By MyUsernameIsBest - 12/11/2013 05:45 - United States - Moreno Valley

Today, the day before I'm supposed to leave for a long-anticipated trip to Europe, my mother admitted that she's never paid for it. She only told me she did so I would stop hinting that I wanted to go. I gave up Christmas for this trip. FML
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Hello all, OP here! :] I must say that I am so surprised that my late night ranting on FML made it on the site. XD Well I thought I'd elaborate a bit. x] First of all, it was a trip with my high school AP European History class to Italy and France. It was all planned out, everything was included in what we pay online, and I already had gotten my passport. I got a part time job early last year when I found out about it to help pay for the trip, and I earned almost $850 to put towards funding it, as well as earned my own spending money. I had to give her the money because the tickets were being paid for from her account. I have no clue what happened to the money I gave my mom for the trip, but for the record she was not supposed to pay for the entire trip. A few days after I gave her the money I had earned, she texted me while I was at school telling me that she had signed me up for the trip and that it was paid for, so I stopped reminding her about it. She had already told me that if I helped earn money for the trip I could go. Secondly, the "I gave up Christmas" part referred to the fact that I agreed with my parents that I would be willing to give up getting presents on Christmas this year and the last to somewhat make up for the money they were putting towards this trip. On Christmas last year I got nothing, but I was fine with it because I was expecting to be going on this trip. They didn't tell me then that I wasn't going, they just didn't get me anything and let me keep believing. Thirdly, by "hinting", I literally just meant occasionally hinting that I wanted to go on the trip. I left the brochure laying around, forwarded emails from my teacher about fundraising options, mentioned it when my mother asked about my day at school etc. Anyone who knows me knows I'm a dang coward about inconveniencing people, never asking for things, never getting in people's way and always trying to avoid causing them trouble.. But when I realized I really wanted to go on this trip, I went about hinting about it, I wouldn't say that I was pestering her all that much. x] I did remind her about paying, but only after she told me I could go if I got a job to help pay for it. :P On the bright side, at least I have the spending money I saved up. :P

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Well you're handling it better than I would, that's just ****** up.

Your mom sounds like a terrible person.

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That really sucks OP. I hope karma bites your mother back in the ass soon :(

FYL OP, how devastating! ! feel for ya mate

Oh dear. I hope she makes it up to you this Christmas for getting your hopes up like that.

It sounds like a high school trip to me. All the details would have been provided by the school, not the mother, all the mother had to do would be pay & sign a permission form. & not everyone is a detailed vacation planner, I've been on vacations with my family where we decide on what state were going to & the rest we figure when were there. We'll just drive & drive until we get tired & find a nice, safe hotel to stay in.

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Hmm, the lack of interest on the OP's part regarding the details of the trip makes me wonder whether the OP could really handle themselves abroad.

Yep, very bad call on the mother's part. I was just trying to add an extra dimension to this fml ;)

If it was one of those high school trips abroad you don't need to know the details that's all taken care for you just pay

It could have been one of those vacation tour group things. If so, OP would have been given all the information on where she was staying etc from the program. Easy enough for the mother to lie about. Those things are a one payment thing.

RE Your last paragraph... Worst case scenario; mother and daughter fall out and have a strained future relationship. Worst case if she DID go unprepared and clueless? Could end up lost, taken advantage of (or worse) in a foreign country where she might not speak the language or know anyone.

I completely agree, even though it is a school trip if it hadn't been paid for the teacher would have said something about it. They would have been following up with all the kids to make sure they had their passports etc. OP said there we're find raisers if they had participated in those as well as worked they would probably been able fund the entire trip. While I school I never had my parents pay for any of my trips, all were paid by my own pocket, or fundraisers. Seriously by the time you are able to travel outside your own country you are big enough to follow up on wether the trip has been paid for.

OP's mom didn't say no. The problem here is the mother lied about paying for it.

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That doesn't somehow make you a better person. If my parents offered to pay for a trip around Europe, I'd take it, and so would most other people. Comments like yours really irritate me- it's like when people say that it's awful when parents pay for their child to go to university, when it just isn't.

it sounds like OP pestered his/her mom not that the mom offered it..

Vegeto30294 19

The OP pestered, but the mother never said no. "No, OP, I can't send you to Europe for -insert reason-. It's just not happening" Now was that so hard?

fucMyLifeSoHard 18

29- Way to be a giant dick. No one said OP was as old or older than you, so they might not have been able to pay for theirself.

JMichael 25

That's pretty pathetic of her to do that. A simple no would have been a better solution.

I'm stunned at some of the bullshit parents pull these days.