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Today, my new boyfriend asked why it takes me so long to reach orgasm. I didn't have the heart to tell him that he's never even given me one. FML

By Jen - / Tuesday 20 March 2012 05:11 / United States - Woodland Hills
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  TunechiXXL  |  0

Time to get a "REAL" man that knows what he's doing, I feel sorry for both of you....

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  SkoomaKi  |  24

I hate when girls do this! Why can't OP just tell her boyfriend he can't make her climax? Then at least he could try harder! Who gives a shit if he gets hurt by it!

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  kyarush  |  10

Doesn't matter. Had sex

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  israelnotjacob  |  20

Yeah I agree 83. As much as somebody immature on here is likely going to make fun of me, I'm not afraid to admit that my fiancee never has orgasms during regular sex for some reason. I don't think it's cause either of us are necessarily doing something wrong, but she can only seem to hit it when she does it herself. I hate that I haven't been able to please her better, but I'm glad she's never faked it just so that I feel better. I'd feel a lot worse if I realized after some time that she'd been faking it over and over.

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  22cute  |  17

Op you need to find the "heart" to tell him the truth or he never will give you one!! It's not kindness to lie like that - it's cowardice & it's screwed up.

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  AninOnin  |  24

I agree, 152, but it's hard when you're in that situation to be like "I know this is gonna be such a huge turnoff and you'll probably hate me for a while but you've never actually given me an orgasm and I've just been faking it all this time. Try harder?" It's much easier to keep quiet and not face any disappointment if, after you tell the truth, they don't really want to make the effort of giving you an orgasm.

By  badam_fml  |  6

Tell him or it will end badly or purly - besides it sucks not to have an orgazm.

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It won't end badly! Not all relationships are about sex.

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  downtime  |  12

52, No need to jump on the prude bandwagon, nobody said the relationship would end. They were referring to the situation ending badly, for example spending her entire relationship never orgasming or the feelings he will feel when he finds out after some time that she has been faking. It's bad enough reading those annoying "sex isn't important" comments without them being completely redundant.

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  joeyl2008  |  28

Exactly. If you're having sex you should be able to openly talk about sex. Tell him what you like and what you don't like and as long as he isn't a minute man you not having an orgasm is as much on you as it is him

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  ScarNuts  |  8

I, my friends have a Chode, therefore making it almost impossible to make woman orgasm with it. But fear not! For God himself gave us 10 fingers and a tongue did he not?

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  SeeSea  |  11

yeah..my bf has always satisfied me but if there's anything that either one of us is doing isn't satisfactory we always tell each other. if you never tell him he'll never know how to get you there

By  ObsessedWithMe  |  13

Aw, what a good girlfriend you are. Let him down easy.

By  RahmEsHestos  |  5

Well your a nice person for considering his feelings.

By  badactor009  |  0

Don't tell him! There is all kinds of sex self help out there. Show him what you like and keep at it. Hope he gets to rockin the boat... If not, you decide how important that is to you.

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I disagree. You should tell him, but don't tell him in a bitchy way. Tell him what you like or what will help you achieve one. If you dont you will have a crappy sex life with him.

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  Anai08  |  17

I completely disagree. It's important that you keep lines of communication open for all aspects of your relationship. It doesn't set a good precedent if you guys just started dating and don't feel like you can be completely honest. Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Maybe try again, but this time walk him through how your feeling and what you like. It'll be better that way in the long run.

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  dustbunny10  |  0

Although I agree with honesty and communication, but I do not agree with you suggesting the op to tell her bf about his incompetency. No guy likes to get his eagle bruised. Not telling him that he's been incompetent in bed is probably a good idea so in the long run he doesn't feel self conscious or inadequate during sex. The best way is to sit down and tell him what she likes and what not, and during sex she can also learn to use her words to let him know what is good for her. That's more of a turn on than anything for the guy in my experience as oppose to telling him he sucks even if you chose your words nicely to "let him down".

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  Callyn  |  41

The boyfriend already feels inadequate, why else would he ask her this? The best thing for the OP to do is tell him, otherwise he won't get better. Guys can take constructive criticism, they're not going to curl up in a ball if you tell them they suck in bed especially if you are willing to help them get better.

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  downtime  |  12

10 is kind of right...kind of. If you don't tell him but while in bed together start asking him to do different things to you, it would probably work better than letting him down in any capacity. Despite wording it in a kind way, he will immediately see it as a failure on his part. This could cause more problems than it solves. But it depends on the guy too..

By  micahsmommy  |  13

Take some control and teach him what you like. Every girl is different and maybe what worked for his prior girlfriend isn't your cup of tea. Help the guy out and it will be better for both of you.

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  crammer1  |  6

I would have to agree. Even men aren't all the same when it comes to sex and foreplay. Everyone is different what works well for one, does not work well for all.

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