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Being asexual doesn't necessarily mean that you don't want to be in a romantic relationship. It just means that you have no desire to ever have sex. Plenty of asexuals go on to have healthy sexless romantic relationships. Unless he is aromantic as well (he has no desire to have romantic relationships) or he felt that a sexless relationship would be unfair to you it kinda sounds like he was just looking for an excuse

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a·sex·u·al, adj. 1. without sexual feelings or associations. 2. BIOLOGY, (of reproduction) not involving the fusion of gametes. Don't be a moron, #46. And yes, I mean "moron" in the sense of a stupid person, not whatever other definitions it may or may not have.

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Have you people never even stopped to consider that a word might have more than one definition? Yes, asexual means that you can reproduce by yourself. However, it ALSO can mean that a person does not develop sexual attractions towards people. It's an ambiguous term.

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Being able to have sex without a partner: Asexual reproduction Not being affectionately attracted to someone else: Asexual THERE. Some of you were talking about asexual reproduction. It's okay, I once made that mistake myself. Except I wasn't rude about it...

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lgbtQ? I'm sorry, I'm not all into the lgbt stuff as much as others that I know (not that I don't support them!) but there's a Q now?! anyway, no it does not mean he's gay. It means he doesn't want sex. My friend's bf is like that and he cuddles the fuck out of her but thats it.

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the scientific definition of asexual is being able to reproduce by yourself. there may be some new social definition, but as far as I know it's usually used to describe organisms like starfish and cells that reproduce by simply splitting themselves apart.

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Guys. Asexual just means No sex. Like atheist means no God. The prefix "a" means no, none, without. Asexual reproduction means.reproduction without sex. An asexual person is someone who had no interest in sex. For example, Sheldon cooper. Poor OP is Amy.

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Wow, you guys get so mad at people who are right. The definition in which asexuality is not being sexually attracted to anyone only means that an asexual humana has mental or hormonal disorders and is unable to feel attracted to anything. OP's ex boyfriend should see a doctor.

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Besides, the only "actual" definitions for social asexuality are just Wikipedia definitions, which means they are user contributed. Asexuality is only officially recognized by it's biological meaning.

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Actually, I don't think you know what asexuality is. You're probably thinking of asexuality as the ability to reproduce by oneself, but you fail to realize that it has another definition. Asexuality can also mean the inability of developing sexual attractions. If this is the case, don't patronize other people if you don't know the exact details yourself.

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Forget about asexual reproduction for a minute. Asexuals don't feel sexual attraction, but it doesn't mean you can't be attracted to your partner. You can be attracted to them romantically, or queer-platonicaly. Also, an asexual can be partners with a sexual person. It CAN work out. When someone finds out that they are asexual, its best to talk with their partner before making any big decisions about the relationship.

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I'm in a long term relationship and identify as a grey-romantic asexual. I can have sex, and I think my partner is the most gorgeous thing on earth but actually getting to the point of sex takes a lot longer and it has to be planned.

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Could've turned out worse. Could be Sheldon's girlfriend Amy! Never ending frustration is not pleasant, you'll find someone compatible with your wants.

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Except that it will be horrible in most cases. Sex is a big part of my relationships. I would not be able to build one only on romance or something. That would make me incredibly unhappy.

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He might also be aromatic. It is always very possible that he assumed she would want a relationship with someone sexual or that he needed room to figure out what this means for him moving forward.

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It never says anything about their sexuality before realizing they're asexual? Never said they were hetero at all. And you don't really "convert" to another sexuality. It's not like religion.

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You can be heterosexual and asexual and you can be homosexual and asexual. You may want to Google what asexuality is before you make comments like that. By the way, your sexuality is not a choice. Do you just wake up every morning and decide what sexuality you want to be that day? I know that I don't. I believe that everyone is born the way that they are.

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It's not a conversion, it's a realization of your true sexuality. Most people don't even know that they are a certain sexuality until they learn about other people who are that sexuality.

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Sexuality is a spectrum. There are bisexuals, pansexuals, heterosexuals, homosexuals, asexuals, and just about everything in between. Some asexuals are happily married, but their marriage is a compromise that they have to figure out with their particular partner.

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While I agree with the content of your statement,I was saying I enjoy being sexually active, and a lot of the fmls lately that have been about this. Meh to each their own.

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It probably would have been best if they could have at least talked about it. Sexuals and Asexuals can be partners. Relationships are usually much more than just sex. If its just about sex, then there would be no point to have that kind of relationship with an asexual. But if the relationship also includes love, caring, loyalty, stuff like that, then breaking up over one missing thing without even talking about it would be unfair to the partner who had no idea what was going on.

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If OP liked him for more than just sex, its not that simple. There could have been other important parts of their relationship, like love and loyalty. Maybe he's aromantic too, but if not, they could have still had a relationship.

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actually, that would be correct. asexual means you're not sexually attracted toothed people, which is sexual appeal; different than sexual drive, which is basically being horny.

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