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OP again, what happened with the injury was the youngest and the second youngest decided they were going to race across our living room, and the former ran headfirst into the edge of the coffee table. Hard. Those two had walked into the kitchen while the rest of them were watching a movie at the time and I don’t think she noticed what they were doing until it was too late. He got a cut that was about an inch or so wide and looked pretty deep on his forehead. We were able to bandage it up, she got the bleeding to stop and confirmed he did not get a concussion from it but everything I frantically searched online said he was going to need stitches and all of the local urgent care centers had literally just closed 5 minutes before this happened. She took him the next morning when they left and they said he was OK, thank goodness, but a very brief lapse in supervision wasn't something to call CPS over.
By colibricorolla - / Sunday 4 September 2016 06:16 / United States - Raleigh
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By  countryb_cth  |  36

Honestly you need to have a talk with your roommate. Not only is it extreamly rude not to give you enough time but it's also dangerous as you found out. You had no time to prepare or put valuables and dangerous items away. You need to straight up tell her that the next time you need to be told days ahead of time not hours. Also tell her that if her siblings won't behave and/or that she can't control them, then they are no longer allowed and she can go to them to babysit.

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  n3rdzgotskillz  |  29

Oh, I don't think this is entirely fair on the roommate. What if her parents were having an emergency? My mum often asks me to babysit about an hour in advance because of unexpected circumstances.

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OP, here. According to her, it was date night for her parents. There was no emergency or anything that justified the hour we got to prepare, it wasn’t even like they were out of town and she wanted to keep the kids with her here. She was put in charge and decided to bring them to the apartment when she had to babysit and decided to take the whole afternoon and overnight because they just really, reeeaallly wanted to see it since we moved in just three weeks ago. She said she lives about 45 minutes from here too, so it wasn't like she couldn't have just made it an afternoon or evening visit and driven them home for bed.

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Kids are not demon spawns, #7. They're just little kids. That's what they do.

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they are breaking things and intruding and even hurting themselves doing not smart things. that is demon spawn types of actions. just because a little kid is a little kid makes them misbehaving okay or even normal. there are really well- behaved kids. and it shouldn't be considered unnatural for a kid to behave well. that is saying a lot...

By  GhanArch  |  6

Wow. Improperly supervised kids running around hurting themselves? I hate to be a wet blanket but if you were to take that kid to the hospital they'd be legally obligated to call CPS. Just to give you a heads up on what level of irresponsible your apartment is involved in. Maybe take a talk with the roomie and make sure she understands that taking care of the kids means more than just locking them inside. And yes, of course kids are a major hassle. Still doesn't mean you're allowed to use them to test the validity of natural selection. :/

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  usnwife  |  18

Where did she say they weren't supervised? i have 4 kids, 3 boys, and I can right there beside them and they still manage to find a way to hurt themselves. One had to get stitches from the hospital, and ya know what? The dr understood kids, saw how we interacted with him and him us, and no CPS call. Shit happens, I don't think anything mentioned warranted CPS. An asshole roommate for putting OP though that (take the kids to their own house if you don't have enough notice) but just sounds like kids being excited about a new place with an unsure authority they are taking advantage of...

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Unless the kid is regularly in the hospital for injuries, or the injuries look like abuse. The doctor will most likely not call CPS, if a doctor called them every time a kid came in with an injury, CPS would be stretched even more thin than it already is. Kids hurt themselves, it happens whether you watch them or not, that doesn't make you or your home unfit for kids. Kids can hurt themselves with something as innocent as one of their plastic toys sometimes, injuries during childhood are bound to happen.

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  ShleeG  |  23

#6 do you have kids? if not, spoiler alert, they get hurt. a lot. don't be one of those bubble wrap parents who don't let their kids do anything because "they might hurt themselves" kids learn what not to do by getting hurt.

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OP again, what happened with the injury was the youngest and the second youngest decided they were going to race across our living room, and the former ran headfirst into the edge of the coffee table. Hard. Those two had walked into the kitchen while the rest of them were watching a movie at the time and I don’t think she noticed what they were doing until it was too late. He got a cut that was about an inch or so wide and looked pretty deep on his forehead. We were able to bandage it up, she got the bleeding to stop and confirmed he did not get a concussion from it but everything I frantically searched online said he was going to need stitches and all of the local urgent care centers had literally just closed 5 minutes before this happened. She took him the next morning when they left and they said he was OK, thank goodness, but a very brief lapse in supervision wasn't something to call CPS over.

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My son broke his leg at 10 months old so I'm *pretty* sure OP is safe. And even if CPS was called for some reason, OP wasn't the responsible party. All they'd do is ask for a statement. Doctors can tell the difference between an accident and a suspicious injury. It's kinda their job.

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  JustKeeny  |  6

my brother had to get stitches on his forehead once and staple near the back of his head another time. CPS was never called. CPS does not get called for every little injury. Kids run around when playing and sometimes get injured. That does not call for CPS. Way to overreact.

