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By StillFriendless - / Friday 25 November 2016 15:20 /
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By  WCARlover  |  34

I swear if there isn't already there should be an app for people that are looking just for friends not for dates. You'd still put interests and things like that in your profile but just look for friends! If only I knew how to create apps..

By  doemetoch  |  28

Making friends when you don't have any can be difficult OP. I've had to go through that when I moved to another country where I didn't know anyone who lived even remotely close to the city I moved to. I don't know you so I have no idea what would work for you, but personally I found it helpful to just go out and do stuff I enjoyed anyway, rather than waiting around for friends to magically appear. I took up dance classes, went to concerts of bands I liked, and visited interesting sights in the place I moved to. It might seem weird and a bit sad at first to do stuff like that on your own, but I also found it empowering to realize that I didn't actually need other people to engage in activities that I wanted to do. Worst case scenario you just keep on doing these things alone, which frankly is better than sitting at home alone doing nothing, best case scenario (what happened to me) you meet people that are into the same things as you and you end up being friends with them. Also, if you're at least somewhat religious, finding a church/synagogue/temple/whatever fits your beliefs can be a good way to meet people, but I wouldn't recommend going just to meet friends if you're not actually attracted to the religion they're preaching. If you prefer meeting people online, it's a good idea to check out local facebook or meetup groups about stuff that interests you. Good luck!!

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By  WCARlover  |  34

I swear if there isn't already there should be an app for people that are looking just for friends not for dates. You'd still put interests and things like that in your profile but just look for friends! If only I knew how to create apps..

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  Mauskau  |  34

There are, surprisingly I made quite a few friends on Tinder (although that wasn't the goal), and you can use plenty of fish to search just for friends.

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  awesomeamandas  |  34

I've used the app 'meetme' to make quite a few friends. it also has an option that you can select that says you're either looking for a relationship, friendship or just to chat. might not be the best app to use but I've made a few good friends and met my current boyfriend on it.

By  doemetoch  |  28

Making friends when you don't have any can be difficult OP. I've had to go through that when I moved to another country where I didn't know anyone who lived even remotely close to the city I moved to. I don't know you so I have no idea what would work for you, but personally I found it helpful to just go out and do stuff I enjoyed anyway, rather than waiting around for friends to magically appear. I took up dance classes, went to concerts of bands I liked, and visited interesting sights in the place I moved to. It might seem weird and a bit sad at first to do stuff like that on your own, but I also found it empowering to realize that I didn't actually need other people to engage in activities that I wanted to do. Worst case scenario you just keep on doing these things alone, which frankly is better than sitting at home alone doing nothing, best case scenario (what happened to me) you meet people that are into the same things as you and you end up being friends with them. Also, if you're at least somewhat religious, finding a church/synagogue/temple/whatever fits your beliefs can be a good way to meet people, but I wouldn't recommend going just to meet friends if you're not actually attracted to the religion they're preaching. If you prefer meeting people online, it's a good idea to check out local facebook or meetup groups about stuff that interests you. Good luck!!

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  doemetoch  |  28

Thank you, I've had to go through the process twice (once upon moving to a foreign country, and again when moving back years later realizing most of my old friends had moved on with their lives) so I've become pretty good at this making-new-friends-thing! OP, I've thought about another thing that I found helpful. There's this website called couchsurfing which is basically a site where you can have travellers sleep on your couch for free and you get to sleep on other people's couch for free when you're travelling. If the idea appeals to you, it's a great way to have interesting exchanges with people from other countries, and you can end up with friends all over the world. They also do regular meetings so if you become active in the community you tend to get to know quite a few couchsurfers from your area too. Again, don't sign up just to make friends if the concept doesn't appeal to you (I fully understand that a lot of people aren't comfortable with hosting strangers or staying at other people's homes), but if you're interested in it I can really recommend it.

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  LegitTorture  |  18

That's what I'm worried about when I move to another country by my own. From my experience of constantly migrating, foreigners usually have no consistent friends. I like your outlook.

By  wellonheels  |  2

I'm kind of in the same boat - hubby and I have mutual friends but I seem to have none of my own. I agree with MeetUp, that's not a bad way to meet people, if it fits your schedule. There's also Not4Dating.com, if it's available in your area, but I have not found anyone worth contacting yet... they all seem a little sketchy. lol. I'll be your friend if you message me....

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