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By  nasajd  |  9

Sounds like a natural fear that the two of you can work through together to a mutually satisfactory result. Getting her to face her fear is important for your relationship.

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  Feared  |  9

This illness really sucks for guys. It actually is very embarrassing for men because of they have this illness, their fear will keep them soft similar to erectile dysfunction. It's not as bad for women, because they just have to lay there and take it without fear of a sexual dysfunction.

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  doctorwhogirl  |  0

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  thalibabexd  |  0

There is actually a sexual dysfunction for women called vaginismus. There are vaginal spasms which make it impossible to women to have sex, instead of pleasure.. It's extreme pain.

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  XxDevilxXGt  |  26

This isn't really an illness. Phobias are just something caused by your brain at an early time when you experienced something... So basically it's all in her head, meaning you can slowly help her get over it. The brain is a powerful thing, and it can easily force itself to think one way. This also is te case for being sick. If you have the mentality that you are sick and this is going to be really bad, chances are you're causing it to get worse. If you believe that the sickness doesn't stand a chance at ruining your week, then you'll be fighting it off more effectively. I've never been sick for more than three days on average, because I just say F you sickness! :) (Also it helps to eat honey, eggs, and lemon juice xD)

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  Feared  |  9

34- that is true, but unlike many causes of erectile dysfunction in men, that sexual dysfunction in women isn't influenced greatly by the mind. Whether or not a man is soft or hard is greatly influenced by the mind. If a man is nervous about losing his virginity, than his non sexually arousing and fearful thoughts will keep him soft.

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  chell1894  |  13

You're an ass. This shouldnt be an fml. And since you made it one clearly your self centered and your biggest want from this "relationship" is some pussy.

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  KMtheDrummer  |  6

79 - What makes you think that's all he wants? For all we know, he could have been dating for a while and both of them felt like they were ready, except for her phobia.

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  Feared  |  9

116- if I experienced everything that I had a knowledge about, than I would be a one messed up mother fucker. Knowledge does not equal personal experience.

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  Characterise  |  0

so maybe she thinks she has this thing because she DOESNT wanna waste it on you when you prob fuck off after anyway maybe she wants it at marriage IF YOUS aren't already married or doesn't want to till after years being together to make sure after all it's not a fml you have to respect it no matter what

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  downtime  |  12

178 That was the dumbest argument you could have given. I think we would appreciate your comments more if you ended them all with "Just trollin'". This way we can all have a good laugh at how you fooled us into thinking you were a complete imbecile, rather than be frustrated because we know it to be true.

By  nasajd  |  9

Sounds like a natural fear that the two of you can work through together to a mutually satisfactory result. Getting her to face her fear is important for your relationship.

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  XxDevilxXGt  |  26

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  chocol8m  |  6

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  docscientist  |  9

How does this comment have thumbs up? If the gf actually has a phobia she isn't going to just 'get over it'. And the men thinking with dicks was completely irrelevant.

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  israelnotjacob  |  20

I agree. It's so pathetic how everyone nowadays thinks it's impossible to have a relationship without sex. My fiancee and I were together over two years before ever having sex and we are very happy together. If he just tells her sex or not he still wants to be with her and help her to feel good about who she is eventually she will decide she wants to get past those fear.

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  lucas755  |  1

I don't understand your comment... You're chastising men for "thinking with their dicks" and yet suggesting that he help her overcome her fear of having sex?

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  israelnotjacob  |  20

I do. He means that she clearly has a problem because it's an irrational fear. So the guy can help her get past that by loving her and making her feel good about who she is, and then when the time comes when she's ready it'll happen. Just wanting sex by itself doesn't mean you're exclusively thinking with your genitals. Being willing to wait for the time when she is ready is putting her and your brain first.

By  Shadow_Phantom  |  26

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  yahoowizard  |  16

Yeah, I respect phobias and all that, but part of me says it's the same thing a lot of women have initially. I mean, unless she's been in the situation before, hard to tell

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  yahoowizard  |  16

I mean, let's say phobia of snakes. It's going to take a while, step by step of encountering them again and again before you get over it. With this, one session and the phobia can't exist anymore.

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  mdtdnb  |  7

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  mdtdnb  |  7

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  AmbrosiaWriter  |  17

Sex isn't always a huge part of a healthy relationship, most people just want to assume it is. Not every relationship runs off a formula that says if X, Y, and Zed are true then the relationship will be a huge success!

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  downtime  |  12

But in this case the individual did specify that "statistically speaking" this is correct. That said, you could still say it is a big part of a healthy relationship, but just because there exists some people for whom sex counts for nought, it doesnt make the statement wrong. The same applies to a lot of areas of sociology and health, for instance you'd say trust and honesty are a big part of a healthy relationship even though there exists people for whom this doesn't apply at all.

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  salmonodin  |  9

Sex is a healthy part of marriage, not a relationship. Do you know how many girls have sex with their boyfriend and then get dumped? Doesn't sound very healthy to me. You need to show a girl that you can carry a sexless relationship with her because you respect her. Sex can wait.

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  downtime  |  12

246 Just because some people do that doesn't mean that this happens even in the majority of cases. Sex and respect aren't mutually exclusive. People don't have to be abstinent to show respect for someone, and the phenomenon you're speaking of mostly exists because our society doesn't approve of non monogamous relationships - despite our biology. It is to be expected in teenage years because people are ruled mostly by their hormones, and tend to express a less refined side of humanity.

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  draegbomb  |  5

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  AmbrosiaWriter  |  17

He's implying that she said "if she had a boyfriend" meaning that she doesn't, and it's because she gets upset when her boyfriend kisses other girls. As if it's the norm to let your boyfriend run around makking out with other women and she is an over-controlling witch.

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  hilary56  |  0

I think 110 thinks it's a great statement (hes being sarcastic) because she doesn't have a boyfriend and doesn't know the situtation so he thinks she has no room to talk. But I agree with 85

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