Today, I was talked into having sex with my boyfriend of 4 years. I had always wanted to wait till marriage but my boyfriend convinced me otherwise. Once we were done, he said he could never marry me because I was no longer pure. FML
I agree, your life sucks (255073) - you totally deserved it (70007)
On 03/15/2009 at 12:57am - intimacy - by kallieco (woman) - United States (Florida)
(+1)Oh girl you should never fall for that. If he couldn't wait for you until marriage then he is no good. I'm sorry. That jerk, karma will get to him.
#1 - On 03/15/2009 at 10:41am by Mistress_Puppy
(0)hes either a dumb ass with no logic or a complete ass hole who waited 4 years for som tang (honestly, nothing is worth 4 years of acting for one single time, what a loser)
(0)The real reason he won't marry you is because you suck at making sandwiches!
#517 - On 07/05/2010 at 4:52pm by r_K3LY_pisN_0N_u
(0)YDI for not being stubborn and just sticking to waiting till you're married.
#518 - On 07/07/2010 at 2:13pm by purple_gurl
(0)Maybe it was just an excuse to not marry you. Chances are he wasn't going to anyways. FYL.
#519 - On 07/18/2010 at 4:14pm by mooshibear140
(+2)If this was how he was going to react, he was probably just looking for a reason to ditch you
#2 - On 03/15/2009 at 10:42am by reallyannoyed
(+1)he might have been only trying to get laid...it happens, you know :)
#442 - On 08/19/2009 at 2:32pm by rcjamie
(0)i dont think he was kidding... i speak from personal expirience. my ONLY expirience of that sort.
#448 - On 08/28/2009 at 8:35pm by Amazing_Ginger
(0)right on!!! tire iron to the jaw wouldn't hurt. hurt you anywase.
#504 - On 03/27/2010 at 8:58pm by imsexb3ast
(+4)Woah, well that was a waste of 4 years, im sorry you didnt find out what a douche bag he was earlier!
(+3)#1: Statements like that are why young people rush into marriages they're not otherwise ready for. Sex is healthy and normal (for men AND women), and postponing it until something as arbitrary signing a marriage license is unhealthy, since sexual compatibility is the foundation of almost all healthy relationships. #2: That's likely. It's also possible that he was just a dumbass whose hormones got ahead of his morals, but this wouldn't be an issue if his religion didn't force them to be at odds--see above.
(0)it doesn't say that he was religious, nor is it implied.
what is implied is the guy is an absolute prick. this situation sucks for her :( what a freaking jerk.
though i agree with whoever said better to find out what he's like now than later.
#451 - On 08/29/2009 at 6:17am by KiwiGirl90
(0)Actually, it has been said that most you are more likely to get divorced if you live together and have sex before marriage. And I don't think waiting is the reason for getting married early...since a lot of young folks get married from getting pregnant. I've never read statistics of it being because they're waiting...especially since almost no one waits anymore...so i doubt that's the reason. I read somewhere that having sex while young is bad because you confuse your sexual feeling for love .When your young (or old who knows) and you have sex for the first time you often stay with a person you're not good with because you feel because you had sex with them the relationship has to last...so you stay in one that doesn't work. Or you just think great sex equals great love and that's not true. So I would think it's be okay to wait...if that's what you want. And although people need to have sex, it won't hurt you physically if you wait...people have done it for years. And I don't think this is about religion either.....I've heard quite of few stories of a guy that dumps a girl because she wasn't pure...and believe me they wren't religious, just jerks. Either way i feel bad for the poor gal.
(0)If he has to convince you to have sex with him, then it isn't the right time for you. Next time if you're being pushed into it just say no!
(-1)that soundss like a fun job. when i grow up i wana do that.
#418 - On 07/29/2009 at 6:42pm by BigMonkey34
(+1)dude, he never meant to marry you. If he had wanted to marry you, then it wouldn't have mattered, but he wanted to find a way to be able to dump you and still have sex with you
#13 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:00am by rassannassar
(+3)if i were you, I'd chop his dick right there and then, lol
and you shouldn't be the one posting FML, it's him.
Today, i tricked my gf into having sex and dumped her afterwards. She chopped my dick, FML. lol
#14 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:04am by asterificious
(+2)But... he's not pure either then.... *sputters in confusion*
Before he left I would have kicked him where it hurts.
#15 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:09am by Chris968
(+1)if God didnt want us to have sex, we wouldnt have been born with penises and vaginas
#16 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:20am by FunniestGuyEver
(+1)And this is why you should stick to your own moral code and not let someone else, no matter how much you think you love them, talk you out of it. Harsh way to learn that lesson.
#18 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:22am by ChaosZirconia
It's not your fault babe, what he did is considered rape in some states... :(
#19 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:26am by honeydewmelon
(+3)I hate these assholes that do this to women. I had a similar experience a few months ago, where I met a guy I thought was perfect and amazing. I never intended to wait till marriage, and he never outright pressured me into it, but I was so taken that we had sex. He them proceeded to ignore me like the plague and tell me to "fuck off" giving me a lame excuse that "things change". Found out later that the guy I was falling in love with never really existed.
What I'm trying to say is I feel your pain, although, to be honest, yours is worst being that you spent 4 years with the guy. He is a complete dick! Don't feel bad though, it's not your fault, and there is nothing wrong with you......he's just an ass. I hope your next boyfriend treats you better, like the princess you deserve.
#20 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:29am by jemstone25
(+1)i agree. guys can be real assholes. just keep your head up and im sure there is someone out there that is going to treat you with the care and love you obviously deserve
Good one #9.
You can always go for one of those 2nd virginity where after you lose your virginity you say you won't have sex again till you get married (or something like that).
#21 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:31am by ljuwaidah
(+1)wow what a dick. If he did that to you then you don't deserve him. You can find someone way better out there that won't trick you into having sex with him when you clearly don't want to. Get out there and try again (:
#23 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:33am by AllisonsChillx3
(+1)Rose colored glasses huh #20, i feel bad for the girls who havent learned to take them off and see what is really there, instead of what they want to see. But in any case i dont want to say thats what you get for letting go of your morals but, if the shoe fits. I am not a virgin but if i were and wanted to wait, nothing would have stopped me from doing that.
#25 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:42am by countrygal926
(0)Where I live, what he did is considered rape and is punishable by law. She may have been afraid of losing him, or any other thing. We don't know the whole story. If she had been a victim of rape by physical force, I doubt you'd be singin' the same tune.
#507 - On 04/09/2010 at 7:01pm by boreddoubletears
(0)So are you officially broken up? If not, it was probably a joke... kinda harsh but still a joke. If yes, he's a complete asshole. At that point, follow suggestion of #14.
At the same time, I agree with #16. But if you wanted to wait, he shouldn't have done that
(0)oh my god that is so shitty!!!! don't put up with that.
#27 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:56am by katiesometimes
(+1)#19, No it's not. It was indeed a total douchebag move, but if she truly consented while it was happening, then it wasn't rape (even if she regrets after).
um look up the laws zurg, coercing someone to have sex is most definitely rape.
#30 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:07pm by honeydewmelon
(0)He probably got fed up with waiting. If you're close to going away to college then that probably had a lot to do with it. Anyways, no pity since you didn't stick to your guns... although he probably could have been a bit more tactful, it was better to find out now than later.
(+1)Tell this fucker you're pregnant. If you want, tell him the joke's on him.
Let him know he can't be a dick and use you
(+1)Should have done what you wanted.
I'm sorry girl :[
Asshole men...
#36 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:17pm by evanescence
(+1)I have little sympathy for you, since you couldn't stick to your convictions. That does suck, but it's hard to believe you couldn't see he was such a douchebag in those four years.
#37 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:19pm by may_cause_fail
(+1)I feel sorry for you, I'm sure in time you'll understand that he was a total jerk and you are much better off without him.
Men who look for the "pure" girls just unsecure about their performance (and usually they have a reasons to be afraid of comparsion whith others :))
I wish you find a new BF soon (a good one this time)
(+1)#33: hell yes. do it.
#30, Coercion is "have sex with me or I'll set your cat on fire and release these nude pics of you to everyone you know." Some idiot teenager going "C'mon, baby, you know I love you" is a dumbass but not coercing. A definition of coercion from a law dictionary: "The application to another of either physical or moral force. When the force is physical, and cannot be resisted, then the act produced by it is a nullity, so far as concerns the party coerced. When the force is moral, then the act, though voidable, is imputable to the party doing it, unless he be so paralyzed by terror as to act convulsively. At the same time coercion is not negatived by the fact of submission under force. "Coactus volui" (I consented under compulsion) is the condition of mind which, when there is volition forced by coercion, annuls the result of such coercion. --Wharton."
(+1)well, whether he was kidding or not, thats still mean..like you totally just gave yourself up to him!
I think, that you'll find someone else way better.
Because you are way to good for him.
