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14- you had a good point to start with, but of course she's going to be disappointed. Yes the marriage is the important thing, but it doesn't mean she shouldn't have expected to get a nice shiny ring in his proposal, because typically that's what is given.

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Well, if a gumball ring is what you can afford right now... I've heard people do that with a promise to get something better later. The ring is symbolic, and should be gotten rid of. It was originally meant as a way of indicating that the man had the resources to support his (soon to be) wife (the bigger the rock, the more resources). Now adays, women are more independent and shouldn't need such assurances. Women can support their man (but that wont happen in this society) if they want to, but they still need that unnecessary financial symbol to test the mans sincerity

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I don't know if it's just me, but if the guy I love proposed to me with a ring from a vending machine, I'd accept. It's more about the person for me. It sort of disgusts me when people brag about the cost or size of their ring, especially celebrities. It's not like a smaller ring means he loves you less, though in this case it sounds like he has a history of being unreasonably cheap.

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14 - You are so dumb. It's not that he gave her a shit ring, it's that he led her to believe it was real. The dishonesty is what made her pissed. The really funny part to me is that he probably paid more for the fake yet massive rock than he would have paid if he had gone for quality instead of quantity. What most guys don't realize is that if you just explain to your beloved that a .25 carat diamond (or CZ if you're really broke) set on a tiny, nondescript band is all you can afford, they'll be fine. Just be HONEST. I've yet to meet a girl who cared so much about having a bigass rock that they'd prefer the green finger over a smaller, nicer ring.

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You can get a beautiful ring with real gold for pretty cheap (around $200). The ring OP's boyfriend proposed with was probably a $20 ring. Not even sterling silver causes that reaction! But put yourself in her shoes, to find out that the ring on your finger is not only fake and cheap, but you can't even wear it to show anyone. I don't blame OP for her disappointment. If a guy tried to give me a copper ring I'd take it as insult. I'd rather he be honest if he couldn't afford a ring instead of trying to dupe me.

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A low carat gold ring can contain copper which can turn your finger green. Or he might of misunderstood what gold plating meant which means it was painted gold. I don't know how old they are but young adults usually aren't financially stable yet so he may of not had the money for top quality. Give the guy a break. He probably meant it with his whole heart giving her the ring it just sucks it didn't turn out the way it was planned.

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First of all, nothing says he lied to her, we can only assume that OP assumed that she was about to get a very expensive ring. Secondly, a majority copper ring may be cheaper than gold, but it certainly isn't cheap. Copper is expensive, and getting more expensive. Thirdly, this is a ridiculous fml only because the institution of marriage isn't a ring to show off to your friends, it's a pact of love. So, while OP can say 'fml' for a cheap ring (even though it obviously still LOOKS expensive), she better say how grateful she is to be in love with someone who obviously loves her back as well. Many people don't get that.

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id like to point out that my fiance spent £30 pound on my engagement ring, and although its an 18 carat white gold band the 3 big diamonds are zirconias. second hand is the way to go if you're skint, so unless OPs boyfriend was genuinely ripped off then he's got no excuse for being cheap.

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Anyone else notice that OP stated that the reason that she was elated when her boyfriend proposed to her was because the ring was big? Hopefully just poor word choice

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It's hard to judge if he Is cheap or she is demanding too much. BUT! He could atleast had bought a real ring silver/gold/steel/whitegold ect. An expencive ring is mostly to brag about. I got a silver ring with heart shapes (not expencive) but adorable. And i gave him a plain silver one. (Traditionally the man get a ring too). And hell... Our rings may be regulair but our Love is as great as ever :) would never trade my ring for anything.

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@115 - "It's not that he gave her a shit ring, it's that he led her to believe it was real." - 113 "You are attributing dishonesty and malice to where there almost certainly wasn't any." - 115 (me) How is the comment going over my head, again? If you're talking about how he can get cheap, better rings second-hand, then understand that this only increases the risk of being ripped off. In either case, this guy is getting hate that he almost certainly doesn't deserve. I hope to hell that if the other posters in here get all melodramatic with their fiancees because their ring wasn't as expensive as they thought it was, these guys take a hint and find someone else who would value them more than a damn rock stuck in a shiny loop of metal.

