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I think you're missing the point 35, even though he is 23 he still listens to his mom (even though he doesn't have to) and maybe she said he's grounded for not doing his laundry or eating his veggies.

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#55 Ya well if he keeps letting his mom make his decisions, he is not going to have a girlfriend for much longer and you sound like the type of person that would be like his mom so I hope your kids( if you have or ever do have any) won't let you make their life decisions.

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I stopped listening to my dad grounding me when I was 18... I respect him, but there's a limit for how long your parents can control you. Doing the chores they ask you to while you live under their roof is one thing, being grounded at 23 is another. OPs boyfriend should really look into getting his own place.

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62, no need to get upset and use personal attacks. My point was that you were missing out on the jokes of the other two commenters. They didn't say he should listen to his mom, they were merely making fun of the fact that he was still listening to her. They said it was probably because he had to do laundry or eat his veggies as if he was a little boy. Which were funny jokes actually. But thank you for making fun of me personally.

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My boyfriend is 22 and still lives with his parents. He pays for rent with the financial aid money and cleans the house. Since he lives there, he still has to obey by their rules or get out. Not saying every rule is right, but sometimes you don't have much of a choice.

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Everything is the Debbol to you, Mama! Well, I like school, and I like football! And I'm gonna keep doin' them both because they make me feel good! And by the way, Mama, alligators are ornery 'cause of their "Medula Oblongata"! And I like Vicki, and she like me back! And she showed me her boobies and I like them too!

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Thats not entirely true. When I was living with my parents, they only wanted to know if I was going to be home for dinner, and if I wasnt going to be there, was I going to be home that night.

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Aaagh, your opinion is driving me mad. He's a friggin' adult himself, he can date whoever he wants. I'm all in for respecting your parents, but parents who try to dictate every single part of their children's lives, fail at parenthood. Your kids aren't going to become responsible adults that way, but marionettes.

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If you're an adult you don't need to ask parents permission to have a life. I was still 17 and lived my own way, the only thing mum asked of me was to let her know my plans so she knew to make dinner for me or not.

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I see where you're coming from 16, but there's two sides to everything. In this case it seems to me that the mother isn't trying to dictate WHO her son can date, but when he sees her. And if he is an adult living in her home without paying rent, he has certain obligations he needs to meet. For example, if there was some household upkeep he was responsible for that he did not complete, then he needs to take care of it before he goes out to enjoy himself. My little brother is 24 and still living

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That's a problem in their relationship; your brother takes advantage of them and they don't withhold their money/housing. Where he goes and what he does is his business. Stopping him is controlling and won't fix anything.

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I don't see what your point is, 44. "Withholding their housing," ie kicking him out, if he doesn't pull his weight is a form of controlling his behavior. I doubt he'd continue to shirk his responsibilities if he genuinely thought he'd be rendered homeless. And the issue isn't going on a date with his girlfriend. The issue is that he feels well enough to go out with his girlfriend, but not well enough to do his chores, which clearly shows he's just making up excuses to get out of comply

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But in my opinion, you can't claim to be an adult until your parents aren't taking care of you anymore, so this whole "he's an adult" thing is an illegitimate argument to me. I've known 18 year olds who were more grown-up than people my age (26) and older.

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Then he is an adult that acts like a child. Once their child is old enough to look after themselves, the parents step back and stop controlling their personal lives As far as chores are concerned, as an adult, you are then a 'housemate' with your parents and should be living with them as you would if you were sharing your house with a friend. You should be cleaning your share of the mess, doing your laundry etc. When you become an adult, your parents should not be dictating what you can and can

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Then if one is an adult, one should be paying rent like an adult. If one is living with their parents rent free like a child, then one must obey their parents like a child. Don't wanna pay rent? Cool. Do your friggin' chores and don't piss and moan when you have to miss out on a date because you didn't do them. Wanna just be responsible for your own mess and room and be free to go where you please? Cool. Pay rent.

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Then that is up to the parents to enforce rent paying. Just because he is acting childish doesn't mean he is not an adult. He is an adult that is using people. If you're living in your parents house when you're 50 rent free for whatever reason does that mean your parents can stop you from going to play bingo? No.

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@ Gracehi Sometimes it's funny how much of our own, private life gets mixed in these discussions. You defend the mother, thinking of the bad stuff your brother did, whilst I defend the son, thinking of the bad stuff my parents did. Anyway, each of us could be right, depending on the missing context of the FML.

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As I said from the start, I see where you're coming from. Obviously there are appropriate levels of control a parent should have over their child's life at different ages, and those appropriate levels of control can, and often are, exceeded. However, what I take issue with is this assertion that once one reaches a certain age, one should automatically have total freedom to live however they please, regardless of their living situation with their parents. And actually, the law takes issue with th

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I can see your point but in saying they are not an adult until they pay it move out is odd to me. Here where I live, if you can be trialled as an adult, you're an adult. If you don't pay your way you are still an adult, just also a *insert slightly insulting word*. As much as I do think you do need to pitch in with the house hold duties regardless of it being a rental with a housemate or parents, I don't think they have a say of when and where you go out. That's my opinion anyway. I did help at

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