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Unfortunately, not many of you guys are getting my problem. We have been together for 5yrs. I've had a high sex drive our entire relationship. He watches porn almost every night, after I've gone to the bedroom. We HAVE discussed this... MANY times. He says jacking off is just less work and he'd rather use his hand than undress and have to worry about having sex, therefore being "too spent" for sex for sometimes months at a time. I have no problem with porn or masterbation in general. It can be a healthy, sometimes needed release. But not when your wife is horny all the time, always doing the experimentations you ask for, and you just don't want to take time out of your Play Station time to actually have some intimacy. He was done with me after he got off after less than 3min and instead of asking for a Round 2, which he KNOWS I'm always down for, he went and hid what he was doing.
By kaijen - / Friday 9 September 2016 05:11 / United States - Washington
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By  chosha_fml  |  23

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

By  booman342  |  13

Communication is the most important part of any relationship. How can you hope for a problem to be solved if your other half isn't aware of it in the first place? I'm not criticizing you or your husband, I just want you to remember that healthy conversation about these issues is the healthiest way of resolving them.

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By  booman342  |  13

Communication is the most important part of any relationship. How can you hope for a problem to be solved if your other half isn't aware of it in the first place? I'm not criticizing you or your husband, I just want you to remember that healthy conversation about these issues is the healthiest way of resolving them.

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  kaijen  |  9

And I could see your point if I haven't talked to him about this for YEARS and tried to compromise and tried the experimentations he wants, tried counseling, etc.

By  chosha_fml  |  23

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Not everyone is cool with their significant other getting off with porn. Also it be one thing if he actually did anything to get op off, he just used a toy by what I gathered, fucked her for probably like 2 minutes and waited for her to go to sleep so he could get off with porn? It just sounds like he's not into their sex life, for whatever reason it may be.

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  vmm  |  11

You may not be cool with your partner looking at porn behind your back, but statically speaking they are masturbating behind your back. They are either thinking about you, but sometimes thinking about someone else or looking at porn. Both sexes do it. Maybe your partner finds it easier to spare your feelings on this topic?

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  PANDORUM89  |  21

Why does it matter how a guy gets off? If women required visual stimulation they would be up in arms in a man said they shouldn't do that. Also he is right, why should she be the only to get off more than once, and ik this time she didn't but maybe she faked it and made him think she got off two times? Also it doesn't matter HOW she orgasmed. A lot of women can't get off via penetration and have to use toys are some creativity. It doesn't make the sec any less intimate and if she is keeping score of crap like this she is bound to stay unhappy for a long time. Either communicate what you want in bed or shut your trap, you don't get both.

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  rldostie  |  19

If my man is watching porn and jerking off, I want in on that. If he's randy enough to jerk off, then he should be good for another round or two. While I always understand everyone needs a little self love, if I'm in the area, why not just have sex? It feels like a wasted opportunity to me. And just because they had sex ONCE and she got off ONCE doesn't mean she wouldn't have been up for more.

By  Fireant_man  |  6

I think getting off on a toy is way worse when using just his hand

By  vmm  |  11

Masturbating to porn is normal. Maybe next time offer to help ;)

By  LowExpectations  |  30

I don't know how long you two been married but you two need to talk, talk, and talk some more until you know each others sexual needs and fantasies. Me and my spouse know each other's needs and we can make each other orgasm easily if we want to. You got to open up to each other and see what works best for both of you. So grab that lazy husband of yours by the cock and explain to him what you need.

By  vogonpoet  |  5

This sounds like an uncomfortable marriage. Sex is about more than just having an orgasm. It's bonding with you partner if you do it with love. OP, please talk with your husband if neither of you is happy with your sex life.

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