#40 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:23pm by AlmostHuman123
(+2)I fucking hate assholes like this. Honestly, it makes me ashamed to be a male. I too hope he was kidding - but even if he was, trying to get you to have sex in the first place when he knows you don't want to doesn't show respect for you or your beliefs. Sadly, I know a decent number of guys that would mess around with girls all the time but when it comes time for marriage (or when it comes to their sisters), they want girls that are not only virgins, but have never had a relationship or anything like that. The hypocrisy is sickening. Some guys really need to think with their head (and I'm talking about the one ABOVE the shoulders) and start respecting women as more than just a tool to get off.
(+1)The same happen after me when I first lost it. I wanted it to be perfect like every girls first time and my bf (ex now) turned to me and said "its not going to be perfect". With him, he doesn't try. He just keep on going about how unperfect things are and were...So with the lack of effort he put into this, while I put my all...I finally broke up with him...and regreted all that I done for him...
My answer is that you deserve so much better than a pig like him. you can still save yourself for marriage, but you wont be a virgin though. Just don't settle for less than what you deserve...Don't worry. You still have your dignity.
(+1)the guy's a dick...altho, pretty persuasive...u shoulda stuck to ur guns and not have given in to temptation.
(+1)#42: Being realistic doesn't mean he didn't try. If you'd only be satisfied with a first time that ended with fireworks as you simultaneously came, then he's probably better off without you.
DISNEY IS NOT REAL, until you get realize this you're just setting yourself up for a lot of stress followed by a lot of disappointment.
(+1)wow that's actively ridiculous, but if you wanted to wait you really should have. im sorry though, hon, that suuuuckksss. he's a douche
#46 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:41pm by just_my_life
(+1)This one genuinely makes me really sad. That is so, so fucked up. I don't believe in waiting to have sex for marriage but I'm not going to knock the decision for some people that do. This story is just so wrong.
#55 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:55pm by thisismyname
"According to common definitions of date-rape, even 'verbal coercion' or 'manipulation' constitute rape. Verbal coercion is defined as 'a woman's consenting to unwanted sexual activity because of a man's verbal arguments not including verbal threats of force.' The belief that 'verbal coercion' is rape pervades workshops, counseling sessions and student opinion pieces. The suggestion lurking behind this definition of rape is that men are not just physically but intellectually and emotionally more powerful than women." -http://www.aaets.org/article137.htm
If that's not good enough zurg, I could find a thousand other sources that say the same thing. The fact that it won't stand up in every court says more about the problems in our society's views of rape than it does about the act itself.
#56 - On 03/15/2009 at 12:55pm by honeydewmelon
(0)So the argument there is that men are smarter than women? That has to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard and I refuse to believe any court of law will actually uphold that logic based solely on the pure sexism of it.
(+1)#45?
I was living a dream of course. Doesn't every girl dream?
I wasn't talking about him putting effort into making my first time perfect. I was talking about the whole relationship. I didn't care of the sex part, even though it did changed our relationship and it became all about sex.
I was talking about him not wanting to have a good time and enjoy each others company. He was just plain careless and too possessive to want to have a good time...thinking I was hiding something when I wasn't. I just wanted that fire to still be there. I guess it was obivious, we never had it.
(+1)#47: Poorly-written characters rarely make the best role models.
And ignore the people who say it's your fault. There is more pressure on girls to please men than vice versa, so it can be more difficult for girls to say no. Boys don't look down on girls who sleep around, they look down on the ones who won't sleep with -them-. Hmm, I seem to have gotten caught up in my venting. Should the OP have stuck to her guns? For as long as she wanted to. Should her boyfriend have learned her wishes somewhere over the course of four years, and stopped pressuring her? Without a doubt. If he wasn't joking he's a little rat, and you're better off without him.
#59 - On 03/15/2009 at 1:04pm by noclevername
(+1)I agree totally with 2 and 13... I'm sorry that had to happen to you tho... I hope it was at least good. ;/
#62 - On 03/15/2009 at 1:10pm by mzmaverickd
(+1)#58
If you're with the right person and wait until you're ready, it'll be perfect no matter what. No preparation needed.
(+1)well then he's not pure either. what a fucking idiot.
#65 - On 03/15/2009 at 1:22pm by fortunecookie
(+1)I think #11 said it best.
But I agree with #33 too :) Tell him either to propose, or pay for an abortion, then you either get married or a nice $600-$800 to spend cheering yourself up.
#67 - On 03/15/2009 at 2:20pm by Misanthropist
(+1)lots of people are talking about how this is why you should stick to your moral code but this is exactly the reason why the whole waiting for marriage thing is stupid. Sex changes people. It's better that you found out he was a douchebag before marriage, because now there's a chance to leave him and there's millions of guys out there who don't care about such outdated concepts as "purity." It sucks that your first time ended up bad, because it's something you'll remember, but it's better your first time end up bad than it end up in a divorce later on.
(+1)Did you really think to post this on FML on the day it happened to you? Sucks that this happened but if it happened to me, I think I'd be a little too upset to think, "This would make a good post on FML"
(+1)its really stupid to save yourself for marriage, just look how happy your mom who taught you these ideals is! depressed. Instead of being just another christian waiting for death, go out and have fun and get the most out of life.
#70 - On 03/15/2009 at 2:38pm by immortalfalconE
(+1)wow, that is seriously fucked up. that is the definition of an asshole right there.
#73 - On 03/15/2009 at 2:49pm by bombthedisco
(+1)This made me so sad to read. People shouldn't tell you what you should or shouldn't do with your body... Whether it's your boyfriend trying to convince you to have sex or people on a website telling you that you're wrong for wanting to wait.
I'm sorry this happened to you. :(
#75 - On 03/15/2009 at 2:51pm by zombiepeanut
(+1)seriously? what an assssssssshole
and yeah, i feel like ones that are good enough get the formatting corrected
(+1)I can't believe that. Even the biggest assholes will be done after 6 months. You're going to tell me this guy waited 4 years to get into your pants just to dip on you? Even if he's inept he could've been with 2 or 3 girls by that time.
(+1)I also second #33!! What an asshole!! Tell him that it's just as well, since he's obviously not pure any more, either! If you're still talking to him, that is. I hope you're not!!
(0)#28- coercion into having sex IS considered rape in some states.
#81 - On 03/15/2009 at 3:20pm by karma_89812
(+1)he's stupid he wants a pure girl but he convinces you to have sex with him. I mean it's not like you had sex with him on he first date. Having sex with your partner of four years doesn't make you impure. You chose to share that special moment with him. So is he trying to say that he's impure that's why having sex with him would make you impure. Because you're only with him so I don't get it....he's an ignorant ass
(+1)Sweetie, you don't want to marry a bastard like that anyway, trust me.
Be glad; he did you a favor.
#83 - On 03/15/2009 at 4:02pm by RebelliousRoses
(+1)Oh, i'm so sorry that happened to you.
Hopefully that guy will get his.
#84 - On 03/15/2009 at 4:04pm by mehwhateverr
(+1)wow, double standard much? What a dickweed. He's not a virgin either, clearly, and he has no right to dump you for "impurity" when he's not pure himself.
It takes two to tango, remember. If you guys aren't officially broken up now then dump his ass, you deserve better than this and I'm sorry he wasted 4 years of your time.
#85 - On 03/15/2009 at 4:05pm by McLaughlane
(+1)You definitely deserve better. If he would dump you over this, then he was never going to be a good husband. Be glad you found this out BEFORE the wedding and kids came along. You will find another guy who loves you for you... regardless if you have had sex once. (Over 95% of people aren't virgins when they get married, so your asshole boyfriend is going to have a hell of a time finding a virgin, let alone one who will take him.) People make such a big deal about virginity when its really not that huge. (I was once like you, but I am glad I changed my mind.)
(+1)Dude wtf. Thats what happened with one of my friends. Her boyfriend said that he would love it if she got a tattoo of his name on her shoulder and would make him very happy. She did it. And once they left the shop he said "that's the dumbest thing anyone could ever do"
(+1)I'm sorry, that guy is a D-bag, its always the nice sweet girls that get hit the hardest...
Dont let it change who you are though....
(+1)Haha, oh that's so horrible. I don't know whether to say you deserve it for letting him pressure you (or even dating a guy who pressures you), or saying it's f'ed because your BF is such a freaking douchebag.
...probably the second one.
#90 - On 03/15/2009 at 5:02pm by kabukistar
(0)omg i hope he was not being serious!!!! that was a total dick move!!!! what an ass!! better talk to him about that.
#91 - On 03/15/2009 at 5:24pm by flaschgirl16
(0)don't worry girl, you'll find a better man and like someone said, karma will get him in the end. "pure" is subjective. plenty of girls sleep with other men before they marry. its a good way to find compatibility as long as you're respecting your body!
#93 - On 03/15/2009 at 5:56pm by orchidsrock
(0)Please don't think that the reason he's not going to marry you, is because you had sex with HIM, when he's the one that convinced you to do it. He's just looking for an excuse.
#96 - On 03/15/2009 at 6:49pm by invisible0
(0)I'm so sorry that happened to you. That was a really horrible thing. The bright side is that you know what he's really like now and he's out of your life. Good thing marriage didn't happen between the two of you.
Btw, #11 is a tool. Or a douche bag. Or whatever else you'd want to call him.
