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By Anonymous / Tuesday 7 June 2016 01:04 /
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  joeyl2008  |  31

Exactly, their is nothing wrong with a woman proposing. Still I feel like you should discuss marriage and figure out what the two of you want before anyone proposes

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  Mechanize  |  31

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By  AlchemistEd  |  24

some people don't really want marriage, even if they want to spend their life with someone. it's not that unusual these days. or, maybe there's some issues in your relationship that aren't big enough to end it, but mean he isn't sure he wants to take that step. you can't judge your own relationship on someone else's, and if this is her second marriage in 5 years, that's not a good thing. surely better to wait and only get married once?

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You need to talk to your boyfriend about marriage OP. Stop beating around the bush with "not-so-subtle-hints," you need to ask if he wants to get married or has any plans to ever marry you, because if your ultimate goal in a relationship is marriage and his isn't, then you have two different life paths entirely. If you are old enough to settle down and get married, you're old enough to have an adult conversation about this instead of walking around it like a child.

By  faeryfyre  |  14

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  chrisbeaudoin  |  14

Lots of people don't get married for a long time, some couples never get married even though they have kids and have been together for well over 10 years. Hopefully you can solve this without it affecting your relationship, good luck, op.

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  brewmasterg  |  14

My fiancé waited six and a half years before proposing to me. It wasn't something he ever saw as important (we own our own home, we might as well be married) but he knew it was something I wanted and we both knew it would happen eventually. We had very clear communication about our expectations in the relationship which was very important.

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  sweetpotato301  |  14

Some couples take longer. It also depends on how old you were when you got together. One of my sisters was with her boyfriend for 3 years before they got married (they started dating when she was 24) and my other sister was with her boyfriend for 10 years before they got married (because they started dating when they were 15!)

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  joeyl2008  |  14

Maybe the guy if upset that OP hasn't proposed yet. 5 years is plenty of time to figure out if she wants to spend the rest of her life with him so she should have proposed. OP's BF is probably thinking she doesn't want marriage and is going to leave her for someone who does.

By  TheNoobySpartan  |  25

Marriage is not an accomplishment, it's a milestone that too many people jump the gun on. Love is a marathon, not a sprint. If it's really an issue, there's no rule saying that you yourself can't propose.

By  smallandroid  |  31

Instead of dropping hints and "basically" getting refused, why don't you actually have a conversation with your boyfriend about this? Find out what he wants, and try to come to a compromise so you won't be so upset about this.

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