Good to know your mom is there for you. FYL

There's a lot of panic attack / OCD / depression FMLs popping up, and they are definitely FML-worthy (from someone who has had severe depression for years and nearly constant anxiety issues). Communication is, however, a two-way street. Your mom was being rude, but is this a frequent occurrence? Is this the first time you've gone to your mother for support? Have you guys worked out a plan which both of you are able to follow? What steps have you taken to help yourself? I'm not dismissing your anxiety with what I'm about to say. It's just, try to think of it from the family member's perspective. It may be that you can't actually do it. I know I can't during a panic attack. Family members of people with these problems also don't know how to react or put themselves in your shoes. They too are unsure of what to do, or how to stop the problem. It overwhelms their senses, their minds, and it makes them feel helpless. My wife has threatened divorce at least 10 times if I do not get my anxiety and depression under control. To an outside observer, that sounds like a heartless, bitchy thing to say. We, as panic sufferers know that we can't suddenly snap out of it. We need to ride the anxiety through to its end using various techniques like mindfulness, deep breathing, transcendental meditation, etc. Everyone experiences anxiety, but a smaller percentage of people experience it so much that it actually profoundly interferes with their lives. To those who do not have experience with this sort of mental anguish, "snapping out of it" or blocking it out is the logical thing to do, because it has worked for them and their everyday anxiety 9 times out of 10. These threats have a very deep-rooted cause. I mention my anxiety and health-related problems to my wife every single day, usually before we go to bed, when she comes home from work, when she wakes up, or during something that should be fun. She perceives that I am always thinking about this, which isn't untrue, but also that it is selfish, again, depending on your perspective, this is also not untrue. I think with this sort of thing, responsibility should be placed on you, and whoever you are close with. Both parties should be working towards mutual respect and understanding. It's one of the reasons why I'm doing counselling for myself and with my wife. It is a defeatist mentality to just accept that things are never going to change. Accept the anxiety, disconnect it from your own sense of being and identity, realize that it can't actually hurt you, but don't think that it is something permanent, haunting, something you need to just relegate to "I'm having a panic attack but I can't help it". The panic is scary, the anxiety is crippling, but you can do things to help yourself and lessen the burden on your loved ones, who probably aren't trained psychotherapists or counsellors. Everything is a habit, and despite how hard kicking one might be, it is possible to at least decrease how much it disrupts your life. Me, you, everyone else with similar problems CAN kick the problem. It's nearly impossible to visualize this during an episode of panic, but in addition to demanding respect and understanding from your loved ones, you too should be working on a solution to decrease how prevalent this problem is in your life, because, as my wife and my father know, me coming up to them all the time and flipping out, without being receptive to what they say, makes them feel powerless as well.

OP PLEASE READ: I know that what she did must seem very rude, but if breathing annoys her, that's called misophonia! Please let her know if she doesn't already. Again, I know it'd suck to have her do that, but the rage or disgust or annoyance she feels when your breathing "triggers" her could easily be just as bad as your panic attack (I get panic attacks sometimes and have misophonia, I know how both feel).

aww, that sucks. Feel better OP!

I know how panic attacks are, I have had a few in the past three years. I guess they can be stressful on everyone. but that is a bit ridiculous.

So much for motherly love...

Shoulda screamed and asked if that was quieter for her. I'm sorry about your panic attack though. I was on medication for a few years for mine, so I feel your pain. Hope they get better hun.

Hope you can get through your panic attacks

stop being a bitch

thats ****** up, some mom she is