#98 - On 03/15/2009 at 7:04pm by AMelodyofJuly
(0)#11. There's nothing arbitrary about a marriage license. It's stupid for you to pretend there is. A marriage license protects both partners - if he wants to leave her after sex and they're married, she gets half his shit and they go through a long divorce proceeding. Yeah, official legal documents are really arbitrary.... besides, that sort of thing means a lot to certain people.
But you deserved this one for letting your boyfriend talk you into doing something you knew you wanted to wait for. That was stupid if you. You probably knew he was a dick before and ignore the signs, eh? Because you didn't think you could do better? Girls like that who compromise their core values for a man make me sick.
(0)dang.
on the bright side, be glad you found out what a dick he is before you actually got married :\
(0)he is an ASSHOLE!! Seriously...you are worth much better woman!
#101 - On 03/15/2009 at 7:22pm by 85_Dry
(0)While it was a shit move on the guy's part, I think you're to blame for this one. If some guy tried to convince me to have sex with him and I didn't really want to (which has happened), I'd tell him to shut up and if he kept trying I'd dump him (has also happened).
So unless you were raped, I think it's your fault for being spineless and dumb enough to be talked into something like that, especially if you really wanted to save yourself for marriage.
#102 - On 03/15/2009 at 7:25pm by TheNameless
(0)You are well rid of that looser! Go find a nice guy who does not have idiotic double standards and have a meaningful and fun relationship with him. The guy who dumped you will never be happy, he's a total jerk.
#103 - On 03/15/2009 at 7:32pm by graphicstyle7
(0)beat his ass!!
if u dont i will
HE IS SUCH AN ASSHOLE
I am sorry
that sucks!!!
I like want to cry for you!
ps. the chick above us is a sluty BITCH
and prolly has a loose one
#105 - On 03/15/2009 at 7:35pm by Brookes_life
(0)Wow,
Any guy who does that
doesnt respect you
and definately doesnt deserve you.
Bottom line, you're better off without him.
But I'm sorry he managed to sway you into doing something you werent ready for
although you really should have stuck to your beliefs, they're yours alone
and no one is allowed to change them but yourself.
Don't dwell on it too much
learn from your mistakes.
#109 - On 03/15/2009 at 7:50pm by ulliellax
(+1)Kalliecosux CHILL THE FUCK OUT, I just reported every single one of your posts for abuse. Not only are you verbally abusing the OP, you are spamming her. Like I said in my other post on this thread, have some fuckin respect. It's one thing if you disagree with the OP, and another one to post like 6 times insulting her
(+1)kalliecosux: I'm more than happy to be 'as bad as' the OP. She did her best by someone she cared about, I see nothing wrong with that, except that that person turned out to be an idiot.
#114 - On 03/15/2009 at 8:21pm by noclevername
(0)that sucks but hes a fucking genius
no lie
im sorry he hurt you, but... damn.... how the fuck does someone think of these things?
i gotta meet him, he sounds hilarious
and #9 ftw
(0)Sounds like he just wanted to make sure he got to fuck before dumping you. I'd have probably done the same after waiting 4 years!
4 years?! Are you fucking kidding me?!!!
#121 - On 03/15/2009 at 9:34pm by bigcrazymike
(0)Hold it.
About half the posts here are simply wrong.
If you really think that sex is demeaning or wrong, you deserve to die alone.
Also, I'm pretty sure he was joking, OP.
(0)wow, you're ALL assholes.
including the guy who did that.
if any guy did that to me, well I'd kick them in the dick.
the end.
#123 - On 03/15/2009 at 9:36pm by yournot_myhero
(0)I believe the guy is an asshat. His head is stuck SO far up his ass that he wears it as a hat. Enough said.
#126 - On 03/15/2009 at 11:20pm by beyondperception
(+1)I nominate him for the biggest jerk of the year award. he is a jerk. wow.
#128 - On 03/16/2009 at 12:48am by TheOrpheus
(0)he a told a hole (people lets go leg breaking) (=
#132 - On 03/16/2009 at 1:23am by P_P_crying_face
(0)if he wasn't joking, fucking bastard, get another one who can apreciate and value what you give to them. he is the impure one!
(0)Some people don't want to get married, so saying "that's why you wait for marriage!" is sort of a moot point. Especially if you're gay and can't get married in most places, anyhow... :P
But oi, that really sucks. I'm hoping it was a joke, because otherwise I'd so kick his crotch in (were it legal). What a horrible thing to say to someone.
#134 - On 03/16/2009 at 2:11am by firefalcon
(0)hahaha #127
good luck if he wants to marry a virgin, i doubt that's even possible
#135 - On 03/16/2009 at 2:11am by frozen_heart
(0)Omg that is horrible! Getting you into bed and completely screwing your morals just to dump you.
What an asshole
(0)Doubt it was joke, I have no clue why people would jump to that conclusion. He more than likely wanted to break up with you for a long time for whatever his reasoning (right or wrong) he executed poorly and just decided to be a dick about it. And for everyone that can magically stick to their own sense of morality, people can be persuaded by others. Hoiwe Mendel does it every week pretty much, so may be you all may have the qualities of a stone wall and will never change morally but idk.
Four years? hard to believe, if anything in this one is made up its the timing, unless it was some departure like college or armed forces. No one would stay with somebody that long (and have a good relationship up to said point), for sex, and proceed to dump them like this anyway. He probably would have done something worse imo. four years is a long time, even for an act that seems as bad as this one.
#138 - On 03/16/2009 at 2:47am by fourthwind
(0)technically he never said he wanted to marry you before you guys had sex... you just assumed because he convinced you, that he'd marry you?
(0)#127 - Unless you're holding that purity ring between your knees, I don't see how it will help much.
#141 - On 03/16/2009 at 3:05am by ohmygolly
(0)If he did want to break up with you for a long time, you've got to give it up to him. He broke up with you *and* got something out of it. Still a douche, though.
Next time, stick to your values and don't let anyone pressurize you into doing something you don't want to.
#144 - On 03/16/2009 at 6:56am by definecrazy
(0)I blame that problem solely on you.
If abstaining until marriage was really that important, you wouldn't have let him talk you into it.
Also, if he knew you wanted to wait until marriage, and he was trying to talk you into it, you should have picked up on the fact that he didn't want to marry you, at which point, you should have got out of the relationship.
And that, is the extent of my opinion
#146 - On 03/16/2009 at 10:08am by FXCKMYLIFE
(0)What an asshole!
This actually made me angry. But good on you for wanting to wait - and even if he says "you're not pure" anymore, which is bullshit, cause it doesn't make you some dirty object or used goods, you can always start again if you regret it. Of course it's not exactly the same, but you can still wait until you are married, because it's the intent that matters. And hopefully your husband will have the decency to respect that, and if he does, you know he's good. :]
Shit happens, and I'm sorry it happened to you.
#147 - On 03/16/2009 at 12:27pm by CatherineElle
(0)I'm sorry but this is clearly a lie. I've never heard anything more made up in my life. No one sucks that much.
(0)it's not your fault at allll for giving in to him. don't listen to anyone that says it's your fault. I'm really sorry if you wanted to wait, and now it's all messed up. But what really is being pure anyway? So what you had sex, doesn't mean at all that you aren't a good girl, you still deserve the best.
I believe wholeheartedly in sex before marriage. and this was a good example too of why it was probably best. If you were going to marry him, then he would have ended up being a jerk sooner or later, and you would have wasted more years.
(0)I made an FMYLIFE account just to comment on this one. I just wanna tell you, girl, he is a TOTAL DOUCHEBAG. I understand wanting to wait, and thinking that a certain boy is the one that you'll marry, so what harm could it do? and then he TURNS ON YOU like that? If I knew him I'd beat the crap out of him, no doubt. Don't look down on yourself for even a second, because some guys are just like that!
Something I've learned about men that I want to share with you:
Men are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped!
#151 - On 03/16/2009 at 2:27pm by battgurl07
(0)PS- I'm not talking out of my ass on this one- I've done roughly the same thing. Twice. I waited a year with a guy I knew I was going to marry, gave him my virginity, and then he died months later. A couple years after that, I dated a guy for a few months that I was super good friends with and I thought we really had a connection, and then he pressured me into sex, and I gave it to him stupidly, thinking that he was the kind of guy who did it first then had the relationship stem from that, but I was wrong. A week after sex he ignored me and broke up with me. But I am with a new guy now, and we are just so into each other on all levels that sex is a functioning part of our relationship, and I see us going very very far. So don't give up, and don't make sex an "end all be all" in relationships!! A good relationship will involve sexuality, on a level that both of you are just comfortable with. The right guy(s), the one you give it to (my mom told me, and wiser words I've never found), is the one(s) that you can't imagine doing ANYTHING ELSE IN THE WORLD but having sex with at that exact moment in time. Sex is sacred, and should be treated as such. :) good luck, hunny!!
#152 - On 03/16/2009 at 2:38pm by battgurl07
(0)#100 and #103 you're ASSES!
i dont believe in marrige, but if u wanna save urself for marrige, which i dont recmend, then stick to it. i mean you waited 4 years, thats basicly a life time, jsut wait til marrige next time, if thats wat u want. hes a hypocrit and an asshole that probably doesnt deserve you.
