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Maybe you're pushing too hard, and you're at the early stages of the relationship, and she's not ready to return those feelings? Maybe she just couldn't word it correctly. I wouldn't say break up with her. I'd say try to discuss it, and see where the issues lie, and if there really isn't any hope of your love being mutual, then that would be the time to end it and move on.

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I always heard it as the pursuer/chaser and the settler. interesting though. Yeah, OP sometimes giving your person a little space is the best way to get them to adore you more.

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It's an unhealthy relationship if your gf doesn't appreciate your love for her. I mean if you're putting forth most of the effort into the relationship and not having the same amount of effort be reciprocated...you might wanna question if she's even worth your time.

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Nowhere do I read that she doesn't appreciate his love. My guess is that's she's afraid that she can't give the same amount of love she receives and feels pretty guilty about it, like, that she's losing in a competive 'who loves who more' match. Perhaps OP tries too hard to be perfect and she can't compete with it?

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I agree, 27. Relationships are not competitions, but sometimes it tends to feel that way in an unhealthy relationship. I don't think she's a bad person but I would understand why OP would want to break up with her. I wouldn't want to be with someone who loved me a lot less than I loved them. OP shouldn't be forced to be with someone who doesn't share the same feelings, and his girlfriend shouldn't be forced to be with someone who she thinks is overwhelming/clingy. Just my two cents.

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Maybe OP just spoils her more and shows his love in more measurable ways, it may not mean that she loves him less necessarily but it's less measurable so she is feeling a bit smothered with love. I tend to get that way with my wife, I tend to spoil her a lot more than she spoils me but I know that she loves me at least as much but shows it in different ways.

Maybe you're pushing too hard, and you're at the early stages of the relationship, and she's not ready to return those feelings? Maybe she just couldn't word it correctly. I wouldn't say break up with her. I'd say try to discuss it, and see where the issues lie, and if there really isn't any hope of your love being mutual, then that would be the time to end it and move on.

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