two relationships for that long, and for neither of the girls to notice.
and have neither of them met his parents?! i doubt they'd be all for the cheating thing, but that's just me.
and it seems like they sat there trying to perfectly word this fml for like 2 hours. but, again, that's just me.
#65 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:15pm by shawnarawwwrr
Some people can lead 2 lives successfully for years. My cousin was telling me about someone he knew that was with this guy who eventually died of cancer. When she showed up to the funeral, the wife and kids were there. People are sociopaths and just that good at lying and never being caught (most of the time).
if your the other woman, then he wanted you second which means you're better.
#69 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:34pm by onealhart54
FYL. You're not an idiot for not knowing; you're only an idiot if you didn't break up with him as soon as you find out.
And for everyone asking about how she didn't know, what about his parents, etc., obviously this guy is very good at what he does. I'm sure he was smooth enough to explain away any suspicions that ever came up. I mean, it's not like this sort of thing is unheard of. There have even been cases of guys with multiple families (wives, children, dogs, whatever) who had no inkling of something being amiss.
#71 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:40pm by flidger
If, after 4 years of dating someone, and I haven't met his parents yet, that's a giant red flag. He can't be THAT good at lying. If they lived in the same town, did he openly go out into public with either of them? He can't always avoid going to a movie, restaurant, etc. no matter how good of a liar he is. There definitely had to be hints and neither of the girls noticed.
#136 - On 07/03/2009 at 9:24pm by sickinlove13
he could have been staying at both of their houses every second day or so, so then it didnt seem so suspicious. there are very good ways around that shit
#72 - On 07/02/2009 at 5:41pm by suicide_girl
Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if this story was completely different from his side.
Namely, he and his fiancé are really happy together, this girl is always really close, but the guy and his fiancé both know she's just a friend, but this girl thinks differently...
Maybe the 'missed call' was her asking you to be part of the wedding since you're a close friend?
Oh yeah, really... You went THAT LONG AND DIDN'T SUSPECT A THING!! Lady, you need to remember three things for you next relationship... #1. Keylogger #2. Phone spy software #3. Bodily fluid test kit. I wouldn't recommend that for just anyone, only someone as oblivious as yourself. Good luck, and FYL.
#79 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:34pm by Loveshumboldt
keylogger and phone spy? wtf? who REALLY does that kind of shady shit? scumbags.
#109 - On 07/03/2009 at 12:59am by Gillypants
You dumb fuck, if you couldn't see the sarcasm then you shouldn't be reading the comments. We don't need another uptight bitch on this site picking apart everything we say!
#126 - On 07/03/2009 at 10:33am by Loveshumboldt
okay yes your life is fucked, and yes you are the "other woman"... and I agree with 80, both of you should break up with him. Good luck!!!
#81 - On 07/02/2009 at 6:43pm by bees_08505
Anna --- Been there... F* Him! He'll come back crying... They always do. I bet he's a cop or even a lawyer, damn they can charm da panties off a Nun....
He must be an INCREDIBLY good liar and good at covering his tracks. Four years, holy shit!! If there's a hell, there's a special level reserved for guys like him. I'm so sorry! :(
Well no shit Sherlock, if he's been with her for two more years, you're the other woman! Dump his cheating ass and move on.
Take him to places that they are both likely to go together.
Contact his wife and explain the situation to her and plan malicious revenge.
Oh and then both of you meet and then gang up on him.
Gang fight!
#86 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:38pm by Foodeater133
This is not an FML, this is a HOORAY. You just saved yourself and the fiancee from this guy. Go all Carrie Underwood on his car, put your chin up, and move on.
#87 - On 07/02/2009 at 7:49pm by missaccountant
#78, how is any of that likely? If OP was a close friend, wouldn't she know about the fiancee? Not to mention not be dating the guy.
Wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
your life sucks.
Good luck!
#90 - On 07/02/2009 at 8:21pm by hellogoodbyexo09
I'm so sorry
My dad had a whole separate family for a while (thankfully the kids weren't his) and we had no idea. At least you found out because he married her, and I hope you guys don't have any kids.
#91 - On 07/02/2009 at 9:02pm by Loverfli
Get together with her and plot revenge. He screwed both of you over.