Solve your problem:
Say ur pregnant and want an abortion, take the money, kick him in the balls a couple of times while saying "Haha, now you can never have kids, you bastard. btw, i was never pregnant, who can get pregnant with a dick that isnt even long enough or thick enough to be my pinky? XD" and run!!! lol xp
I hope u find someone you deserve
(0)everyone needs to calm down.
poster : you derserve waaaaay better than this pig.
but can everyon stop raggin on her about ' how she didn't stick to her morals ' shut up,i doubt you kids did either.
#154 - On 03/16/2009 at 2:55pm by peaceouthomie
(0)And that's why you should never compromise your values for anyone. You never know who's going to let you down...
#159 - On 03/16/2009 at 6:58pm by l33tm0nk3y
(0)what an ass hole. guys are dicks. just be glad your not marrying him any more cause he would of left you. FHL.
#161 - On 03/16/2009 at 7:31pm by pyr0chick1988
(+1)aww he was probably kidding... as for everyone dissing you for your morals, they all need to stfu. because really, look at the divorce rate nowadays. barely 90 percent of marriages make it to their 50th anniversary. and if you wait until you're married, that means that the biggest value of all is respected on both sides, and it really is true love- which makes the marriage last. out of everyone i know that's waited, none of them have gotten a divorce. when you 'lose' it, you 'lose' a part of yourself.
marriage isn't about sex. it's the bond between two people that love each other.
the rest of the horny world can go suck it.
pun intended. :]
#162 - On 03/16/2009 at 8:26pm by amusementprty
(0)What an asshole he will get what's comeing to him... Just remember this the next time!! Sorry girl I would kill him... lol
#163 - On 03/16/2009 at 9:21pm by caligirl17
(0)Say it's fine and see if you can't find a nice horny person with gonorrhea, or syphilis, to set him up with, then see how pure he is.
(0)what a shitty double standard. Dump his ass and find a better boyfriend who cares more about you than some outdated "purity" concept.
(0)#11 - obviously having sex with him was a mistake, so your argument is pretty much irrelevant in this situation. And yeah sex is natural - if you're with someone who you know loves you, doesn't have STD's, and could take care of a child if the situation arises.
To OP: your BF just won the 2009 Dbag award. Tell him you have AIDs.
(0)By Gis and by Saint Charity,
Alack, and fie for shame!
Young men will do't, if they come to't;
By cock, they are to blame.
Quoth she, before you tumbled me,
You promised me to wed.
So would I ha' done, by yonder sun,
An thou hadst not come to my bed.
It's like it comes straight out of Hamlet!
#167 - On 03/16/2009 at 11:11pm by imakefakestories
(0)he's an ass. go dump him and what for karma to do its work.
#168 - On 03/16/2009 at 11:25pm by beyatreese
(0)screw karma, find someone to beat the shit outta him. sorry to say someone like THAT probably was cheating too.
(0)#162
What you said made absolutely no sense. If they're waiting for marriage to have sex, then some people may get married just so they can get to the sex part. Why would people get married for sex if they already get it out of the marriage?
(0)What a jackass...don't worry, what goes around comes around!
#171 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:07am by JaelynneRose
(0)i'm just impressed you spent 4 years in a committed relationship without having sex....
#172 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:12am by formosababie
(0)He's an ass. I'm watiting too, but I lucked out with my boyfriend. He knows and doesn't even hint towards anything let alone try and convince me.
It may have been 4 years, but you should have ditched him as soon as he tried convincing you to do something you weren't ready for
#174 - On 03/17/2009 at 12:29pm by redsoxmisfits
(0)That's so seriously F'd. Go find a BF who will treat you right, there are many great guys out there who don't believe in waiting till marriage and don't care if you do either but won't pull a bastard stunt like that.
(0)Well, you shoud never be persuaded that way, don't fall for it. As for this guy, he'll get his, that's for sure. If anything, you learned what kind of a guy he really is from this experience. You wouldn't want him as a husband anyway if he's that condescending and that much of an ass hole. That's just horrible what he did to you.
#179 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:48pm by MissxKrisxx
(0)wow, what a jack ass, well don't beat your self up about it.
its strange that he waited four years just to dump you...
and its not like he's pure either so its really hypocritical for him not
to want to marry you!
#181 - On 03/17/2009 at 6:59pm by SheSendsKisses
(0)There's nothing "impure" about sex. You don't want to be with someone who has unhealthy attitudes like that.
(0)Oh that f***ing sucks. You should go bite his dick off.
#185 - On 03/18/2009 at 2:20am by llllPsycho
(0)That's what you get for dating a christian douche (not to imply that all christians are douchebags, but he's both and it's a bad combination). And of course he was never going to marry you.
I'd never wait until marriage with a girl, (I'm atheist and I love sex), but at least I'd be honest about it and break up. And I would never manipulate a girl like you into having sex with me like he did.
(0)That is so lame... esp if he now wont marry u becuase u did that... that is soooooo stupid and i think u shuld fuck him over
(0)What ann asshole! my god, definetly not your fault!
dont worry karmas a bitch, he'll get what he deserves.
(0)Be glad you got out now. I guarantee you'd have caught him hooking up with a Senator in an Airport bathroom within 5 years of getting hitched.
(0)wow, burn down the hypocrites house... no, that'll probably happen anyway.
#196 - On 03/19/2009 at 5:37am by frequentuser
(0)wow what a dick, i wouldve pretended to not care, gone to give him head then bitten it off. graphic i know but he deserves that shit.
#197 - On 03/19/2009 at 1:42pm by amkoverboard
(+1)Waiting for marriage is so stupid. I know this girl who is 31, so pretty and a virgin. Sex is one of the best parts of having a physical form... Do it, but be smart about it. Waiting until marriage just wastes time.. the clock is ticking for all of us.. wasted time is wasted experience.
(0)wow thats really strange
When my science teacher was giving my class "the talk" he told the exact same story. he said his colledge roomate did it to the guys gf..... thts a really odd coincidence.
#201 - On 03/19/2009 at 7:44pm by jman911111
(0)Sounds to me like he's an asshole that just wanted a reason to dump you, and took the worst way out. He took something from you, then made you feel terrible for it. Sorry to hear this happened to you, I've had a similar thing happen to me. He's a hypocrite, or a pussy, but either way, he's an ass. I hope you're not with him.
#202 - On 03/19/2009 at 8:59pm by nicolew111
(0)Fuck HIS Life.
I hope he later on gets raped by a gay guy, and then gets ditched by him, BAAADDDD.
#203 - On 03/19/2009 at 9:25pm by NeverMind88
(0)201- It's cuz it's a common theme in literature. May or may not have been a true story. It's been done in Hamlet and tons of poems that we've had to analyze in my AP Lit class this year. Very cliché.
#205 - On 03/19/2009 at 9:54pm by imakefakestories
(0)im telling you, just steal his car and burn his clothes....
maybe even squirt some lemon juice in his eyes then cut him and put some salt on it. :)
works for me everytime a girl tries to cross the line. ;)
(0)hmmm.... you should fuck his shit up!
example: spread rumors around that he has genital herpes or something. i bet he wont get any for a long time...maybe even til marriage :)
#207 - On 03/19/2009 at 11:47pm by xomsdelanyox
(0)I want to shake this man's hand. The only better ending would be him telling you to make him a sandwich.
#209 - On 03/20/2009 at 1:43am by forthelulz
(0)that sandwich better come with a cold beer too...
(alright fine, seriously... that's pretty fucked. the next time you see that guy, punch him right in the dick, hard as you can... tell him it's from me)
#212 - On 03/20/2009 at 10:27am by thekreeperkeeper
(0)i feel bad that he did that to you, but you shouldn't have let him talk you out of your beliefs. Your sexuality and your virginity is something that is only YOURS to give away. Never let anybody pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do. I would suggest asking him why he pressured you to have sex with him if he knew that you didnt want to, and knew that you two would break up because of it. It was most likely a dumbass move to break up with you-in which case, you deserve better anyway.
#213 - On 03/20/2009 at 11:09am by ladyofthelake537
(0)#2 is right. But at the same time, if you were that set on saving yourself... what happened? If you can give in that easily, bad things are gonna happen to you.
But yeah, karma, bad thing'll happen to him too.
He knew he was setting you up, I hope you dumped him. If he wasn't dumping you there... It just sounded like he wouldn't marry you, but there is more to relationships than marriage.
Either way this sucks haha. Sorry.
#214 - On 03/20/2009 at 1:14pm by rawchelllll
(0)I'm going to have to go with he was joking... If not, he's a dick for sure!
#215 - On 03/20/2009 at 3:51pm by TravaDactal
(0)I am pretty sure that if you think he talked you into having sex with him ur the dumbass and u need to learn how to stick by ur own beliefs and not do something because someone else wants you too.
#216 - On 03/20/2009 at 4:47pm by linkdisglory
(0)Its not that god didnt want us to have sex idiot, its the fact that we should be able to control ourselves and wait till marriage...if it doesnt happen we can be forgiven no point in crying over it but its never been said that he didnt want us to.