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I can't help but wonder how much SHE spoil him. I am sick to the bone about the whole "men should spoil their women". No that is disgustingly selfish. A couple should not need materialistic items to show love. But if so they should spoil eachothers. I did not see her buy HIM a ring, and engagement include two rings traditionally. I buy my boyfriend gifts more often then he me, because my economy is better. So what? He loves me and he spoils me when he can. What is wrong with people and their view on LOVE. This could be why relationships are breaking so often these days. Materialism and ego-jealousy. :/

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Maybe he's cheap because his parents drowned in a pile of money and it traumatized him. And maybe OP is turning into an goblin because she pissed off a wizard. There could be any number of explanations for this.

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So does that mean he "thought" he could trick her into thinking he bought her something real that wouldn't turn her finger green? I'm not saying it had to be something expensive but at least something she could wear. What good is that ring going to be when the OP has to keep it in her jewelry box instead of on her finger?

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It's usually people who HAVE money to start with that say this shit. I've got an extremely stingy money mean partner so I know if he splashes the cash on something for me it really means a lot for him to have done it. An so therefore the present is more special to me. Stop assuming OP is a money hungry bitch.

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I myself am cheap too, not only for my own money but for everyone else's as well. I'd rather have a 'normal' ring and a good future than a diamond ring and 5 more years of saving up for a house or something like that. But then again, I don't like jewelry. Wouldn't mind if he proposed with a donut.

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I agree. I honestly have never understood what the fuss is about for real diamonds or jewelry that cost more than your car. Diamonds aren't even that cool, but that's just me. It's a hard, shiny thing in the ground; big deal. Nothing more than a silly status symbol.

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Anything is better than a ring that will turn your finger green. You can find plenty of nice rings for not that extremely expensive prices people just love there are cheaper nice rings out too not a ring he got out of a gum ball machine. Lying about it too to top it off? Nothing says love like putting zero effort into something. Frankly if It were me I would put some thought into it more than 25 cents. If it were to be something that cheap at least let it have a special meaning behind it, that makes it so much sweeter. Not oh hey gunna propose to my wife. Hey a quarter! Awesome! Ring here i come!

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Why does everyone assume he's lied about it, sure it was cheap, but if the diamond is the only thing that matters to you when he's proposing, then you aren't worth a proposal in my eyes. I could be wrong though, I don't know the full story.

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You are correct for the most part, but he led her to believe that it was an authentic ring. In my book, that's lying and a shitty way to start a life together.

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88- I'm not sure what world you're from but on planet earth an engagement ring is authentic unless otherwise disclosed. Therefore it was a lie by omission.

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98- obviously he wants to spend his life with her or is that an assumption? The "ring" is a symbol of their commitment to one another whether the ring is made of diamonds, gold, sugar, twigs, etc. It doesn't matter what it's made of as long as both people know. It's only fair, right? In this case OP didn't know that it was fake. Not a good way to start a life with someone, is it?

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#88. She assumed? As in she assumed the real was real? Yes she assumed the ring was real considering when a man proposes to a woman, typically the ring is real. It's not her fault for "assuming"

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She probably didn't expect extravagance, no. But proposing with a big fake ring, getting the girlfriends hopes up that she can be proud of what's on her finger (every woman wants to wear a ring they can brag about) then to find out its fake? I don't know about her but if my boyfriend proposed to me, I'd be wayyy more excited to wear a ring that's small and cheaper BUT REAL. No way would I want a big, cheap, finger turning green ring!

Depends on his income. If he can easily afford a nice engagement ring but chose a $20 fake one from Claire's store in the mall then FYL. If he doesn't make alot of money, the fake one may be all he can afford. Or if he completely lied to you and told you it was real, FYL.

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11- how did he try? He could try saving money but he bought her a fake ring instead...if he can't buy a ring how is he going to buy real stuff if they get married

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He didn't try at all. It's understandable that some people can't afford expensive jewelry, but he lied to her and lead her to believe it was fancy. That's not trying, that's deceiving, and it shouldn't be the first step in creating a life together.

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That's not the point. It's the fact that he lead her to believe he had gotten her something that he hadn't. If he didn't want to spend a whole bunch of money he should have just told her. I know that if my boyfriend proposes to me I don't care how much the ring costs him. If he lies about it I'll be upset.

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You don't know whether he tried or not, you're making assumptions based off of one side of a story with yet unproven facts. Secondly, it never said once in the fml that OP was lied to about it being real or not, so yet ANOTHER assumption. All we can truly deduce is that the OP was given a ring and she's not happy with it, which i believe is unfair. Regardless of whether or not he's being cheap, he proposed which is a move of extreme commitment, faith and love. If that's not saying enough that the ring becomes essential for OP's happiness, then that's not his fault.

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