Well okay, but also you don't use slurs when frustrated if you don't use them otherwise, or at least use them when thinking. Slurs and general cursing is different.

Everyone's said things they shouldn't have, especially when frustrated, but you still have to be held accountable. It would be one thing if OP were saying, "I was so frustrated, I said something I really shouldn't have, I hate that I did that." It's another thing to say, "ugh, FML because people are mad at me for saying a bad thing, but obviously I didn't mean it so why are people mad?" (Yes, I know that's not exactly what OP's saying, I'm pointing out the two extremes.) Being frustrated and upset can explain saying something regrettable, but it doesn't excuse it or make it hurt less for the people being insulted, y'know?

I worked with a super religious lady (who I spent a lot of time with). She absolutely detested swear words. She spilt hot coffee on her one morning and screamed out "Oh! Shit!" So yes, you can scream stuff out that you don't normally say. There are many women who say things that have never crossed their lips when they are in labour. It happens, so don't be so judgey to OP. It was an overwhelmingly frustrating situation, and OP's mouth probably went off without him even realizing it. Be happy if that's never happened to you. As well, everyone handles stress different, and has different breaking points. So don't go on saying that you've been frustrated too and this didn't happen to you.

#49, I understand your point that people say things they ordinarily wouldn't when they're at an extreme, but I think you're missing #25's point: In extreme circumstances people may say things they ordinarily wouldn't, but unless they have Tourette's syndrome, what they say is generally something they consider somehow immediate-circumstances appropriate. Your coworker who spilled coffee didn't exclaim, "Nice to meet you!" or start singing "Ave Maria." People who would never think to use "retarded" as an insult don't do under any circumstances.

I retract my original comment, with this explanation I don't consider it a YDI anymore, not for you anyway, maybe for them though. What you said wasn't great, but their behaviour was even more unacceptable. Expecting you to kneel when you physically can't, that's just insensitive and not right. They're literally asking you to go beyond what your body is capable of, that makes no sense. The comment wasn't even directed at their culture, it was directed at their behaviour, they were being unreasonable then, and they're being unreasonable now for being mad at you. In my opinion, your reaction was justified, I would have been upset in that situation too.

Good thing I read this before I voted. This isn't something anybody deserves, and I'm pretty sure we've all been there when we randomly blurt out certain phrases out of frustration that we don't mean.

Sometimes people get so caught up in the traditional cultural/religious ways of doing things that they completely forget the person in front of them. I'm sure after things settle especially with your fiancee that they will see you sitting on a chair is just as good as kneeling down. At least you're embracing and participating in an important part of your fiancee culture.

Thank you for your service.

OP, it took me a while to implement this, but whenever somebody (unfairly) yells at me, I stay silent and just look back at 'em. Once they're done, I shrug my shoulders while smirking, and then if desired, quietly walk away or sit down. lol

just please don't feel the need to use "retarded" as an insult or negative term again. it's very offensive to those with intellectual disabilities. I understand the frustration, but it's still not an excuse to use derogatory language.

#68 Read the comment chain on #4 and you'll learn that "retarded" is not the only term for the intellectually disabled that's been used incorrectly. Believe it or not, psychologists in the early 20th used words like "moron" and "idiot" to describe intellectually disabled people. Read the chain on #4 to learn more.

Op, don't feel bad about it! as a Cambodian myself, I really hate those ceremony event sometime. They take too long and it can get so frustrated that you can't hold it in anymore. I get yell at by my mom so many time before because I get so annoy that I just get up and say **** it! I'm sure the family will understand about your situation and forgot about it.

#69, that it's not the only such medical term that's been used as an insult doesn't make it less insulting.

Being someone who is disabled, did I use a slur against myself?

To be fair, it's a slur towards those with mental disabilities, not physical ones. :P (I'm going off of your explanation where you said you were physically disabled, but if you have a mental disability as well, I apologize!)

There's a very big difference between a physical and mental disability. It's really not a great word to use as an insult, because it tells people with the condition that they are an insult. I realize it can be hard to keep up with what is and isn't rude, plus it's hard to untrain one's self from phrases they are used to, particularly under the pressure of 6 nagging future in-laws.

Retarded can refer to physical and social too. It can also refer to something that is foolish or stupid. It can also refer to something being delayed, or slowed down (retarder breaks in a truck, the unit we used to thaw the bread at subway was called a retarder because it slowed the rising process down) So yes, OP's disability could technically qualify him as "physically retarded" because of his bad leg.

If the word retarded offends you so much, then the internet is not for you.

Boo hoo.

no hes in the right he physically could not do the task they wanted him to do