#220 - On 03/21/2009 at 12:38am by softballsinger10
(0)well good..join the club..no one wants a pure person except for weirdos like your ex..think about it
#221 - On 03/21/2009 at 3:49am by howudoin770
(0)Probably the best way to break up with someone ever
#224 - On 03/22/2009 at 12:35am by a_1_S_t_3_a_k
(0)I'm sorry. No one deserves that. He is a complete douche bag.
#228 - On 03/22/2009 at 4:33pm by sardonicRuNt
(0)He is a complete bag of douche! I would take revenge on him, that's how people learn. Screw those people who say that revenge is bad, that's a load of shit. Even Donald Trump says that if someone messes with you, you get them back otherwise they haven't learned their lesson. I would spread a rumor that he's obsessed with incestuous sex. That will surely bring his ass down.
(0)"sexual compatibility is the foundation of almost all healthy relationships" -- #11 ZuRG
you couldn't of been serious when you put that "healthy" in there.
OB, i am so very sorry this happened to you, just goes to prove an old theory of mine:
all mean are sex-obsessed assholes, some are just better at hiding it than others.
#231 - On 03/23/2009 at 1:09am by anaisgabrielle
(0)I'm dead serious. When both partners aren't getting their sexual needs met, it amplifies every other problem in a relationship just by virtue of boundaries/comfort levels and just the fact that you're getting generally cranky from the reasons listed below.
Some possibilities:
-You're crawling the walls from being horny
-You're getting defensive because your partner is trying to initiate more than you can handle
-You're bored or unsatisfied because you've got a deal-breaker fetish or fantasy that your partner won't (reasonably) indulge
-You're getting annoyed/creeped out because your partner keeps asking about this fetish or fantasy that you want nothing to do with
(0)Even if it was a joke or not, he was mean and a jerk in either way. And it was not a very funny joke either, trusting someone like that and then you get slapped in the face. I feel sorry for you.
(0)oh my god...I can't even believe it, that is such an awful thing to do...
don't worry sweetheart, you'll be all right
(0)That's what you get for wanting to wait 'til marriage.
#234 - On 03/24/2009 at 9:20am by DoktorSeele
(0)What an A**hole! I hope you find someone who will treat you better. At least you're not stuck with this prick for the rest of your life.
#235 - On 03/24/2009 at 1:26pm by nnyl
(0)i really hope this guy gets punched in the dick someday.
#236 - On 03/24/2009 at 8:54pm by manthatissodumb
(0)ROFLMAO
were you THAT bad?
that sucks though, im sorry to read that
#240 - On 03/26/2009 at 11:32pm by MukyDaCookie
(0)yea, how could you have held out on having sex for 4 years and then suddenly have caved because you thought you were in love? you're a horrible person and should be ashamed of yourself for having natural human feelings and acting upon them. you're a huge slut.
...sarcasm.
#243 - On 03/28/2009 at 5:46am by blushinFML
(0)^^^^I'm glad you put sarcasm at the end because I was about to call you horrible things! LOL
But yeah I bet it was a joke, if not he's an idiot. Not to mention the biggest asshole of all
(0)But......... he's not pure either? What right does he have to demand someone who is?
Don't christians have some sort of like, rebirth, revirginizing ceremony or something?
Hey, it could be worse. You could be pregnant with his unwanted child as well.
#245 - On 03/28/2009 at 7:06pm by caligirl5422
(0)What an asshole, count your blessings that you didn't end up marrying that jerk.
#247 - On 03/29/2009 at 3:43pm by paperbagprincess
(0)i wonder how many other girls he's done that to in the 4 years he was dating you. FYL ( F your life)
(0)Lol. Gotta test drive the car before you buy it!
#253. so true
#254 - On 04/02/2009 at 3:12pm by Floridaguy81
(0)I've read about guys doing that here.
OMG that is sosososo mean
I hate people who would even use that as an excuse! he's not pure. he's the one who tried to get you to have sex and now he's trying to say your not pure. well he is an ass
you deserve so much better.
#257 - On 04/04/2009 at 6:59pm by MizzHollywood
(0)im sorry. :/
YDI because you gave in. :/
YLIF because hes a big douche bag. :/
#258 - On 04/05/2009 at 12:12pm by CAITx4OH1xCORE
(0)I am convinced that I am the only teenager that is still a virgin. ¬ ¬ Whoever tries to push me into having sex; I'm just gonna kick them to the curb and say "bye bye!"
#259 - On 04/06/2009 at 3:50am by IAmBridgette
(0)That's what you get for being a hooker. Your parents are probably ashamed.
#266 - On 04/11/2009 at 3:18am by peterthegrvm
(0)that is so messed up. i can't believe men sometimes. and #266 is an ass hole. you're not a hooker for losing your virginity to a person you've been dating for 4 years. honestly, how many people wait until marriage these days anyway? most girls don't have a great story to tell about the first time they had sex, so welcome to the club. there are a lot better guys out there and you deserve a lot better than this ass hole.
#267 - On 04/11/2009 at 7:56pm by csrsc11
(0)Wow that guy is a little pussy. So his dick is porbally too small to satisfy a woman with experience in bed. Sorry about ur luck and hopefully u find a real guy that won't make u do things that u don't want to so.
(0)Eh...virgins are overrated anyway...keep your pride, it's your greatest offense and defense. We all make wrong descisions, he will get his just deserts.
(0)Tell his mom
I'm serious, he's an uber-religonut (sorry if the term offends) but if he has such values than so do his parents.
The least you should do is "confess" to his parents and let him get a little flack.
(0)WTF?! WAT A DOUCHE! GOD WHY CANT GUYS TREAT WOMEN WITH RESPECT! (LIKE ME!) I HATE ASSHOLES THAT TREAT GIRLS LIKE THAT... GIRLS ARE NOT TOYS! =(
#274 - On 04/15/2009 at 9:23pm by Cracker_Banana
(0)You should've kept waiting, like I still am. It's hard but if your strong you will prevail. There's a little of me that says I don't have much sympathy for falling into temptation. Seeing as how many youths are throwing away their purity these days is unfathonable.
(0)#275.... shut up.
"no sympathy for falling into temptation"?
wow you must perfect in every way possible and walk around with a halo over your head.
#276 - On 04/16/2009 at 2:09am by playful2088
(0)If he ever comes to Halifax I'll kick his ass on your behalf.
#277 - On 04/16/2009 at 5:50pm by mustlovemarvin
(0)#276
I didn't say I was perfect, and I'm not. However, I DO NOT go around having sex withever I want to. I have moral standards, unlike you perhaps and many others who wish to aruge with my logic.
Now, before making more poor criticism about my comments, please take into mind what I have actually typed on this page. I did not say I was perfect, and yet you ASSUME I am.
(0)hey, if he ever comes to spring branch (Houston) let me know, that I will beat the living hell out of him...
I hate when guys do this kind of shit.....
(0)i hate this guy and i feel so bad for you. he's obviously not worth it at all and you can do so much better than him. much love xx
#280 - On 04/17/2009 at 9:26am by hansbricks
(0)You shouldn't have given into him, but he's still an asshole. Think on the bright side though, you finally realized how utterly fake he was and now you can find someone better.
#281 - On 04/17/2009 at 8:22pm by Sakura_Haruno
(0)There's no such thing as KARMA. That's an indian religious myth. It's either you will be blessed or not.
Anyway, do not give away you're virginity...not until you're married.
(0)#11 and all comments alike: No.
By waiting until marriage can really show how much someone cares about you
If they only want you for one thing then they won't stick around. While sex is normal, that's not what all relationships should be based on. W/out the sex there's nothing. In a relationship you should have something deeper that brings you two together and the sex is just extra pleasure.
Wait until marriage.
(0)The sad thing is I'm sure he convinced you to have sex with him by telling you that he loves he, and that you love him, and so it wouldn't really be doing something dirty, but just moving forward the inevitable. He probably made it sound like you would get married one day in the future so having sex would be perfectly fine.
But like a lot of people have been saying, at least you didn't marry him! You're better off without. His search for someone "pure" is solely about possession, probably after the marriage and after he's had sex with her ideal girl the novelty is going to die down, he's going to realise there's nothing there, and he's going to end up straying. So called "purity" isn't a checkbox to tick off when you find someone you think might be suitable for marriage. It's a nice idea, but obviously not a necessity, so don't worry about yourself. You can hold off again till you get married, and the guy you get married to will hopefully not be suck a dick that he'll understand what happened to you. If he doesn't, again he's not worth marrying.
"sputters in confusion"
lol
unlucky though miss, take care of yourself !
#287 - On 04/19/2009 at 6:56pm by THISISAMERICA
(0)If i were your friend in real life,i'd kill him for you ;)
Litterly, i'd do every thing possible to get him back for that
#290 - On 04/20/2009 at 8:22pm by bethechange
(0)Erm, all I have to say, is use a carving knife, and don't get caught.
#291 - On 04/22/2009 at 12:50am by BPerlmutter
(0)What a jerk.
I really hope you answered him something about him not being pure anymore either. And that marrying him then weren't really something to think about anymore.
