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By Fefe - / Tuesday 13 July 2010 02:43 / United States
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There are therapies and medications that can help with social anxiety, if it's affecting your life to this extent. I suggest you get help.

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their still giving that? or did the new season started? it's fun to watch guidos xD I bet I spelled that wrong huh?

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Well, the internet is magically in that it can completely change the way people act and has a little special feature called 'being anonymous'. Now, this feature is absolutely AMAZING because people can say stuff that they couldn't in real life. Isn't it just mind blowing?

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18, it's anonymous. Posting a story on FML doesn't compare to being around people in real life. Especially for someone with an anxiety disorder.

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Having an Anxiety Disorder is extremely hard to live with. For people that don't have to experience it, it's easy to judge. I've dealt with GAD for a good portion of my life and it's frustrating when I can't take control of my own thoughts or actions. Although medication is helpful it's still a struggle to wake up in the morning, knowing your mind is about to kick into 3rd gear. I feel bad for you OP, because I've been there. It's hard to make friends and even harder to keep them. People general

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I have never been and never will be the kind of person that sees my struggles as being worse then someone else's. Medication does not always work for people but, it helped me. Being locked away is not always the answer and I am certainly not someone that needs to be locked up. You're not clear on what I meant by "not being in control of your thoughts or actions." I'm not saying that my every thought and my every move is out of my hands. When presented with certain situations, I would r

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Oh no, it was nothing about you at all. I was using your disorder as an example. Some people fully understand their problem and take control of it very nicely, like you do. I was talking about the many people I know that use their "bipolar" and "asphergers (dear god no idea how to spell that" and "ADHD" as excuses for their behaviors. They brag about having to take medication and therapy. "Oh I'm sorry, excuse me, I have ________" is their EXCUSE for an inappropriate action. They whine and cry a

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In my opinion, The Jersey Shore cast is pathetic. They're the ones in need of a life. Hope they are enjoying there fame, they're bound to disapear along the way. They're stupid pointless drama makes for a great laugh. Don't worry about it OP I;m sure you'll eventually get over your social anxiety. Just don't let it take over your life, try getting out a bit more. :)

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I agree. ADHD is so commonly overdiagnosed and many people take their disorders and throw them around. It's sad to see how many people take advantage of something others try so hard to fight off. I used to work with criminals and I gained a high tolerance to bullshit, when it comes to disorders. It's a crutch for many people, especially people that have done something wrong. It's an excuse that to many people use. Of course there's a large portion of people that don't but, all in all, I know exa

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ffml_314, be a motivational speaker please. your way with words and strong experience with what you say is enticing for a better change in everyone

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I think you should have said "I'm sorry sir but we don't tolerate whiny bullshit in this facility." I am sorry that you have to put up with so many criminals like that. :( I hope you're at least paid well for it. Disorders cease to be disorders when everybody has them...

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105, thank you. I don't work there anymore. It was an eye opening experience and it definately gave me an upper hand at understanding the human mind. Honestly, it was the most fascinating place to work, while being the toughest place to work. I have an understanding that unfortunately a lot of people don't. It's so hard to comprehend why some people do the things they do unless, you've stuck around long enough to find out or, been around it enough. There are a lot of overdiagnosed diseases and

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That's why I wish people would at least try and understand a disorder. Not everybody is looking for attention. I know how my body and mind work. There's not a soul on earth that can tell me my actions are "made up" because, I suffer through it. Some people tend to be ignorant on subjects like these.