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  jhicks123  |  10

I guess it would have been better if the kids just sat on electronics and didn't move for hours. It would sure be physically safer but just detrimental to their state of mental health. The parents/babysitters who let their children be vegetables and sit on electronics non stop are the ones that need CPS to be called, not the kind that allow children to be children.

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  DataWog  |  24

I have a scar just under my left eyebrow from when I was 5 and dropped a toy beneath the swingset, had the *genius* idea to run and grab it. At the same time my brother was trying to see how high he could make the thing go. Even if we had been 100% supervised, it took less than 5 seconds; I'd bet money the only thing that would have changed is the amount of people who saw it happen.

By  DelugeandDrought  |  7

I love how considerate your roommate was with the amount of warning they gave you. That's almost like telling someone to get into the cellar two minutes before a tornado hits. I certainly hope the children didn't break anything valuable. If they did, as messy as it could be, I would get some monetary reparations out of my roommates.

By  Unenunciable  |  14

If that one kid were really "severely injured", shouldn't someone call an ambulance? You're probably exaggerating. Also, you make this sound like the coming of the apocalypse. Sure it's an inconvenience to you, but it's less than a day, how is this so terrible? In the end, they're your roommate's responsibility, you can just go hang in your room for a few hours with headphones if the noise bothers you. When they're gone, you can have a talk with your roommate about how you would like more warning ahead of time because the situation was inconsiderate. But in the end, your roommate has a right to have guests over occasionally, even little ones. It might even have been a family emergency or something. What're you going to do, kick the kids out of the house? Calm down, temporary children aren't the end of the world.

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  PhoenixChick  |  22

Yeah, I mean, how dare the OP be upset that they no longer have the full use of their apartment, no longer have any privacy, and any belongings of theirs not in their room are subject to being broken? How rude of them to be quietly upset at something and mention it on the internet? How dare they! You aren't allowed to have feelings or preferences, damnit, this is the internet where everything matters! I assume you won't mind if I crash at your place overnight if I need to. I'm going to need your bed, and I'm going to break at least 2 things. Maybe have sex in your bed.

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I understand what you're saying, roommates should expect that there will be guests over sometimes. However, when living with someone, you also need to be respectful and compromise. These kids were brought over to the house without notification, they destroyed stuff, and were pretty out of control, that's unacceptable. OP has every right to be upset that her home, even though she shares it, was being messed up and disrespected like that. And she shouldn't have to hide in her own home because of her roommate's "guests," that's not fair. Unless it was an emergency, I think the roommate should have went over to the kids' house. Their house is more prepared for them since they live there, and it's easier for 1 person to go there than drag 4 kids to a different house. I honestly would not be happy if I was OP either. I wouldn't like my home being used as a daycare without advanced notification. Not everyone likes or wants kids around, for some people it is a big deal, especially when they act like that. Also, you have to think of the burden having guests can have on your roommate. Adults can be ok because they understand etiquette and try to stay out of your way, but kids are a different kind of guest because they don't understand these things. OP agreed on having 1 roommate, it might be just for a day, but she still got 4 extras on this occasion. 4 extra people, especially kids, uses a lot of resources and space. If I suddenly got 4 extra people in my home today, kids no less, I'd be incredibly overwhelmed.

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#9, I don't have too much experience with children, much less with an injured child, and given the earlier responses I gave this probably wasn't as severe as I made it seem, but when you have a 6-year-old with lots of blood running down his face in your living room and you also have no clue if he has a concussion or not because none of you have any first aid/medical training it's pretty freaking terrifying. Especially when you have 2 other kids ten and under freaking out about it as well. When I wrote the post I still wasn't entirely confident the kid was going to be OK because he still hadn't seen a professional or anything, all of the urgent care places around us were closed so that waited for the next morning. She was able to get him cleaned up, bandaged and checked him out for concussions using advice from a trauma nurse she knows but it was a lot to take in for the night. Particularly when you didn't know they were coming over for the night to begin with.

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Oh yeah, head wounds bleed like crazy and always look severe. My brother once got hit in the head with a rock, and even though it was a half inch or less it covered half his face in blood.

By  JoshuaZore  |  11

I hope that you can talk to your roommate. She should be giving you proper warning about her siblings coming over and should be clear about how long their stay is. Also you need to make it clear that if they can't behave they are not welcome. It is a shared apartment not a daycare. If their behaviour is that bad she should be going to them, not disturbing you. Also make sure the roommate pays for the replacement of everything her siblings broke. They were her guests, therefore her responsibility.

By  orangejubejube  |  20

To be fair, maybe she didn't know that they were coming until an hour before hand. This sucks, but maybe she was just as bummed as you guys to find out she'd be strapped with four young kids all night. Some parents think of older siblings as free babysitting, anytime, it's really unfair

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  LyricaSilvan  |  29

Maybe, but she didn't have to accept. Surely her parents could have taken the kids to a daycare instead of suddenly imposing upon their daughter and her roommates.

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  orangejubejube  |  20

If this was a date night for the parents, most daycare's aren't open past the regular workday (5-6pm). As well, parents might not want to hire a 'real' babysitter when they have a free one. And while she could have said no, think of the guilt trip you'd get later...

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