Seriously, he has some funny perspectives of marriage, if the girl should be pure, while he is allowed to do all that he wants until marriage.
(0)Holy crap, even if he was probably kidding...I'd beat the shit out of him if I was a girl. Fuck, your on top, use some girl power...but I'm NOT A GIRL, so don't do anything I just said.
(0)LoL. Well look at it this way, you've got it out of the way now you can go on to become a successful slut in life. Just kidding, actually that was pretty fucked up of him to do that. You deserve better so find someone who's better.
#297 - On 04/26/2009 at 1:37pm by CommonTruf
(0)i would have beeen sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo pissed...kick his a***
#298 - On 04/26/2009 at 8:21pm by photographer
(0).....
sdfhsdlfhsdlfhlsh
it's people like this that make me want to give up on the human race altogether.
UGH.
(0)hes prob like 90% of guys, all after sex. but belive it all not, not all guys r like that, i really couldnt care less about sex, still a virgin haha. just gota wait till u find the write guy. sorry to hear that. xo
(0)You shouldn't let anybody talk you into anything.
He was an absolute A-hole, you deserve SO much better.
#301 - On 04/29/2009 at 8:14pm by lolPayal17
(0)The only people at fault here are those sick fucks that infected your young mind with the virus that is religion: your parents. Sex is as necessary as eating food, and to withhold it from yourself for some bullshit half-baked story is stupid and dangerous. Here's the lowdown on religion: all those "morals" that are supposedly championed in one verse then hypocritically rejected in the next of the bible are innate. They were developed by natural selection to be present in all of us, just as sex was developed to be a natural urge. Monkeys and dogs don't withhold sex from each other on a moral basis! Being religious, you are deluded and in this case it is to your detriment! (as it usually is with religion) Be a humanist, don't respect religion and eventually it will go the way of the dodo along with its destructive bullshit. They guy did you a favour.
#302 - On 04/30/2009 at 3:50pm by Chupacabra19
(0)#302 = asshole
not everyone who waits for marriage is doing so because of religion.
#307 - On 05/03/2009 at 6:13am by miss_sobriety
(+1)#302... not all people are virgins for religious reasons. And WOW @ you comparing human beings to monkeys and dogs. That's unbelievable. Sex is not as necessary as eating food. If you look at it from a broad view, perhaps you can make the comparison since we need sex to continue a species, but other than that... not really. You can't live without food. You CAN live without sex. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you're married :).
(0)ok for everyone saying that its he fault for giving in, for not following her moral code
i just have to say PLEASE SHUT UP!
like #25 said, its the 'rose colored' glasses. when you see everythig as 'perfect' when you cant see the asshole he is. im not saying its a god thing andi know its a dumb thing to do, but seriously.....
not everyone is unbreakable and strong enough to follow their 'moral code' when they see everything to be right, just simply 'perfect'
i feel your pain girl... something similar happened to me.....
just be strong its not your fault, he is just a jerk and a total douche.
keep your head up
you'll find someone way better than him.....
just remember what you learned from this and take off the 'rose colored glasses' and take in realiy.
*HUGS&&KISSES*
#310 - On 05/04/2009 at 2:53am by POORLiLSTELA
(0)you are still totally pure if you had sex with him out of total love. hes a jerk. and he shouldve waited for you to be ready.
(0)Well, if you tell him that you are pregnant, being the d-bag he is he would just leave you anyway, child support is a joke.
(0)Did you actually want to marry him? Sounds like an asshole. FYL.
#313 - On 05/04/2009 at 9:37am by CapnObvious123
(0)#278 the OP isn't going around having sex with whomever she wants to, this was her boyfriend of 4 years!
Your (hopefully now ex-) boyfriend is a total dick with unacceptable double standards. You have no right to demand sexual purity of a mate if you don't value it in yourself--here's hoping he figures this out and realizes what an ass he was to you before he gets involved with any other girl.
#314 - On 05/04/2009 at 10:45am by LynxDaemon19
(0)typical asshole male. don't want you unless you have sex with them, but won't marry you because you're "impure". ignore him, and ditch his ass. he certainly isn't worth it.
#316 - On 05/05/2009 at 1:04pm by lafemme
(0)He just wanted to dump you, but have a good time doing it?
#319 - On 05/06/2009 at 1:41pm by KittyOnTop
(0)Just say you didn't consent and then it's rape!
You'll be saying LOL all day to him.
In his prison cell. With the prison men.
#322 - On 05/07/2009 at 9:25pm by birchofacookie
(0)this is why all of that purity stuff is silly....kids decide to "wait" and then when they finally do it it usually ends badly. and yeah, it sounds like your bf has a madonna/whore complex.
(0)That's completely awful and karma will come bite him in the ass. But at the same time, I have to say that it was very unwise to let yourself be pressured into doing it. I'm so sorry.
(0)#321 stfu. her bf fucked her over. (no pun)
he's at fault, not her.
assholes like this disgust me. you should track him down and chop his dick off in his sleep.
im so sorry this happened.
(0)I hope you kicked him in the nuts. Still, be glad you didn't waste any longer on him, it was one hell of a way to dump you.
(0)wow shit i hope you fucking cut his nuts off, i say you go and find yourself a better man cause the piece of shit is not worth getting upset over
(0)That guy must be so immature. Just be happy you not marrying the retard, you would have probably regretted it in the future. Besides you wouldn't want your kids failing their IQ tests would you?
#331 - On 05/13/2009 at 4:50am by WindStoner
(0)you should cut his dick and nuts off and burn them in front of his face, whilst laughing
#332 - On 05/14/2009 at 1:00pm by MR_Anderson
(0)yeah, to hell with that jerk... i mean, what kind of loser freaks out like that after only four years of catering to the insane whims of a religious nutjob who hates her body? hasn't anybody taught this guy about sitting in a pan of ice water and contemplating his mother's pure love?
(0)That git! You should take revenge. 'Accidentally' circulate a 'private' e-mail from you to him complaining about his erectile disfunction. Send it to all of his friends, and all the girls he knows.
#339 - On 05/18/2009 at 7:58am by Shalalalalala
(0)That guy is a fucken dick and i feel bad that he put you through all that bullshit.
#341 - On 05/18/2009 at 9:00pm by trapiadora
(0)what a FUCKING FUCKER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11 well was it good??
#342 - On 05/18/2009 at 10:35pm by linkinprk93
(0)Well the guy is a completed douche, but seriously, this is nothing new about guys, we're all dogs and we know it... and so do girls...
Although I'll give him for the patience... 4 years is quite long to wait to bang someone..
But since you've waited 4 years, you should have stuck with your guns...
(0)I'm with #1. This guy is extremely horrible. He got what he wanted and then left. What a jerk. It's guys like that that reinstate my waiting as well. Go back to abstinence, sweetie, and take this just as a learning experience.
#347 - On 05/20/2009 at 9:45pm by SweetheartAngel
(0)Can I raise an interesting point here:
People have been calling him an ass, a bastard etc. Yet no one seems to have spotted that he's a hypocrite.
He's no longer a virgin either...
(0)What a douchefag he doesn't deserve to be married to you because he is a hypocrite
#353 - On 05/24/2009 at 2:19pm by Bertski909
(0)You know, some people actually believe in waiting #11, you idiot. You think you're so intelligent by writting such a thought out response and think you know everything...
#354 - On 05/24/2009 at 5:29pm by Mustcomment
(0)Wow that seriously sucks. Hopefully he's kidding, but i doubt it. I go to school with a ton of d-bags like that. You're better of without him. Sorry you gave something so important to such a dick.
(0)Damnnn
I sounds like he planned it or something
Damn...
#361 - On 05/28/2009 at 9:39pm by pinkuggs4ever
(0)what a Dick with a capital D!! He is such a hypocrite!!! Not like he is a virgin either.
#362 - On 05/28/2009 at 10:02pm by sweetangel_12320
(0)what a fucking dick.
dont worry karma is gonna get him. hes gonna end up with std's
and #11 i totally agree with you
(0)dont trust a ho never trust a ho dont trust a ho dont trust u!
#365 - On 05/30/2009 at 3:50pm by girlthatiscool
(0)....Wow, I can't believe this got 366 posts now. ;]
FYL, deff.
#367 - On 05/30/2009 at 5:38pm by NeverLetHerGo
(0)That happened to my exfriend. He broke up with her right after that. It was her birthday. The bitch was dumb enough to take him back several times after that.
(0)I guess that wasn't real love... If he loved you, he would have waited the time it could take for you to be ready....so fyl.
But you got your brain washed easily by your lover...so you sort of YDI.
but yeah, thats a huge FML.
My ex girlfriend used to be nice, and down to earth and what not, then she met her new boyfriend and she became the bigget b"tch on Earth. And she makes out in front of everyone at school, in front of the constructions workers...in front of everyone!
Well my point? Stick to what yout think...if your boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to change....to wash your brain...stay away!!
That's what I think anyway.
