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Ah. So actually, he dumped you. He will just come back if all the relationships with the other girls fail. Ah. You're not going back to him, right?

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I would love to know how old OP and her (hopefully) ex boyfriend are. It would either make sense of this story, or kill the rest of my hopes for America's love life.

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My girlfriend did the something similar, yesterday "lets take a break and we dont find other people we come back to eachother" I just told her screw you, im not your second choice. Hope you do the same.

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66. I don't really agree, i have only had my fiancé, and we have been together for 5 years now, we never ague, we have a simple sexlfe and i am not thirsthing for other people at all. And i would honestly rather die then cheat, it disgust me and is slutty. :) so it depends on the person

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@66 No, it doesn't. Maybe in the short term, but you're acclimatizing yourself to a completely different lifestyle. Feeding an urge doesn't make it go away. Using the logic you presented having an enjoyable drinking experience should help get the urge out of an alcoholic. (yes, it quenches the immediate thirst, but are you really going to tell me that it doesn't still control him?) It's just a lie people tell themselves to justify what they're doing, one that's managed to become socially a

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I actually agree with 66. Although this dickhead just an ass, it is a good to experience other people than to be with only one person forever. 110, I'm sure you and your fiancé ate great together, but in the long run, 5 years is nothing. Over a period of 5, 10, 15 years of marriage, it's understandable that a man or woman's mind would wonder. I'm not saying that it's okay to try and get your girlfriend to wait for you while you get laid, but if you're not sure, you should break up and date other

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If OP and her boyfriend are still young, then as upsetting as it might be, it's better for him to "get it out of his system" now, so to speak, than regret not doing it later.

Ah. So actually, he dumped you. He will just come back if all the relationships with the other girls fail. Ah. You're not going back to him, right?

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I disagree firefail; I at least would like to think when you love someone (enough to want to marry them.) That there shouldn't be any second guessing, or a desire to see what else is out there, even if they are young. Although, I may have an overly optimistic and romanticized view of love, but a girl can dream, can't they?

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A girl can dream, but it will only make her more disappointed. This guy should have broken up with her, darted around, and then asked her out again. Same result, only she doesn't get as hurt.

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'No maybe he really likes her and just wants to see what else is out there.' If he wants to see what else is out there, he obviously doesn't like her enough to be in a monogamous relationship, let alone in a marriage.

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#18 & #27 I understand you feeling that way but (as a 47 yo writer of relationship books) I can tell you love doesn't actually work that way for most men. Op will have a longer lasting marriage if her bf dates around first. Doesn't mean she needs to wait for him. Follow your heart and mind, always. Guys, it DOES work that way for women.

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39 in my opinion the goal of life is to make YOURSELF as happy as possible. You can't expect someone else to be totally selfless just to make you feel better.

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I'm in the exact same boat. Married 3 and a half years, he never regrets not dating around. He's even ha 2 deployments during our marriage, and all of his friends make fun of him because he is so loyal to me. One of his friends (female) told me that he outright cussed her out for trying to flirt because he loved me too much to mess around, and other guy friends make fun of him for not going to strip clubs with them. But he in no way feels like he is missing out. That's what true love is, not

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Oh come on, I'm not here for a couple of hours and the bullshit is already taking over the world. Firstly, 33, if a man truely loves a woman (and is into monogamous relationships), he doesn't even want to date other persons. A marriage might last longer if the two partners have already experience in relationships, but be honest, if you meet the love of your live, would you really be that insentive to tell her she can wait for you while you fuck other girls 'for the experience'? If so, she wo

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The sheer stupidity in this reply chain is migraine inducing. Viewing an individual as a future relationship investment while you fuck around is a revolting norm.

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I don't know. If OP and her boyfriend are 17 or so and have been dating since 15 then I think it is rather smart to date around (read date, not fuck) a bit before settling down. If it worked for some, great! But if he is unsure about it now he will definitely be unsure about it later if he doesn't at least try to see himself with other women. But to promise to marry you while being doubtful to the point of wanting to date others is complete bullshit. [personal story alert] My grandparents hav

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