Today, I gained the courage to talk to the guy I have a crush on. In a dying part of the conversation, I panicked and ended up asking him if he was gay. He replied no and seemed offended, so I quickly added, "You just seem a little gay sometimes, in a good way." He took more offense and left. FML

by anon / 09/05/2016 at 4:17am / New Zealand (Waikato) / Love

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  • Oh my god Carol, you cant just ask people if they are gay!

    #3 - On 09/19/2016 at 1:06am by Sahrami

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  • Wow, no. I get that you probably didn't mean it that way, but most people will take offense if you call them gay. Heterosexual people will because despite a lot of work towards changing it, being "gay" is still considered bad because it's "different." Homosexual people because it implies there's something about them that sticks out and "marks" them as gay. And polysexual people because of both reasons, and your erasing part of their identity.

    Just... Don't ask someone that unless you REALLY know them. If only because you could also accidentally out them, and that can literally endanger their life. And even if you really know them, do it in private.

    Also, the fact you subconsciously jumped to him being gay because of his lack of interest in you implies you have some issues in how you feel about him. He doesn't owe you his attraction anymore than you owe anyone else yours.

    #4 - On 09/19/2016 at 1:11am by GhostFox

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