(0)i love how half the comments blame religion for his choice. i obviously have no way of knowing what his beliefs are, but it is obvious that HE didn't know what purity means. purity is confused a lot with innocence, which you can never get back. purity is a choice, and it can be restored to you even after you make mistakes (which is really good, since we all do). the guy thinks he has the right to say that he is pure or that he deserves his future wife to be pure after he manipulated you out of your innocence. THAT is low.
personally, i am committed to waiting til marriage because of my convictions, but that doesn't mean i feel i have the right to walk around condemning others for making mistakes that i would most definitely be making but for the grace of God, much less coercing others to do something against their own beliefs. i won't say that he forced you in to anything because it was consensual, however reluctant; but he did very much abuse your vulnerability and committment to him. you did what you did out of love. he did what he did out of...well, if nothing else, a desire to take something he didn't deserve. he stole from both yourself and your future husband, and that is heartless. a real man, a real lover, would do what is best for YOU instead of what he thinks is best for him.
i really do pity him for what will come in his future. if he continues to do things like this, he will one day have it happen to him, and it will be so much worse. don't hate him for what he did. pity him, feel sorry for him, because one day, as i said, he will suffer greatly and you will have known a bit of how that felt. be a better person than he can be, a better person than he deserved.
(0)Should've kept your damn legs closed if it went against your morals. Some guys will say anything to get you into bed. If you were raped and had it against your will it would be one thing, but otherhwise YOU are the one that could've kept it from happening with a simple "no".
#374 - On 06/02/2009 at 11:37am by DarkMirror
(0)i hope he was kidding... if not, BEAT HIS ASS! (i hope you beat his ass, not kill, just beat the living shit outta him)... and yes, FYL.
#377 - On 06/05/2009 at 3:22am by najiiexbabii
(0)What the hell? That guy's dick. He's not pure either, another reason why he's such a dick. Double-standards, they're the worst.
#378 - On 06/05/2009 at 11:09pm by Delilahlilah
(0)Seriously, I think this guy could be a closet rapist. No joke if he's saying things like that. It seems REALLY weird!! Stay away from him though!! Something's not right with him upstairs if he's thinking like that!!
#379 - On 06/06/2009 at 1:07am by UWBeautyQueen12
(0)11, there is nothing wrong with saving yourself until marraige.
#380 - On 06/06/2009 at 3:45pm by at0micmin3r
(0)but he isnt pure anymore either so y does it matter?
#383 - On 06/07/2009 at 9:23pm by loserpants09
(+1)Trust me, you don't want to marry him. Lucky you found out now.
As for being a virgin, I wouldn't worry. It's only dickheads like him that care.
(0)Ouch. And he's the one that talked you into it.
Don't worry about it. He's not the one for you apperently.
(0)Maybe he just realised that you are not sexually compatible.... its a stupid thing waiting till marriage.
Havent you seen the movie 'missing sarah marshal'?
Your probably just not good in bed like me.
(0)PS your a jerk for making a guy wait for FOUR years. For those calling him an asshole THE GUY WAITED FOUR FUCKING YEARS OMG
Thats four years neighther of you never get back....
Its not wrong for a guy to say that he doesnt want to marry you.... just like its not wrong for a girl not to want to marry a guy.
(0)0.0 I hope he trips, falls and lands on something sharp which chops his "tool" off.. and then gets owned up the ass by a bunch of sumos or smthn.
#388 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:07am by portisheadroads
(0)@162 Free Love and Unity is best through sex if I do say so mahself. But srsly, what is this guy a quaker? Purity my ass.
#390 - On 06/11/2009 at 10:18pm by KarmaPoPo
(0)Wait a couple of weeks and tell him your pregnant but not to worry, you'll only want child support for 22 years.
(0)WHAT AN ASSHOLE SHITHEAD MOTHER FUCKER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
#392 - On 06/14/2009 at 3:56pm by Baby_gurl13
(0)clearly he was only interested in you for sex...i'm sry
wanted to break up but felt a need to get laid by u at least once? thats complete bullshit...may he rot in hell (unless if he was kidding...!)
(0)In some cultures men do this to prove if the woman they intend to marry is "easy." So disgusting. Life will pay him back. You are soooooo lucky now you can get out of this and find someone better!!!!
(0)dis guy is such a jerk. karma will so get him. fucktard!! i hate dis kinda dickheads. you deserve someone better girl!!
(0)If he was serious, I would have said, "Oh... well in that case, let me give you a little to go present..."
Then, after securing it in my mouth, I would have bitten it off. >_<
He wouldn't see that coming, as obviously as he would a knife.
I'm sorry you wasted so long with the asshole, but at least you didn't marry him and find out.
#397 - On 06/25/2009 at 8:25pm by AmethystxRose
(0)you know, that's completely sexist.
the whole "I don't have to be a virgin, but the woman I marry has to be."
(0)i see a lot of those on this site... all about how now the guy doesnt want to marry someone who isnt a virgin anymore. its kinda sexist that the guy doesnt want to marry the girl when usually girls would rather date a virgin than someone who has sex with every girl he dates.
#399 - On 07/03/2009 at 11:35am by Entity4Infinity
(0)what a complete ASSHOLE. i wudda chopped his dick off so he cud never do that to an innocent girl like u again. sorry u wasted so much time with him hun.
#401 - On 07/13/2009 at 3:59am by fabbitsrabbit
(0)dont worry one day hel be having sex with some girl and than shel take off her mask and its really suge knight and he will proceed to ass rape him
(0)Wow, what an asshole. I can't believe anyone would do that. I hope you dumped his sorry ass, but before that, kicked him where it hurts. And HARD!
(0)thats FUUUUCKED up, lololololol sry
what an asshole
#404 - On 07/20/2009 at 7:38pm by TheNewGodOfWar
(0)He waited 4 years, shut up about him being "no good" because of that. Call him no good because he won't marry her now. The most I'll go without getting seriously annoyed at the chick is 5(hell, you could reasonably get married after 5 years), more if we meet while we're still minors .
(0)nice one!!
maybe he was just waiting to get some and thats it
hes very patient
#411 - On 07/24/2009 at 2:09am by mannyisdashit
(0)You could get some with less than 4 years, and if he was in a relationship for 4 years with the sole purpose of getting laid once he's an idiot.
(0)The guy used you for sex. Something tells me that's all he was after. Women ain't the only ones with intuition.
Fyl. For real.
#413 - On 07/26/2009 at 9:50pm by der_Jabberwhock
(0)The guy is an idiot then. You don't get in a 4 year relationship without careing for the other person somewhat. I think the guy just stopped careing about her or the 4 years without sex got to him and made him hateful to her.
(+1)wowww -- hope he never marries and dies alone. You, on the other hand, are not dirty just because you caved to this A-hole's pressure. You'll find a great man someday who won't judge you for that, I'm sure of it. Keep your chin up :)
#414 - On 07/27/2009 at 11:51pm by this_cant_b_real
(0)that's a cop-out. he wants to have sex with other girls
#415 - On 07/28/2009 at 1:49pm by georgepalmer
(+1)what a douche. ew
im sorry you were ever with him in the first place. ugh
you'll find someone better. he'll come to you =]
#416 - On 07/29/2009 at 1:18am by ilovesunblock
(+1)waiting for marriage NEVER works out. haha, i like your boyfriend. funny .
#421 - On 08/02/2009 at 1:54am by Salann_FML
(0)I agree that waiting for marriage doesn't work. But the guy is still a dick for what he did to the OP.
(0)For one, I wish you would stop trying to say that you were "talked into it". That's a copout. Two, your boyfriend is a hypocrite. Three, would you really want to marry some guy who's such a douchebag anyway? I'd also like to add that he never intended to marry you. And even so, marriage isn't the end all be all of everything. Get freakin real, kid.
#426 - On 08/04/2009 at 10:45am by EyeoftheSun
(0)I really dislike girls (and boys) who think or/and act like sex is something bad or a sin.If they can make sex sound vulgar, except from unhappy, unhealthy and totally unlogical, they are also the biggest hypocrites of the world. Jesus was not a virgin maniac, he never said anything about sex being a mistake. He taught love and sex is a beautiful way to show someone that you love him. Really, the guy was completely stupid (you should be happy that you did not finally marry him), but, girl, you belong in the category of people that I am afraid the most. Sorry, I would not either marry you.
Zung you rock!!!
#429 - On 08/05/2009 at 5:15am by frini_greece
(+1)You let yourself talk into sex? What's wrong with you!
On the other hand, the guy is a jerk, and be glad you're rid of him!
I agree he's a jerk, but dude seriously, YDI for being so naive.
#433 - On 08/07/2009 at 3:09am by not_the_sun
i agree he's a jerk, but dude seriously, YDI for being so naive
#434 - On 08/07/2009 at 3:11am by not_the_sun
(0)he is a jackass who just wanted some. but honey, you should have more respect for yourself. any guy who truly loves you will honor your decision and not pressure you. he probably did you a favor, as sucky as it may be. hang in there....your prince will come along :)
#436 - On 08/08/2009 at 5:10pm by mizu22
(0)Am I the only one not living in some fantasy world where doing something bad for a relationship (seriously, if you want to do it I'm not stopping you, but since almost no one does that anymore your boyfriend won't think it as a good thing and at the very best he'll be gritting his teeth through out the relationship) guarantees a permanent one ?
