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By Ma.Sa.La. - / Friday 27 February 2009 15:18 / United States
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By  JuJuBeeSunshine  |  0

At the risk of sounding trite, "he's just not that into you." I hate to say it girl, but run now. I'm not a proponent of people rushing to the altar, but after a year and half, that shouldn't have been his reaction. At any rate, you two need to sit down and talk about where this relationship is going and your expectations. If not, you could end up 3 years down the line in the same position with him having "no interest." If he says he doesn't want to get married/marry you, take him at his word and move on if marriage and TRUE commitment is what you want.

By  mechwarrior  |  0

I dont understand why women want every long-term relationship they have to resolve to marriage. You dont need to be married to show your love. In fact, most of my married friends end up just drifting apart from their spouses.

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By  asdfghjkl_12  |  0

ohhh I know how that is ... I would have slapped him!

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  bridgette5866  |  0

Hey, guys don't like the commitment of marriage. And what is marriage anyways, but a piece of paper and a party?

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  jdomfml  |  0

get acondom instead if wedding ring for a change bitch

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  BuhxritNAYY  |  5

120: it's a bond. it's not being called together or boyfriend and girlfriend or dating, it's husband and wife. and sure you share money and a paper and a party but you get to show everyone else they are yours forever.

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  defferwa  |  9

Not forever. It's only a few months/years before they start fucking others

By  cobrakid77678  |  0

wow he's an ass.. he could have at least been nice about it

By  JuJuBeeSunshine  |  0

At the risk of sounding trite, "he's just not that into you." I hate to say it girl, but run now. I'm not a proponent of people rushing to the altar, but after a year and half, that shouldn't have been his reaction. At any rate, you two need to sit down and talk about where this relationship is going and your expectations. If not, you could end up 3 years down the line in the same position with him having "no interest." If he says he doesn't want to get married/marry you, take him at his word and move on if marriage and TRUE commitment is what you want.

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  Izzy322  |  0

after 1.5 years thats enough time to make a decision to stay with somebody for the rest of your life? Thats lust not love...Find a guy that will marry in a year and you'll be getting a divorce even sooner.

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  Origami86  |  4

How on earth does getting married show true commitment ? Can you really really please explain that to me ? I think there's a reason why divorce rates are so high. I'm sorry to crush your dreams but if a guy or girl cheats, them getting married is not going to make them the most faithful human beings all of a sudden. One can cheat in a marriage just as much as one can cheat in a relationship, just as one can be faithful in those two situations. With marriage there's only commitment in theory, which then again counts for nothing seeing that actions speak louder than words. Marriage in the traditional sense is fading more and more every day. In short it is overrated.

By  keke_fml  |  0

I agree w/#8 run now

By  mechwarrior  |  0

I dont understand why women want every long-term relationship they have to resolve to marriage. You dont need to be married to show your love. In fact, most of my married friends end up just drifting apart from their spouses.

By  JuJuBeeSunshine  |  0

#10. I didn't say that they had to run to the altar then. I just said that his reaction would have raised a red flag. If he's not interested in her, then she should move on. If he's not interested in getting married, and that's what she wants, then she should move on. When a guy says, "I don't want to get married," he's saying that he doesn't want to get married to YOU. He'll eventually get married, just not to you. And if waiting around for 2.5 years works for you, then that's fine, but I would want to know if marriage was in the cards we didn't get 5 years into it for him to decide I'm not the ONE.

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  Amphysvena  |  11

Your assumption that when a man tells his significant other he doesn't want to get married, it means he doesn't want to marry them is entirely false. I know for a fact that when I, a man, say I don't want to get married, I really don't ever want to get married. You can't immediately assume that every man who says that is lying.

By  thebaroness1984  |  0

Why does every girl want to get married?? That's how you get old, you know.

By  girl_fml  |  0

that really sucks. and after like a year when i was 17ish my boyfriend which was actually a little younger than me wanted to marry me. we were together for over two years. and even after we broke up for like six months he still called and talked about marrying me... but we grew up and grew apart so that didnt work. so what im trying to say is that i agree that you should discuss your relationship with him. or at least what you mean to him. and #17 i am a girl and i DO NOT want to get married. i did at one point. but not anymore.

By  JuJuBeeSunshine  |  0

Not every girl wants to get married. In fact, as I have gotten further into my 20's, I've contemplated the notion of having kids on my own, not to be confused with octomom. However, I've always wanted children more than a husband. I'm just saying that if marriage is what she wants and he doesn't, then she should consider her options. Marriage is more than a piece of paper. It's a commitment of solidarity, and if you should choose to walk away, it's going to be a lot harder. It's not for everyone. I just don't believe in giving the milk for free forever. There is a fine line between being committed and being comfortable. Both people need to be on the same page.

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