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By Anonymous - / Tuesday 20 January 2015 11:04 / Australia - Blacktown
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Nah, the best friend was just trying to break the ice and awkward silence. Can't blame her in my opinion. The boyfriend however... Any mature person in a relationship knows you don't air your dirty laundry.

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#18 there were other ways to break the silence than laughing at a fat joke about your best friend. Seems OP needs to re-evaluate her friend and boyfriend choice. I know i wouldn't do that to a friend especially not my best friend. I'd have his/her back

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37, but she didn't actually really laugh, one single "hah" more implies that she was being sarcastic or felt awkward by the silence or was trying to make light of a very awkward situation, in my opinion.

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I wouldn't necessarily break up with my boyfriend if he did this, however I would get very upset and explain why, along with trying to resolve the fight- by upset I mesn either angry or sad. I'm not saying it's wrong to break up with someone in this situation, i just think (personally) that love... it's not something to just throw away.

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Disrespecting your girl in front of people is wrong on many levels and should be a huge red flag. If you have issues deal with it in private and leave it there. Just my two cents. Nobody wants to be in that awkward situation in the middle.

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#57 I don't know what sort of relationship you're in, but I've been with my bf 3 years and we have never resorted to petty name-calling out of anger. My parents have been together 31 years and I've never heard them name-calling either (even less so in front of a group of friends) no matter how bad they fought and no matter who's "fault" the argument was. I agree with you that op shouldn't automatically dump him (he might love her and is just a bit immature), but people aren't wrong to say that she should have a serious talk with him making clear his behavior was unacceptable, and if he continues it is a valid reason to dump him.

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# 65 Come on... You have been "hurt and wronged to levels of pain I wouldn't have imagined existed", and you have been together for 3 years with someone who doesn't even understand how you feel? Yet "name calling" is totally unacceptable in your relationship! I'm glad my girlfriend of 8 years does know how I feel, and hasn't hurt me to unimaginable levels of pain, yet she has called me a few names on occasion, during arguments. It seems to me like you a) don't understand how relationships work b) shouldn't be in one yourself. #57 is right, it was even done during a game, a social gathering where one might be tempted to make a joke. And you know.... She might be overweight.

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#69 Name calling in a joking way with your boyfriend/girlfriend is okay if you have that relationship. But calling your boyfriend/girlfriend names to be rude is fucked up, even if you are really mad. And also, if she was overweight that is even more reason why he shouldn't say something so cruel. Just because someone might be overweight doesn't justify the insult. Just makes you worse for throwing it in their face.

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It sounds like the friend just wanted to break the silence but maybe OP can comment on this and elaborate. Im not gonna give relationship advice but he sucks at the game. Got your back OP!

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I agree, I don't blame the friend at all. She wasn't really laughing (no one laughs with only one hah), she just made noise to try and break the awkward silence that followed. Can't blame her for that in my opinion.

I'd like to hear what the fight was about and what you might have sad to him. Everyone is jumping to your defense, saying to dump him, when we don't know the other side of the story.

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True op might've been a huge jerk and in the wrong for the fight, but there's no reason for the boyfriend to air their dirty laundry in front of their friends and to ruin a good night with friends. It makes it super awkward and is unfair to them.

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