On a completely unrelated note; you look like Justin Bieber if she was male and Scandinavian.

This. She's saying her son liked bimbos before you came along, and you're insulted she doesn't think you're a bimbo? Oversensitive much? Maybe YOU'RE the one with issues about your looks, not you MIL.

Wouldn't you have issues with your looks if your MIL told you that her son previously dated models and cheerleader types? Comparing ourselves to everyone else is a natural way of thinking, even though there is nothing wrong with the way OP looks.

@Evie, While your interpretation is perfectly valid, I read the MIL 2nd response as saving face, since OP didn't seem to feel that was the gist of the original comment.

I don't know...the stereotype of models and cheerleaders is that they are usually very attractive. So imo (though I'm only judging by the way the FML is worded) it's pretty obvious that the mother in law thinks her son's wife isn't as good looking as those previous girlfriends. Generally if someone says you aren't a "model type" or a "cheerleader" type, they mean you aren't all that attractive.

Whats with all the closeminded unrealistic stereotypes..!? Theres plenty of ugly cheerleaders out there as well as "unique" looking models that arent traditionally beautiful. Beauty is one of those ever changing social constructions with many deciding factors, namely time, location, culture etc etc .."beautiful" girls can have ugly days or ugly periods of life, they can also be smart.. we'rjust as smart girls can blossom, become dumber, have dumb moments or

Agreed with Evie. MIL was trying to be nice. OP was being oversensitive. 63: No, I wouldn't. But I don't have esteem issues.

Stoopid touch screen... accidently pressed send before I was done typing! without re-typing the same thing over again what I was going to continue to say was: Its not as if we're coded with one or the other! ..the smart "awkward looking" girls at the front of the class can blossom into beauties, or become less intelligent, they can have dumb moments or simply not have a level of intelligence that meets every criteria needed to be a mensa candidate.. again intelligence is also something that can be socially constructed. We're all beautiful, ugly, smart and dumb in our owns ways!! ..n who bloody cares.. Just saying, Rant over.. :S

My MIL says plenty of dumb things to me, many of which could be interpreted as offensive. They aren't though, she just doesn't think. Like when my husband moved in with me she later commented how surprised she was it worked out as she had assumed he'd be back within a week! But she didn't mean it to be nasty and it would never occur to her that it sounded rude. Our relationship is better because I don't assume the defensive position automatically. That's my suggestion for OP too, because there's really nothing in the post to indicate her MIL meant to be cruel. In my experience, when a boy's mother wants to be a bitch to you, she doesn't follow it up by calling you smart. Or care if your feelings are hurt enough to clarify she meant something else.

Just be queit please.

Um we can all stop hating on the poor girl her mother in law most likely did call her ugly and us girls are always worried about our body don't be a bitch!!!

I've known smart cheerleaders. Not all are dumb as one may think.

I think they're refering specifically to these cheerleaders who were described as dumb by her MIL.

That's her mother-in-law.

Some people actually like fat arses