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By Anonymous - / Wednesday 10 June 2015 16:13 / United States - Inez
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Birthing comes before poor parenting. Good parenting comes before birthing, as the preconception and prenatal periods are absolutely vital to an organisms development.

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How many times do I have to explain this? A big white bird with a basket in his beak flies over married people houses and drops said basket on their front door. In said basket there is .. A bottle of lube.

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36 of course it pisses him off, when I got a younger sibling my life went from good to bad, 12 years later and hes still pestering me over little annoying things that make no sense

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Really? My child has absolutely no say in whether or not I have more children. That's just ridiculous to even consider. This is coming from someone who is 2 years older than my sis, and 12 years older than my brother. I raised both of them.

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@logicnazi, I can completely understand where you're coming from. My sister and I also differ 10 years in age. After being an only child for so long, it was very difficult to adjust to having someone else take up all the attention. I also became a "third parent" and had to take on many of the parenting responsibilities. That said, I still don't think OP should have had to include the kid in the decision-making process. It is something between OP and their partner/spouse. Also, we don't know what the circumstances were. Maybe it wasn't a planned pregancy. Accidents do happen. Maybe OP was infertile. That's the reason why my sibling is 10 years younger than me. My mother couldn't have any more children, so she was just as surprised as the doctor when they found out she was pregnant. Things happen. Sometimes the situation doesn't allow you to just drag the older sibling into it.

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The problem with this isn't parents choosing to have more children, it's parents using their older kids to care for their siblings. I'm sure not all parents force those duties on older children.

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128 & 234. I agree completely. Those are very good points to bring to the discussion. I was merely providing an alternative perspective for round table discussion. Like a share holders meeting. Sure the parents hold most of the stakes and decision making process, and ultimately the decision is theirs either way because they hold majority vote, but the other share holder(s) (child) should still be allowed to freely express his opinion. (And like I said earlier, manners discussion held aside/constant for arguments sake. Sense we all agree it was ill mannered)

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No. If parents choose to have more than one child, they should be caring for the other child(ren), not putting the responsibility onto the oldest child. I had frequently watch over my sister as a kid. It was my job to keep her out of trouble and I always got the blame if she did something she shouldn't have. Unsurprisingly, I don't like her and having to be responsible for her until I left home is the very reason I am choosing to never having any kids of my own. I know some people like caring for children and that's great, but I am not one of those people. I am not going to spend nearly two more decades of my life being responsible for someone else's existence.

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#119. I completely understand. My parents don't care if I swear, and believe me I do. I just can't bring myself to do it in front of them; it feels weird and disrespectful. You can still be a fun person, and family without having to disrespect people.

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My family swears a lot, I actually learned a lot of my swear phrases from my grandma. I swear with them, but not at them. That would be considered disrespectful, at least in my family.

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I believe he knows how he was created judging from his response. He just doesn't like the fact that his parents are having another child. Which will divert their attention from him to the baby.

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Well, if the parents show some favoritism it can be a problem. I liked the thought of having a younger sister until my parents started favoring her. To this day my sister can punch/slap/hit me and when I object it's labeled as "uncalled for" by my parents.

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@95 I wasn't talking about him swearing. Yes he probably knows you're not supposed to swear at school or anywhere. I meant about the part where he said his mom should have kept her legs closed. That's just vile on so many levels, and he probably didn't understand that he was making a sexist/slut shaming statement.

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I think the soap is punishment enough. I sassed back to my mom once when I was younger and I never did it again. Just get the liquid soap on the gums OP and I guarantee he'll never talk like that again!

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the post said 'my husband and I' which implies they were together when they told him. The fact is that he shouldn't have said anything like that, but if he did only say something to his mom then it is bad. He probably doesn't know it's sexists but it is. Just because kids are ignorant to what it really means doesn't mean they can be sexist, racist, or anything else.

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Get a grip #186, not every feminist is a paranoid man hater. I agree with 10. It’s pretty disturbing that he slut shames his mom for getting pregnant when it was both his parents decision. There is big difference between an attention seeking tantrum and telling his mom to “keep her fucking legs closed”.

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#192 > I wonder why you’re trying to put our comments on some feminist agenda although no one said here that they were feminist. I fail to see as well where anyone brought out the “pickets”. So far I only read comments advising to ground him and teach him to respect his parents better. Lashing out at his mom would be something like “I hate you, you ugly”! Telling her to keep her legs closed is something altogether different. He probably does not realize clearly how sexist and insulting that sounds but he definitely needs to be taught, among good manners, that someone’s sexuality is their own business and that pregnancy is both the father and mother’s responsibility. I’ve heard this type of comment actually uttered at single moms by much older people so it’s never too early to set the record straight.

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