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By human lava lamp - / Sunday 10 March 2013 19:54 / United States - New Britain
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I always shake my head and laugh when I don't fully hear what people say. It works most of the time, but once I rang up a small amount of groceries to a costomer and they said, "Y'know, this food is all I've got for the rest of the month." And I replied with an unintentional, sarcastic-sounding, ass hole response, saying "Hahaha, yeah." Sometimes we all get ourselves into unwanted awkward situations.

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One time I was on a ski lift when a situation like that happened, I saw a red spot on the snow and thinking it was paint I jokingly asked my brother if someone died there. A girl on the bench responded and I didn't hear her so I just nodded and laughed. Turned out someone had just ran into a tree and broke both of their legs 30 minutes before that.

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I doubt it's matter of "getting over herself". People brush it off when someone says they have serious social issues or social anxiety or something, but it's a pretty big deal for them. To OP, sorry it led to an even more awkward situation

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Someone did not have to sit next to them eventually. Said at 'airport' not on an 'airplane' I haven't been to crowded airports so where I have been there is plenty if room to not sit by people.

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#69 -- In some airports there is absolutely not enough room for everyone to sit, especially not if there have been delays that mean more than one flight's worth of people are waiting near the same gate(s). I've several times waited for a flight where at least a third of the people in the area had to sit on the floor or keep standing. And there are plenty of similar situations -- full buses, theatres, etc. -- where the same thing could happen. And it must be hard for OP. So either way, OP might want to talk to a therapist about that social anxiety.

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I didnt say every airport geez people read and please don't doubt that if there was open seats they wouldn't have asked specifically to sit there people are like that. Like at a restaurant and you need an extra chair and ask to take one from a table nearby are you assumed to that you specifically asked their table for a reason instead of taking one from somewhere else? Why should it be assume she did not specifically ask to sit there?

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thank you! I have social anxiety and nothing seems more insensitive to me than for someone to say to "just get over it". social anxiety is a huge deal to the person who has it. its NOT something you just get over like that. if you don't have it, you should not judge because u have no idea how hard it is

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That's a bit harsh, Doc. If anyone has ever read your blog (I'm a true fan), then they'd notice how your confidence oozes out of it, unfortunately not everyone is blessed with the same social skills. OP's probably not a rotten person, but they could have handled it better.

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I think a point of interest of this FML is also that she "loudly" asked. What does that mean? It could mean a few things, logically with the other information I think the woman had experience working with, or even was someone who's hearing impaired. Probably a very nice person. I myself have social anxiety, but no matter how nervous I am, if someone else is polite and forwardly nice, then it's not hard to show the decency apparent with common sense. I also wouldn't pretend to have any kind of disability, it's simply disrespectful.

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I agree with Doc on this one. The woman was polite and thoughtful enough to ask OP if she could sit. She could have just sat down without consent. I understand that OP has crippling social anxiety, but I think she could have at least nodded. I mean, faking a disability? That's very contemptible.

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While I agree he could have let the woman sit next to him, I think it's safe to say that if he let her sit next to him, he would have to do a lot more socializing, seeing as she spoke loudly and came out of nowhere. I'd also like to point out that such a harsh judgement is yet another reason he will want to avoid social conduct, since he's apparently a rotten person for wanting to mind his own business.

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I just read this with a new set of eyes, what if she asked and took the liberty of sitting down and OP just pretended she was deaf so she didn't have to talk throughout the flight, and that's when the sign language began? Maybe OP nodded yes to the seat taking but made a point of letting the woman know she was deaf to avoid all future conversation. If that makes sense.

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"Incapable of doing something...." Uhm,,,pretty sure that deaf people are INCAPABLE of hearing...you can't say that it's not a disability, define it, and then say that they just can't hear...-.- you must not have much for a brain...think before you speak....or type...oh, and it's you're* not your

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As someone who suffered from severe anxiety, I can relate to how OP panicked, but it is just simpler to "yes" and quickly get on with your day. I would have moved after minute or two though due to unneccessary panic.

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You literally just contradicted yourself.. "a disability implies that someone is incapable of doing something" So I'm guessing that everyone is incapable of hearing? Seriously? Yes, deaf people are able to get through society much easier than say someone who is blind . But they do still face many challenges. If you're trying to make an argument, at least put some effort into it..

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But hearing doesn't stop you from doing anything. Just think of deafness as a language barrier. If deafness is a real disability, then you're disabled if you ever go to China or Russia.

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There are different dialects of English sign language, just as there are different dialects of English. Although people from America, England, Australia, and other primarily English speaking countries, all speak English, they all have their own dialect that differs quite a bit from each other. There are even different vernaculars within the same countries depending on what state or providence you are from.

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Sign language is not the same everywhere. Australian sign shares some symbols with British sign but is still different. Australian sign is also very different from American Sign Language. So depending on which she was using

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For those saying all sign language is the same, they're not. I've learned American and Australian sign language and while they may have some similarities, they are definitely different.

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