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By Senseless_487 - 23/05/2016 16:57 - United States - Pioneer

Today, I found out that my lazy, deadbeat sister is pregnant. This will be her third child with as many men. My wife and I, however, can't carry a baby past the first trimester, try as we might. If there's some sort of lesson here, it's lost on me. FML
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Don't feel too down about it. It may take time but it will happen eventually. My cousin and his wife have been trying for 15 years unsuccessfully. They have finally been blessed with a beautiful baby girl this year. So keep trying and never quit. You never know what might happen.

Unlucky1232 20

the lesson is that it seems assholes are reproducing. Don't give up! DON'T GIVE IN TO STUPIDITY! Seriously keep trying maybe wait 3 months, could be your sperm cells need to mature

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Don't feel too down about it. It may take time but it will happen eventually. My cousin and his wife have been trying for 15 years unsuccessfully. They have finally been blessed with a beautiful baby girl this year. So keep trying and never quit. You never know what might happen.

Unlucky1232 20

the lesson is that it seems assholes are reproducing. Don't give up! DON'T GIVE IN TO STUPIDITY! Seriously keep trying maybe wait 3 months, could be your sperm cells need to mature

Keep on trying! If anything, adoption is an option! So many kids needing amazing parents!

Surrogacy is a great way to biologically have a child. Your wife's egg and your sperm in a compatible host

Make sure you try to conceive your child when your wife is about 3 or less days before ovulating for a higher chance of pregnancy. After the first day of ovulation she will not be able to conceive a child for that cycle. Also you can go to the doctor to check your sperm count because it may be too low

The issue isn't conceiving the child, the issue is that OP's wife keeps suffering miscarriages during the first trimester. Sperm count has nothing to do with that, or ovulation period. It's more likely that something is up with OP's reproductive health.

If I'm reading this right, OP and his wife have suffered through at least one miscarriage. Which is utterly awful and I'm so sorry that you two had to go through that. I've been there. I noticed a lot of women who had no business having kids seemed to have no issues with it either. It made me incredibly jealous and bitter toward them, you're probably feeling something similar. Don't give up. Hang in there! I hope you'll get what you want in the end!

Might be a good idea to talk with your wife's GYN or get a referral to one. It could be a poor ovary placement/shape, a thin uterine lining that the egg can't attach to, her hormones being off balance that the shifts caused by the pregnancy causes a miscarriage. In the first case, a surrogate might be the only solution. The second could be anemia or a lack of estrogen. The third could be any kind of hormone issue. A GYN should be able to point you in the right direction at the least.

Maybe your wife needs to get checked out for rhesus antibodies? AFAIK there is medicine out there that suppresses the reaction of the immune system.

Hey guys, I'm OP. Actually, we've talked to the doctor quite a few times, and it has nothing to do with either of our reproductive health. 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage in the first trimester, so we're just an unfortunate statistic. We each actually have a child from former relationships, so it's more disappointing that we both actually want a new baby, but can't, while my sister ***** around and gets knocked up every time. Thanks for the support. We're gonna keep trying no matter what. That's half the fun!

I suggest adoption. There are plenty of older kids in need of a loving home. In most states if they are over the age of 12 they can pick you. You and your wife add to your family together and you get a great kid out of it.