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By tessykins / Thursday 22 October 2009 07:41 / United States
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By  dyingtinkerbell  |  10

One of my boyfriends was horrified when he saw my stretch marks, which really are not that bad compared to other girls. I explained to him what they were, and he felt so bad because he assumed that it must have hurt to leave such a scar. Boys can be very silly.

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  karl_t  |  5

It's common for habitual cutters to go for places not readily visible, to keep people from giving them grief about their illness. Thighs are actually one of the more popular spots. That being said, he's a bit tactless, even if you actually did have scars.

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It's extremely tactless. What kind of human being accuses another of an illness? That's like blaming you for having cancer. Cutting isn't just something trendy goth kids do for attention, it's a real mental illness. That guy's a prick, I'd "cut" him out my life for good if I were you. Who knows, maybe he'll think you're getting fat if you get pregnant. The man's ignorance is remarkable.

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  fudrick  |  5

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  monster_tamer  |  5

Agreed on the extraordinarily risky- I slipped off my bike and the gears left four long slashes down my thigh that makes it look like one of two things: 1. I was mauled by a wild animal or 2. I cut myself on purpose. It was neither, but I still have the scars. >.> And the thing is, once it was cut, it didn't stop bleeding for awhile. I was lucky I didn't severe a ligament. I had to bike home dripping blood down my leg. 0.o

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  penizulaface  |  5

cutting isnt a mental illness, its more of an addiction. ive never cut but i guess each to their own. mental illnesses however are all too real. its caused by the brain not being able to fuction like it should, triggered by stress or trauma or whatever.

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  LemonFairy  |  5

#28 and #61 -- YOUR personal experience can NOT be applied to everyone. Cutting and other forms of self injury release endorphins. Endorphins make you feel good and calm you down. Feeling good is something people like. It's addictive. There is actual medicine behind such things, and as somebody who /has/ dealt with self-injury for an extended period of time due to intense depression (bi-polar disorder, anyone?) and anxiety disorders, I know for a fact that you /can/ have an addiction to self-injury because your mind craves the release you get because it decreases the depression/anxiety/etc.

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  fudrick  |  5

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  littlexlion  |  5

Oh, fudrick, honey, calm down. Not everyone has your mentality, and bravo for you to stop cutting yourself but as mentioned before, you cannot apply what you personally believe in to everyone else and be correct.

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  fudrick  |  5

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  Reyo  |  5

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reyo, that's not true. i've experienced cutting MYSELF, and it was caused by an anxiety disorder i have. yes, in my head while i was cutting i was screaming at myself to stop, but it was like i couldn't. i was possessed, and no matter what i did, some part of my brain took over and forced me to do it. if the cutting is caused by a mental condition, then no you cannot get rid of it in a week. it'll take as long to get rid of the cutting as it does to get rid of the mental disorder, because that is the cause for it... an unstable brain.

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  hazard69  |  5

Addiction is often a "mental disorder". If somebody is addicted to taking substances, illicit or otherwise, this is known as a substance abuse disorder. Many harmful addictions can be attributed to mental illness.

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  Fontario4  |  5

The mental illness part is not the self harm it's the depression anxiety or any other illness you have, which are very real, the self harming is the action, that becomes an addiction, and is not done for attention, does it really make sense for people to cut themselves for years trying to hide it if they were trying to get attention?

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  Fontario4  |  5

Fudrick i'd rather you not classify yourself as a former self harmer, because if you actually were you would understand it a lot more, my sister scratched herself a couple times, doesn't make her a self harmer, and everyone talking about "picking up a razor and cutting their wrists" are very stupid because most people don't cut their wrists, some people are soooo ignorant about this subject.

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  fudrick  |  5

I don't care what you would rather I "classify" myself as. I used to do it, and I didn't do it on my wrists either I did it on my legs, and I didn't cut always; I used needles too. And I do understand it, more than you or any of the other idiots saying you can't help it. You just don't want me to say that I am a former self harmer because you can't believe that people who self harm or have self harmed actually see the truth that it is not a mental illness and it is just a phase that a lot of people go through. I only said wrists because that is actually the common place to do it, and most of the people who do it there are the ones doing it for attention. I understand not all people do it for attention, some do it to release stress, etc. I did it because it released stress and I liked blood. All I'm saying is it isn't a mental illness. I'm not even judging people for doing it, only for thinking they have no control over it.

By  vanaathiel  |  21

I have those too and when my boyfriend saw them he kept asking me how I got those scars and it must have been a crazy accident or something....it was embarressing to tell him what they actually were

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  asnider  |  21

I don't know about other guys, but I don't think stretch marks are really that big of a deal (and I also don't understand how other guys can't know what they are). In fact, I actually find stretch marks kind sexy, in a weird way, because I prefer a woman who has a few imperfections.

By  dyingtinkerbell  |  10

One of my boyfriends was horrified when he saw my stretch marks, which really are not that bad compared to other girls. I explained to him what they were, and he felt so bad because he assumed that it must have hurt to leave such a scar. Boys can be very silly.

By  adayinmylife  |  5

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  ClaireXX  |  5

Actually, no, it's not "obvious" that self-injurers don't have a will to live. They cut to relieve stress. And although some of them are suicidal, most of them are just doing it to feel better. Most deaths involving self injurers are accidents from when they cut.

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