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Have a smaller wedding and tell her that you can't accept her help if it's conditional. This isn't the way to start a marriage, with her asserting her authority over your decisions.

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That movie sucked. Super sucked. Now as for the FML. Hey....here's an idea. Earn your money for your own wedding or sacrifice having something lavish and just pay for it YOURSELVES. If your mother-in-law thinks just because she is paying for a portion, that she can have her own input...maybe she should go throw a wedding for herself? Its your day, definitely not hers. Tell her so. No effing way this could work out fine unless you two agree on many things in other situations and have similar tastes! But I doubt this would be FML if that was the case.

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If she is paying, it's her fucking choice. If you don't want her to have her way then she won't pay, simple as that. Would you put money into something wanting absolutely no authority at all? Didn't think so.

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kritzo- the parents traditionally pay for the wedding. and in case you didn't realize but getting money for a wedding that's probably happening in the very near future is almost impossible, unless you want to be married in a barn and your honey moon is staying at your parent's house while they're out of town for the weekend. dip shit.

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tradition? it's 2011 most people don't follow traditions anymore. I agree that op should pay for their own wedding if they don't want anyone budding in.

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@ 109 it's hard to come up with a wedding money but if you were planning on having a wedding you should of been saving, you shouldn't have been spontaneously marrying someone in the first place without money because this is a "commitment" or it'll end up as a divorce because they "loved each other"

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Well the choice is still yours.. Either make all your own choices with your own money, or get the wedding paid for free and clear. This FML is weak, you whiney bitch.

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Autoshot, "putting money into the wedding" does not mean that they are getting the wedding paid for free and clear. That means that the Future mother-in-law is just contributing money to the wedding fund. The OP and his/her fiance are most likely still paying for a good deal of the wedding themselves.

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@forgettingsunday Uhm yeah...and it's still the early 1900's. Women can't vote nor do they hold down stable jobs, eh? You've got to be effing kidding me! Are you this DENSE at all times? Me and my hubby paid for our wedding with 300+ guests, a RECEPTION also A-N-D half of our honeymoon with less than a year to plan. It CAN be done, you've got to be a complete fucking 'DIP SHIT' to not understand the concept. Fucking dumbass.

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Miss 61, I have three loaded pistols and one "gun" close to hand. Which one you wanna hold? The .22cal, .25cal, and 9mm pistols are free. But I charge for Mr. Happy, the Ol' lady insists that he brings in money, business only, not for fun.

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Nice, but I've got a .45 ACP, 40. S&W, .38 Special, .44 Mag, 357. Mag, a .22 LR and a 12 gauge all within reach, also I was pretty much born with a six shooter in my hand. :)

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If you two don't care at all about the wedding arrangements you could go along with her and tell her you're just doing it to make her happy. With the way she phrased it though, I wouldn't want to take the offer at all. It is your life and your wedding, not hers. If you don't assert yourself now, it will just get harder. I would tell her "No, thank you", save up for a great honeymoon, and elope. Let her know, together, that her domineering attitude will not be tolerated but that she is welcome in your home without it. You'll be family soon.

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Thank you, Imaginary! Finally a level headed opinion. Yes, OP it is "your" wedding but as long as she is helping financially she should be allowed some input. If you don't want her involvement, don't take her money. You may end up with a smaller, more intimate wedding, but it would be all yours. Whatever you decide to do, do it respectfully. In all likelihood you'll be seeing your mother-in-law for many years to come; really what do you lose by being courteous to her?

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Yeah OP, you news to show your mother-in-law that this is YOUR wedding and you're gonna do it the way YOU want to do it. I mean this isn't her wedding, she needs to let her son and future daughter-in-law make their own decisions.

Have a smaller wedding and tell her that you can't accept her help if it's conditional. This isn't the way to start a marriage, with her asserting her authority over your decisions.

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