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Uneducated? Excuse me sir/miss, but I will have you know what several of my friends and family members have these "disorders" and I have studied them in two different psychology courses and read articles about them online. While I admit my approach isn't very sympathetic, it is not uneducated. I would like you to do your OWN research first before you make judgments about others. One of my friends who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder has managed to live a fairly normal life without medication,

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I'm with pendatik on this one... Umbreon, you claim to have done two different psychology courses, so unless you have a doctorate (clinical or philosophical), your should know that your opinion is not acknowledged, and your lack of research into the area makes in invalid. So please be quiet before you make yourself sound more stupid. And yes, you do come across as uneducated. Anyone who has studied clinical psychology or psychiatry will know that what you talk about is pure bullshit and derived

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@89: You're an idiot. You've obviously never dealt with any of those types of problems. Medication doesn't deal with the problem for you, it just makes it manageable. Many people who are on medications like that still have to go to therapy and learn to deal with every day life, which is unbelievably hard when you have a mental disorder. Also, being "locked away" doesn't do anything. Most psychiatric hospitals are short-term, and the first thing they do when they meet patients is put th

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160: your example with the penicillin is wrong, that's not to help a mental disorder but a disease =P

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Oh yeah I forgot. Apparently I'm uneducated unless I actually have the disease. My opinion is NOT RENDERED INVALID. You people are the ones who think that your sympathy is right and everyone else is wrong. TRUE I don't have a disorder, and TRUE I don't have a doctorate in psychology, but with my limited knowledge and limited life experience I am allowed the "narrow" opinion that I have. My opinion is in no way self-centered as it has absolutely nothing to do with me. I won't cry a thousand tears

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oh, and tendawik or whatever your name is.....my opinion is NEVER RENDERED INVALID. THAT is what I call stupidity right there. If I had to pass it off as fact, and my research was incomplete, then it is invalid. As an opinion, it is FULLY VALID. An opinion is the way I FEEL based off of what I know. I can have an opinion too even if I don't happen to have a particular disorder.

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pendatik is spot-on, and FFML is right in a lot of what she says, too. Medication isn't a magical fix for a lot of anxious or depressive people, but it's often ONE of many necessary tools needed to regain functionality. Most SSRIs/antidepressants elevate your mood enough to deal with your problems through other means, like therapy, sleep, proper nutrition and exercise, etc. Some people with permanent dysfunctions like bi-polar disorder will probably need to take them on a long-term basis because

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You guys are picking out parts of what I said. I think I'm done here. You don't understand what it's LIKE HAVING ORANGE HAIR. YOUR OPINION IS INVALID UNTIL YOU LEAVE AND COME BACK WITH ORANGE HAIR. YOU ARE IGNORANT PEOPLE WHO DON'T RESPECT THE ORANGE. EDUCATE YOURSELF ON THE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS BROUGHT ON BY ORANGE HAIR. Please lighten up people. <3

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I apologize. I did not mean to start such a heated, emotional argument. I was merely stating my opinion and a bunch of self righteous assholes automatically rebuke it and attack me because I'm "ignorant" when in all reality it's because I don't agree with them. It's dangerous to think for yourself.

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174: I should clarify. I was NOT calling you ignorant. I was saying that's an ignorant view. There's a big difference. This isn't a personal thing; we're debating an issue, not your identity. Also, my hair has indeed been orange. It's arguably orange right now. :p

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You really need to shut up, seriously. I have a mental disorder, I have a few pretty severe ones. Judging by what you've said, and your self righteous bitching, I'd say you know nothing. Medication worked for you, eh? Well, you probably didn't have a real disorder in that case. It has been shown over and over that medication actually makes mental disorders worse over time, and people in third world countries who cannot afford any medication... Well, okay. People in third world countries who

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I never said that you believed they worked for everyone. Yes, I did compare your illness to mine. I don't need to know much of anything about you to tell you that your illness probably isn't the most severe thing in the world, if it is an illness at all. You should be happy, because you most likely fall under the misdiagnosed category, which means you're obviously sane and pretty well balanced. Medication works for no one. I mean, it does... But when it comes to the medications you would hav

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Umbreon believes that you should be locked away if you have to be under medication 24/7 , cannot cope without it, and are a serious harm to yourself and others. I HAVE empathy. I try to take a neutral approach but that doesn't come across well to people who are dead-set on what they believe. Your spouts are composed more of shit than mine are. YES DISORDERS ARE PAINFUL. YES I FEEL SORRY FOR THEM. I just so happen to believe that medication should not be taken as a means to cope with a disability

