By nolongerengaged - 03/02/2009 17:08 - United States

Today, my fiance told me that he no longer loves me, that he still has feelings for an ex. The wedding is off and he needs the ring back to give to the right woman. FML
I agree, your life sucks 77 824
You deserved it 3 897

Same thing different taste

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Re #6: Yeah, but she isn't the one who is breaking the promise to get married! He did! I'm a law student, and there is no consensus amongst courts as to what to do when an engagement is broken off. Some jurisdictions say that no matter what, the man gets the ring back since he bought it. Others say the one who didn't break off the engagement, is the one who keeps the ring, since it was a gift conditioned on a marriage occurring. Other courts say it's an inter vivos gift made to the woman and doesn't have to be returned. I say do the research and find out what your jurisdiction says. If they say you can keep the ring, I say screw him and keep it/pawn it. Furthermore, I believe the Emily Post approach is if you are a girl who breaks off an engagement, you return the ring. If he breaks it off, you keep the ring. Why make his life any easier? Sell the damn thing and treat yourself to a vacation so you can forget that loser. With time, you'll see he did you a huge favor that he revealed his true nature now, instead of down the line. I wish you the best of luck. God bless.

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agree with 2, then he"ll be saying FML

I for sure would keep the ring! Judge Judy would tell you the same thing Keep that ring!

Stephany_fml 0

Yeah, sell the ring and insist you threw it in his yard while you drove by, then watch him search for weeks. :-D

Re #6: Yeah, but she isn't the one who is breaking the promise to get married! He did! I'm a law student, and there is no consensus amongst courts as to what to do when an engagement is broken off. Some jurisdictions say that no matter what, the man gets the ring back since he bought it. Others say the one who didn't break off the engagement, is the one who keeps the ring, since it was a gift conditioned on a marriage occurring. Other courts say it's an inter vivos gift made to the woman and doesn't have to be returned. I say do the research and find out what your jurisdiction says. If they say you can keep the ring, I say screw him and keep it/pawn it. Furthermore, I believe the Emily Post approach is if you are a girl who breaks off an engagement, you return the ring. If he breaks it off, you keep the ring. Why make his life any easier? Sell the damn thing and treat yourself to a vacation so you can forget that loser. With time, you'll see he did you a huge favor that he revealed his true nature now, instead of down the line. I wish you the best of luck. God bless.

texangal10_utatx 0

fyi...same thing happened to me...but mine still tries to keep me and him goin and her and him goin while he is overseas in kuwait (army) i'm from tx she is from florida he has been engaged to her for a yr been with her for 3yrs and me few mths and just proposed to me...when he got back I was suppose to move in with him and I might be prego...he said that she broke it off with him...but she was prego and he wanted custody and me to be his wife and mother of his kids!! Me and her talk everyday and he thinks we stopped talkin but we talk at least an hour everyday bout wat he tells us...he still says he loves me!!

I went through the same thing except I actually married him then he cheated on me, got someone pregnant and I finally left him. It is a very difficult thing to go through but be strong and most important KNOW you are worth so much more than that. Pawn the ring and never look back. You'll find happiness again :)

flyingdjs 0

Ok. none of you mentioned how ridiculous it is that the guy wants to give the same ring to a new bride. WTF? that's messed up. If i was the guy, there would be no way i'd ask for the ring back after all i put my ex-fiance thru. screw it woman! just give that shit back! what a crappy fella.

POSE1DON 0

uhm first of all learn to write correctly **** how old are you how can it be that you cant even write a correct sentence. AND who cares man if he loves an ex go watch that movie "hes just not that into you "

Give him the ring back. Then laugh at his ex because she recieved a second hand ring.

You get to keep the ring. He called off the wedding, not you. There for you get to keep it. It's the law. Don't you just love legislation sometimes? Then you should pawn it and buy yourself something nice.

It's technically a gift, right? So, I say keep it. Get some money from and do something that makes YOU happy! (I know this post is old, I'm just going through random FMLs)