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By  breedles  |  28

Hey, now... desiring certainty has little to do with self loathing, it sounds like you wanted some security. That's pretty human, don't beat yourself up over it. I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend though, FYL

By  CamBen42  |  27

To be perfectly honest what you did may turn out to be a favor to both you and her to avoid future heartbreak. I sympathize, but maybe this will turn out well. Dont get too down about it and try to stay on the bright side

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By  breedles  |  28

Hey, now... desiring certainty has little to do with self loathing, it sounds like you wanted some security. That's pretty human, don't beat yourself up over it. I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend though, FYL

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  fakedsincerity  |  32

Yeah. There's so much stigma around being "clingy" or "needy" when it's pretty natural especially at times of uncertainty. Of course there is a limit and each person needs/wants a different level I think that's an important thing to be compatible on. Idk. Sorry things went badly OP.

By  CamBen42  |  27

To be perfectly honest what you did may turn out to be a favor to both you and her to avoid future heartbreak. I sympathize, but maybe this will turn out well. Dont get too down about it and try to stay on the bright side

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Yup, I was in the same situation and I immediately said OK when she came back, only for her to change her mind and cheat on me a month later. I wish I had asked if she was really sure about it.

By  soodytheboi  |  23

It's ok OP I don't think you deserved this. I always have wanted a feeling of security and I don't blame you for wanting it. I'm sorry and I hope things turn out well for you.

By  HUGBUG  |  21

Idiot

By  Mons_fml  |  26

You ended up doing the right thing OP. Even if it was unintentional. Theres no taking brakes in relationships, theres no pause button. All that is is postponing the inevitable.

By  booman342  |  13

I know that I personally can't stand periods of uncertainty. I'd honestly have my girlfriend break up with me rather than have the two of us in a state of limbo.

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This is an honest question; it's not meant to piss anyone off. Am I the only one that doesn't believe in the concept of being on a break in a relationship? Either you're together or you're not. Being "on a break", to me anyway, has always really meant "we're broken up, but don't want to say so". Just my thoughts, though, and I'd love to hear everyone else's. :)

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  Nyattack  |  14

It hasn't happened to me and I'm very happy with my own relationship, but to me it seems pretty reasonable for a person, especially if their life is quite busy and they've gotten into too much of a routine with their partner, to want to take a step back and analyze the situation. Entering and maintaining a committed relationship with someone is very serious, it affects our whole life ! It could be helpful to be away from someone to realize how much (or little) you care about that person, and reflect on where you'd like your relationship to go !

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  DoomedGemini  |  37

When you are in times of severe stress or change with little time for one another I think it's possible to take a break. Honestly it's a bit upsetting to see people claim that it's not possible, you should just give up hope.

By  TMO2142  |  23

that isnt self-loathing bud, its making sure she is sure about it and its better it happens in the break than if you two are back together again, saves the heart break

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