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Oh, as far as being locked away goes... I have been locked away. Three times in 2009, and I was just getting worse with the medication, and the therapy wasn't helping. I don't think I need to be locked away in an institution, because anyone who has been there knows that institutions don't help. I was in Columbia Hospital's Pavilion, and that's a pretty gross place. The floors aren't cleaned, the walls have boogers on them, everything is dusty, and the place is probably two degrees in the summer

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No, ignorance comes from your ignorance. However, I agree with you. It's harder to function once one has been diagnosed with a disorder, because, from then on, that person is constantly reminded of his disorder. I don't have minor illnesses, by the way. I don't have paranoid schizophrenia (thank whoever), but I do have bipolar, type two, rapid cycling. It isn't the most severe form of bipolar, no, but it comes in second. Thankfully, there was a school about an hour away that I was able to

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I'm not a poketard....it just happens to be my screen name. My names at least make sense. D: personal attacks again, what, are we in middle school or something? You can't function properly without constant medication or constant supervision? Hospital. Stop bringing me up mr. military. Picking on a little girl isn't going to get you anywhere in real life. Trying to turn people against me isn't going to do shit. I will SOMEHOW LIVE A NORMAL LIFE, without medication. Stop being so dramatic and l

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STFU !!!! itll be cute iif yall ddnt write sp fukiin LONG!!! its fukiin annoyiin.. aye serioulsii.. go gett a liife fukiin lames !! >:/

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I find it so amusing this 16 year old thinks she knows more than professional bodies like the APA! Generations of knowledge and research backs contemporary psychiatry and psychology, however Umbreon knows best! Grow up you silly little girl!

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I find it amusing how tikwichca or whatever her name is likes to pick on little girls. I didn't claim to know more than them. I never have. I never will. I am however entitled to my own opinion. Stop assuming things, woman.

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194. I hope to god English isn't your native language, because that is the biggest fail I have ever seen in my whole life.

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and what if it isn't u self-obsessed almighty bitch? u can't just insult people on the Internet if you wouldn't have had the balls to do it in person- learn to live with others and their downfalls p.s. u must have a very unsastifying sex life to make u this pissy

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usmcbunny-You are very blind. You have absolutely no clue how anything works for another person because, you are not everyone. Also, saying that someones illness is not severe is ridiculous. I'm going to go out on limb and say, you don't know Pendatik, therefor you have no clue what he struggles with on any given day. One person may have ADHD and yes it doesn't seem as bad as say, Bi-Polar but, to the person that has ADHD it is very serious and incredibly hard to deal with. You are ignorant. Ho

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#75- Thank you for not being an uneducated moron like most of these comment writers have been. This definetly isn't a YDI, and as someone with an anxiety disorder, I say screw you, #76.

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usmc: In my eyes, everything you said and will say lost all validity when you brought in euthanasia. Umb's comment that no one should be medicated for a disability comes in at a close second for the stupidest thing I've ever read here, and yes, that even includes double-i-for-every-y person up there. But at least I can excuse her because she hasn't been in this situation personally, and her opinion could certainly change drastically if she did. Honestly, no matter how much you want to think you

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umbreon, the reason you are being criticized for your opinions is because they feel you lack the knowledge to back it up. For example, I honestly wanted Obama to be president but detested the supporters who only wanted to vote for him because he was black. They were ignorant and did not do their research. That's what it means to argue against one's opinions. Also, I ask that you not refer to yourself as "a little girl" since you wish to partake in an adult conversation. I understand what yo

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Ouch a little harsh there don't you think ? Just because someone does go out partying and drinking (and wasting their life by doing that) doesn't mean they are a wasted life.

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#18, The whole point is she suffers with anxiety in social situations. By posting a comment online, these issues are avoided. So, as #22 states, it is not the same. Also bear in mind that sitting on the computer (probably alone in the room) shares none of the characteristics of being out in public.

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