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By  cutycat136  |  28

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  mellajella  |  14

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to grieve, find someone new, get to know them, then get engage to them all in a years time is WAY too fast, inconsiderable, and disrespect to the family and even your previous passed spouse because that just shows they didn't mean that much to you and you can move on very quickly without the death really affecting you. I don't know what your dad is thinking op, maybe he is in such denial and he's trying to survive whichever way he can find that makes him feel somewhat whole again.

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  cristy91  |  33

Whether he was done grieving is irrelevant, he announced it to people who clearly aren't done grieving. And guess what? A year is a very short amount of time to overcome the loss of a parent. Totally irresponsible and uncaring on his part.

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  mellajella  |  14

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  mfmylifesrsly  |  29

88 - Obviously you have never lost someone close to you. You don't get over it in a year. Technically OPs dad got over it in less than a year since he was dating this woman before the one year mark. Although something tells me OPs dad isn't over his wife, he just can't stand to be alone and wants to have a woman fill the gap in his heart. Still, very inconsiderate doing it on the one year anniversary. Which anyone who has lost someone close knows is the hardest time.

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  ChopSuey444  |  20

The inconsiderate part of the timing is choosing to announce it on that particular day. Not necessarily the time frame it took him to move on. Even if it had been a few years, a person remembers the day they lost a loved one. Announcing your new engagement on that day after ANY length of time would be inconsiderate of your children's feelings

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  mellajella  |  14

88 - I lost a close uncle to suicide. So yes, I actually do know what it's like. It sucks more than anything else you can deal with but eventually you realize that being sad 24/7 isn't what they would want and there's nothing you can do to change the reality of what happened. Only to move forward. Maybe that's why I can relate to the dad more than you can. I'm not denying the fact that it was disrespectful to others who are still grieving. I said that in my first post. I'm just looking at it from the dad's perspective.

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  kittycatdex  |  8

what if her mom was sick for a long time and mom told dad not to stay alone? it never said mom died suddenly... still, it's not the best way but maybe he was also nervous about telling OP and nessed it up because of it...

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  barnacles  |  2

it's not about grieving and getting over. It is about announcing on the same day as the death anniversary. Now come on! Maybe the dad wasn't the kind who could deal with loneliness and it's perfectly okay but his dick move was to announce it the same day.

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  kbecks87  |  16

75, if the mother passed from a prolonged sickness or something of the like, the grieving process could have started months or even years before the actual death.

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  Zebediabolical  |  36

I agree. It was inappropriate and maybe even a dick move. But that doesn't call for this level of response. This is basically firing a torpedo with the specific intent to sink their relationship. And that is one hundred percent uncalled for.

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  DeathBunny8  |  9

That's assuming the parents were together. They could have been separated long before she passed. His announcing it on that day may have been a way to try to get the family to focus on something less depressing.

By  xsydneyx123  |  28

That's messed up. I'm sorry to hear about that. My condolences to you for your mother's passing and your father's ignorance. How in the world are people pressing the YDI button??

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  foxmatrix15  |  8

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  Araj_Hs  |  19

Some people have a habit of doing it. They do not think & just do it. It is in a very smaller ratio tho, so its fine. This world has more stupids than that!

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  knoxxx  |  22

I've also misread FML's and thought it said something that it didn't, and then realized after I had already hit YDI. I vote FML after to try and make up for it a little.

By  apitrix  |  24

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  apitrix  |  24

Looking back, I probably shouldn't have made such a cruel joke, it was more in regards to not saying something along the lines of "got engaged to his new fiancé." But yeah my Apologies, something's should not be joked about..

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  Clevelandians  |  17

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By  cutycat136  |  28

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#11, #7 isn't trying to say it's the fiancé's fault or anything like that I think she is just trying to say that if he could be so careless to make an announcement like that on the anniversary of OP'S mothers death a women he shared a child with them how much more is he going to care about her.

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  cutycat136  |  28

#11/51, it is a bit destructive, but if you think about it, she's the daughter, it was her mother that died, was a grieving time for her on that day and her father made an announcement that he was with another woman and was engaged to her. The daughter has a right to be upset and cause destruction if she wishes. I wouldn't be so pleased either if something like that happened to my family.

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#51 how could you possibly think that it's a "perfectly fine" relationship when he didn't even think to take his daughter into consideration when he announced that he was engaged on the anniversary of OP'S mom's death, I agree with #7 I think that OP should say something she has every right to be upset with her dad.

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I agree, his timing was inappropriate, how ever, moving on is a big step in grieving, and the dad is doing just that. I would be a bit upset in the same position, but I couldn't see myself ruining my father's happiness (but whatever that's my opinion I'm out)

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  batty827  |  13

No, but it wouldn't be entirely unfair to let her know the kind of person she's marrying... She might not want to marry someone that blasé about such things...

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  DoomedGemini  |  35

No, op has the right to be upset. Causing destruction would make her a bitch. While it might be okay to let her know what day it is, putting doubt or trying to ruin their relationship would make her just as bad as the father. He should have waited to announce it, but perhaps he was trying to put give good news, oblivious to the pain it caused. Whatever the reason OP has no right to try to destroy some one else's relationship, family or not.

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  CaroAurelia  |  12

That's a little harsh. Unless the fiancée was the mistress and knew she was the mistress, it's really not her fault her betrothed is a clod. I would find a nicer way to warn her.

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  Mr23  |  9

There is no direct indication of this in the FML, but statistically the fiancee might not be too worried about what he will say at her funeral, If you catch my drift.

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  Octwo  |  16

Attempting to sabotage someone's relationship as revenge for an inappropriate announcement is extremely childish. I would hope that the OP has more integrity than that. No one likes a manipulative sociopath.

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