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By  wiggs5  |  0

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  mfmylifesrsly  |  29

24 it wasn't that much of a mistake since he was thinking about someone else besides his wife! it's one thing to jerk off while thinking about someone else (which I still don't think is good) but to have SEX with your wife who loves you and you think of someone else??? that's fucking horrible.

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  herrobear  |  0

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  Drigr  |  8

139 it makes him a jerk because this woman is his wife and he's "making love" to her. honestly what kind of fuck head is going to fantasize about an ex and call it making love. I agree with one of the earlier comments. it's one think while you're jerkin off but when you're having sex with your wife? that just fucked

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  Flutist  |  3

You shouldn't be thinking about anyone else while having sex (unless you are a prostitute). If you are unhappy with your wife then divorce her, don't degrade her by thinking of other people when there is someone else out there who will be more than willing and able to please her while thinking of her. How selfish do you have to be to hurt someone like that?

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  kingtz  |  6

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  Flutist  |  3

I take it the greatest insult you can give the person is "I have someone and you don't." Hate to break it to you, but I do have a great guy. But I was in a relationship with someone who was still in love with his ex and he did something similar to this. He called me by his exes name a couple times before I called him out on it. I began to suspect he still loved her. So I asked him what was up and if he was cheating on me. He said no but he had been talking to her online. I told him he was either with me or with her. I wasn't going to support him and love him while he was emotionally with her and that was it. Now I am with someone I am meant to be with and not wasting my time on some asshole.

By  cradle6  |  13

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  chrisauh  |  4

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  chrisauh  |  4

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  cradle6  |  13

Wow, I think you guys overreacted or misunderstood me. I don't support what OP did but I'm saying it isn't the end of the world. Can any of you honestly say that you've never thought about an ex during a later relationship? Yes the fact he did it during sex is more severe. But its not necessarily something you can control. What I'm saying is that wife should be mature enough to realize that he obviously once had feelings for this girl, and although this upsets her, that he is with her now (they're married) and to let it go. It doesnt mean he doesnt care about his wife much more than this girl. It was an honest mistake. Anyone who had never thought about an ex after a relationship has never been in a real one. You can't just turn off feelings when the relationship ends.

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  MuchDance90s  |  0

Just because you have felt something doesn't make it right nor does it apply to everyone. I have been in a relationship for 12 years and yes, feelings for exes do fade. It's wrong to use another person as a glorified dildo (man) or blow up doll (woman). If you choose to fantasize, that's your choice, but do it ok your own time with your hand! lol

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  caligirl1990  |  0

idk I would be pissed off not just because he was thinking of an ex while having sex with me but it would make me wonder if feelings are surfacing or if he and his ex are starting something again. I understand that accidents happen. he better kiss some ass. and the right one

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  Flutist  |  3

He owes his wife honesty. I just wonder about his credibility when he thinks its okay to lie to his wife and brush off her feelings. The way he phrased "I didn't think it would calm her down" makes me think he is manipulative and a bit of a coward. He would rather his wife and sister-in-law have a falling out than admit he was fantasizing about another woman. This is all on him. She isn't insecure if she wonders about her husband's faithfulness after something like that. I would be sure my husband was cheating too. I would rather know that he was just being a douche and thinking about another woman than be consoled and believe my husband either likes my sister or is sleeping with her. And if the sister is married it might ruin her marriage too. Better to tell her the truth instead of letting others take the fall for your mistake.

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Having positive memories of an ex is fine, you could even be friends w/ your ex BUT thinking about your ex while having sex w/ someone you have a committed relationship w/ especially someone you're married to is not ok. Total Dbag move.

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Also, I understand that its hard to forget about ex's but why would you think about them during sex? You should 100% be focused on the person you're having sex w/ if you really care for them & he had to be really into thinking about her to say her name, it deff just wasn't a small thought about her. It's just wrong to think about ex's during sex, period.

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ur most likely single with that dumbass kind of attitude. if u ever get laid...consider how u would feel if ur girlfriend called u some other guys name. I truly doubt it wouldn't bother u at all.

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in reality, your one hell of a deranged person. Since he's sticking his penis all over the place, he should have the balls, to either end the relationship, or tell the truth. So STFU and don't give out illiterate based advice.

By  Egnar  |  19

In the end it's probably better to tell the truth - Because either she thinks that you're thinking about an ex-girlfriend, or, that you've slept with her sister. . .Either way it'll probably be awhile before she lets it go, but, it's probably best not to ruin her family ties.

By  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  HannahForbesxo  |  13

Obviously they think about other girls but not when you're having sex with your wife, i.e. life partner. Even if they are, calling out their name is just cruel, even if it was an accident.

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  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  mfmylifesrsly  |  29

gayboii your typing sucks too. I agree with Hannah, you DON'T think about someone else when you're having sex with your partner! masturbating is one thing, but not sex. cause chances are you're all that's on her mind

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  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  horneyhic  |  15

I'm sorry but honestly you shouldn't get married unless ur in love but ppl do it all the time why do u think the American divorce rate is at 60% on the other hand if uve been married 20years maby u need a few fantasies to keep it interesting

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  RyanMacVey  |  17

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  Flutist  |  3

Gayboii this is the point. When you choose to marry someone, even if they aren't the hot chick you want them to be, you make a promise to be loyal to them. This includes the bedroom. Op might have been the wife's first choice, first love--whatever. She might love him with all her heart and when she is having sex with him she is only thinking of him. To have that trust--that you are his only woman, that he loves you with all his heart--destroyed in such an intimate moment is heartbreaking. We do not know how long they were married or the intensity of the wife's feelings, but if she does love him this will be some nasty stuff to sort through. In her mind, Op is either fantasizing about her sister (which is awkward, would you double dip where your sibling put his stopper?) or sleeping with her. While this is not true, the Op doesn't seem brave enough to point out that he was just trying to spice up the mood or that he is not sexually satisfied by his wife. He would rather she deal with the pain instead of manning up. THAT is the problem, not that he wants a better sex life or chose the lesser of who he wanted. He should have been honest about his feelings and if he is not happy, instead of wasting his wife's life and emotions he should have just said no to the marriage in the first place. If this is a midlife crisis or a one time thing then he should have just told her the truth. He lied and abused her trust, that is the problem.

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  Flutist  |  3

Fine, if you love someone then you want what is best for them. To betray the intimacy of sex and marriage by thinking of someone else just hurts that person. Lying about it so they shut up because you don't want to deal with it is a cheap move.

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  EndGame907  |  3

I was reading this 'discussion' and thought I should point out that you're all just as idiotic for replying to this kid. Especially because arguing in the comments section is pointless, what are you trying to prove? what's the goal?

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  andiboo  |  12

I honestly don't know how anyone can even think of being attracted to another person than their spouse, so I agree that it needs to be in every way possible that you're committed to them. How is it so hard to be in love with someone? When you're in love with someone, they're perfect to you. You don't need anyone else, you don't WANT anyone else. I know I can't be the only person out there who thinks this...

By  KatrinaKitten  |  16

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