(0)You Deserve It for waiting. Honestly sex isn't that much of a big deal, so many people wait around for "I want it to be special" Or "I want it to be meaningful." Sex is sex. Stop being so fucking Naive.
#439 - On 08/15/2009 at 10:50am by xXxJazzaxXx
(0)Agreed, and also, if you reserve sex for relationships that last one year the first time will still probably be meaningful , and still will every other.
Seriously, marriage is a ridiculous line to set. And making your boyfriend wait 4 years and then he has to convince you? I'd feel sorry for that guy if it wasn't for the last part.
(0)You should never marry anyone you haven't had sex with. Some people are just not compatible in bed.
Be glad you didn't marry him! Be glad to be rid of him.
(0)Rofl, I'm Sorry to hear about your situation but i couldnt help but laugh, when i read the thingy, Ya shoot his dick off!
(0)wow i feel really bad for you...
you had the right intentions to try to wait. dont worry jesus forgives you.
(+1)Virgins until marriage are way classier. We don't get humiliated that way.
And in your case, you should of said; '' I can't marry a man like you if your gonna suck this bad in bed. Goodbye. ''
Xoxo
- Gossip girl
#445 - On 08/23/2009 at 5:28pm by GossipGirl_xoxo
(0)Why would you want the jerk, double standards don't make for a healthy marriage or relationship. Besides no sex before marriage? How do you know if you are sexually compatible?
#447 - On 08/25/2009 at 12:05pm by avrilla
(0)Sexless boyfriend for 4 years? No sex until marriage? What are you guys, retarded? Your life IS fucked lol
(+1)Just be sure to let him know you're thankful for the fact that 4 years is a lot shorter time frame to find out that THE D*** JUST WASN'T WORTH WAITING FOR IN THE END ANYWAY... Also tell him you'll have no problem holding out with your next partner b/c there's nothing to look forward too if that was all there was to it. :)
#450 - On 08/29/2009 at 3:08am by IrReSiStAbLe88
(+2)i would have kicked him in his balls with a steal toe boot and laughed in his face saying " I might no longer be pure, but you will forever be sterile, bitch"
(0)I'm with #453.
kick him in the balls. then go ape shit. trust me, you'll feel tons better and he'll feel tons worse.
(0)what a bastard... but no sex until marriage, thats a lolable offense. but i suppose he knew about that so meh...
lol no sex until marriage fail/10
#455 - On 09/01/2009 at 2:53am by v1knownaz_chris
(0)wow.. that really sucks.. so i believe in waiting to till marriage but i guess in this case it was better you did it as imagine what problems could have arose in your marriage if he's already pulled this on you... I hope things turn out better for you and you dumped that loser..
(0)bah I'd murder that SOB or at least cut off his balls.
#459 - On 09/03/2009 at 6:10am by maleficio
(0)wow, 4 years is a long ass time for someone who doesn't believe in waiting till after marriage. Good thing you guys aren't together anymore cause you know he was getting some on the side.
Yay for premarital sex!!
#461 - On 09/04/2009 at 12:24am by no_hullabalo
(0)anyone who won't marry you because of some stupid and irrational tradition needs to be dumped. fyl, but ydi for thinking you need to wait until marriage.
(0)Thats terrible! Hit him in the dick! and you dont ned to wait!!!
#463 - On 09/05/2009 at 4:11pm by swedishgirl
(0)Chop his balls off and dump his ass that hypocritical bastard
#464 - On 09/08/2009 at 9:37pm by OkamiRYu991
(0)1) I am so sorry that happened. I know that it can be hard to stick to your morals when somone you love is trying to persuade you.
2) Lots of people are ASSUMING:
*that the boy and girl are religious
*that the girl actually wanted to marry him-she could've just been dating him like any other normal relationship
3) for those that are fired up because they believe the girl "made" the guy wait for four years- you must realize that it is impossible to actually make a person wait. He could have left/dumped her at any moment and found someone else. He didn't have to wait. Therefore that part is not her fault
4) I also want to wait until marriage but not for religious reasons. I just feel that if a person could wait for someone else until marriage then it's true love. HOWEVER i do not condemn those who do not wait. It's a personal choice and I feel that this is the right choice for me.
5) I'm somewhat confused on why people feel they need to "test drive" their partner... Wouldn't it be pretty obvious from the beginning if you were sexually compatible? You could go all the way up to oral and still not have sex. Another thing is sexual compatible automatically rises parallel to a persons feelings towards another person. ...and even if the actual sex part isn't that great the first time it would be pretty easy to teach your partner what you do and don't like. As they say, practice makes perfect ;]
#467 - On 09/17/2009 at 5:45am by aphrodisiac4ever
(0)What's with this "Talked me into it" crap? Don't you have a mind of your own?
She made a poor decision and is now trying to foist her own guilt off on her boyfriend. If you really didn't want to have sex with him you wouldn't have no matter what he said to "convince" you.
Personal responsibility is a bitch, isn't it?
#468 - On 09/17/2009 at 9:26pm by dontgiveacrap
(0)Ok everyone I don't understand why everyone is bashing OP for wanting to wait until she was marrried I personal have that same goal I just want first partner to be my husband....b/c my belief is if with every relationship I get into I kiss....share new experiences with the guy...tell the guy I love him and do everything couples do then add the sex what makes my husbands speical if I've done everything with everyone I dated what set him aside what more can I share with him that I hadn't shared with everyone else? I just don't understand why us virgins get beat upon so badly for wanting to wait.............(most likely why OP felt even more pressure causing her to make a huge mistake)
OP I wish you hadn't have given up on your morals and values b/c look what happen!!! Most people are not with they first and the majority wish they hadn't had sex with they first in the first place so my take is what the rush..........SEX SEX SEX SEX is all people want to do and that's why the world is full o AIDS AIDS AIDS and STD's STD's STD's...plez pardon me I just so tired of reading and hearing all the negative things about people who wait.... and contrary to many of the comments You waiting could've and would've worked had you not given in.....you just needed to wait a little longer for the RIGHT guy cuz clearly it wasn't him!!!
BTW he is a bastard not for NOT WANTING TO marry as some swear is what the arguement is about it not that it's the fact that he begged...pleded and most likely TEMPTED you into giving yourself to him and then after it's done gone tell you it's the mere reason why he would never marry you.....he wanted to dumb you anyway.....making him wait that long hell he should've never got the goodies!!!!!!
#469 - On 09/19/2009 at 10:26pm by liltrece1986
(0)"I just don't understand why us virgins get beat upon so badly for wanting to wait" You speak as if all virgins share your views :P
"Most people are not with they first and the majority wish they hadn't had sex with they first in the first place so my take is what the rush..........SEX SEX SEX SEX is all people want to do and that's why the world is full o AIDS AIDS AIDS and STD's STD's STD's...plez pardon me"
Wow, it's one thing, that you personally want to wait. But you speak as if you have an obvious moral high ground. AIDS AIDS AIDS is a STD STD STD so don't separate them. A lot of people want more than sex from a relationship but aren't waiting for marriage or rushing.
(0)HA, I have to admit that was a good excuse not to get into marriage.
#472 - On 09/22/2009 at 1:04am by KillaKingPerrie
(+1)I'm really sorry, along with almost everyone else that's commented.
This guy deserves a good kick in the teeth followed by castration.
And no, those people who don't agree with me, I don't think I'm being harsh.
#475 - On 10/01/2009 at 9:55am by bailey_x
(0)The guy was going to dump you anyway I promise, like my friend who was married and with a baby and her husband divorced her saying "I still love you but I can't be with someone I don't trust" because she paid a loan back to her friend in full instead of in two parts like her husband told her too. I'm so sorry you got hurt like that but you will find someone better.
(0)aw hunny, you can, 'regain' i guess it is, your virginity. you're not really getting it back, but you can make another promise to God and not have sex again & it'll be kindaaaa like you're like REwaiting. THEN get a bunch of your girls together & make his life hellllllll! God won't mind & no one else will either :)
(0)that really is a fml moment. so sorry for you. need someone to just chat with look me up. hope he gets what he deserves for being an ass
#487 - On 01/04/2010 at 8:08pm by creetallica
(0)I'm about 300% positive that he did that on purpose so he didn't have to marry you. What an asshole.
(0)Dump him and get him out of your life...guys like that don't have the right be seen as a human...or better yet if he tells you to make a sandwich, make him one with canned dog food...when he asks what's in it, tell him it's a dog food sandwich and tell him you put dog food in it coz you don't consider him human but as a dog...GET THE BASTARD!!
#503 - On 03/17/2010 at 4:54am by pawpaw1995
(0)oh sweetie he was already probably gonna dump you, and was just being a typical guy. gonna get what he wants then drop you. u shouldn't have let him have his way, u should have stayed true to yourself.
(0)oh wow what an asshole.don't stay being sad about that for too long though.move on shit happens you cant do anything about it now.and you'll find someone who will respect you and treats you the way he's suppose to.
#515 - On 06/26/2010 at 11:19pm by kathymariebitch