#94 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:09pm by nuthinleft2lose
Yea, I definitely don't approve, but you kinda have to be impressed that he pulled it off for 4yrs.
FYL
#95 - On 07/02/2009 at 10:43pm by realworldready
I feel for you, but WTF? You in a long distance relationship or something? How else do you explain not noticing for FOUR YEARS?
Omg, almost the same thing happened to me! This guy asked me out, I really liked him so I said yes, and like a week later this girl came up to me and asked me if I was dating him. I said yes, and she was like, oh, well did you know that me and him and engaged? I knew about her but I was told she was his ex. Whhattever, I talked to him about it, he denied it, she threatened to jump me, and I dumped him. (:
#101 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:40pm by life_sucks10
im so sorry sweetie! i cant imagine how that feels :( four years of your life wasted...dont worry though, you will get back on track and find someone waaay better
#102 - On 07/02/2009 at 11:49pm by Confuzzled87
Ok, my thoughts:
You: Dumb bitch, I mean how can you not notice some one cheating on you for that long.
The womans life who is truely fucked: You ma'am are dumber than this bimbo.
Man: Dick hole who needs his penis cut off.
And now I am done for the day.
#104 - On 07/03/2009 at 12:03am by What_fut_YADY
This like my worst nightmare... I can't even fathom such a terrible person living. I'm sorry.... there are good men out there and you deserve better! Now the tricky part is trying not to take it out on your next bf (almost gaurenteed to be a much better person)... only the scum of the earth (who should be left alone for the rest of their life) would do this to someone... or a couple people...
That really sucks. And while you probably feel really guilty for it, its not your fault if you truly didn't know.
But in situations like this, no one wins. You feel horrible, and the fiancee feels horrible. You're not alone.
#117 - On 07/03/2009 at 4:05am by maddramaqueen
That guy must be really good to hide it for that long.
#118 - On 07/03/2009 at 4:55am by StopBeingADouche
That sucks.
But I have to give that guy props. Honestly, how did he do? He must be incredible at that type of thing. Bravo, dude, you'll die alone.
You and his fiance should totally bond over this.
#119 - On 07/03/2009 at 5:22am by scorpiogirl666
What a brilliant fucking mind you must have to be able to figure out that you're the other woman. GG Spack.
That guy is a fucking scum bag. One of my sister's friends went through that. It doesn't mean that your an idiot for not noticing, he was just good at hiding it. Dont worry, he'll get it worse in the end. He is about to go from having 2 girls to none and then have a tarnished repuatation forever. He's pretty muched fucked too lol
#127 - On 07/03/2009 at 1:01pm by rottenryhmer
YDI for putting out for four years. Where did you think your life was heading towards?
#128 - On 07/03/2009 at 1:58pm by I_am_stupid_also
At least you found out. Now you can go find someone better.
#131 - On 07/03/2009 at 2:46pm by Yoursxtruely
Years?!?!Are you serious? Damn, this guy must have been good! No slips? No, " I love you, Aman- I mean Kelsey."moments? He may be a lousy person, but he is apparently an incredible liar.
#132 - On 07/03/2009 at 5:14pm by alwaysalady
Well technically, if he's been with her longer, you *are* the other woman.
#137 - On 07/03/2009 at 10:18pm by Love_Darcy
I know how that is. I was with my "Dream Man" for 1 1/2 yrs! We weren't "officially together", because I was underage, but still! Then one day he just stopped talking to me! I then see on his myspace that he is getting married to his off/on girlfriend of 4 yrs! Now, 3 yrs later, he wishes he would have waited for me to mature, so that we could be together right now. Karma's a B*T*H!!! :P
#138 - On 07/03/2009 at 11:00pm by Manic_Depressive
fiance is a man and fiancee is a woman right? so you didn't realize he was seeing someone else and didn't realize he was gay?
#140 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:27am by prisefighter
ydi because that's what I feel like voting
acheivement unlocked
#141 - On 07/09/2009 at 1:19am by uchihasasuke
Oh boy, do I know the feeling. Except... it was my fiance and his girlfriend of 10 days called me and confronted me about it. He told her that I was a crazy bitch liar. We were set to move to another state together in 2 weeks. FML. Haha.
