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It's probably better that you get out of that situation OP! Take this opportunity and try to find somewhere that you feel safer and better.

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Kinda easier said than done. Strangely enough, I think that people who underwent years of emotional abuse from the people who are supposed to provide them with care and love would disagree with you. Being a parent is often a choice, and just because you pay for your children's stuff doesn't give you a VIP pass to be an asshole to people that you literally chose to have in your life forever and be responsible of. Children shouldn't have to deal with abusive BS because they live at their parents'.

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It's the same logic people use when people complain about abuse in the workplace. "Oh, your boss stuck his hand up your skirt? He's paying you, if anything you owe him that." It's BS logic that I really wish people would stop using.

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#23 it's not quite the same thing. at a job you're being paid for a service that you are performing. So unless that service is allowing men to feel you up then you don't have to put up with it no matter how much you are being paid. a parent chose to have a child, the child didn't choose to be born. The child can't choose to quit his parents and get a new set. I agree with the fact that people should stop using the logic but wanted to point out the fact that the two examples were not relatable.

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I don't think being passive aggressive and rude should be illegal, that's extreme. However, we need to get rid of the idea that people in authority positions are allowed to treat their "underlings" in whatever way they want, simply because they provide for them. Especially with the parent to kid relationship. Kids, especially once they've become adults themselves, deserve basic respect too, and they don't have to tolerate it if their parent(s) are being unfair or mean to them, no matte

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I would like to apologize in advance for the length of this comment but this topic is very near to my heart and I feel very strongly for you OP. Just because you live in the same house does not mean that you have to put up with passive aggressive or any kind of ignorant behavior. OP, your situation sounds like one that I had. Before my husband and I got married he made me a bet, the stakes being I got his whole paycheck if I won but he didn't want a prize if I lost because I would have already l

It's probably better that you get out of that situation OP! Take this opportunity and try to find somewhere that you feel safer and better.

Maybe it was about time then. You shouldn't live with anybody like that, even your parent. Still, would be best to move out on good terms - I hope that's not too late :)

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Saying you shouldn't live with a parent like that and then that you should leave on good terms is an oxymoron. If a parent is that horrible, then you shouldn't leave n good terms. You should cut them out like the cancerous tumor they are.

She kicked you out just for standing up for yourself, that's a pretty terrible thing for a parent to do. It's incredibly hypocritical how some parents will criticize their child relentlessly, but when the kid turns around and starts criticizing them for this behavior, it's somehow wrong. However, maybe it's a blessing in disguise, get away from her and her unfair, rude behaviour. Also, this way, whenever she makes a snide remark now, you can stand up for yourself and she no longer has leverage

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Unless the person is treating you badly, basic respect and courtesy should be a given, towards anyone, including the parents to kids relationship. Just cause the person is their child, is not an excuse for the parent to be disrespectful to them, their kids are still people, just like anyone else. They are not property that the parent can treat however they please, just cause it's "their house." And respect definitely shouldn't be reliant on whether a person lives on their own or not.

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Yeah, I'm also going to disagree with the "you just have to deal with it until you move out" opinion. "Your house, your rules" applies to things like chores, finances and going out, but it doesn't mean "I am always right because I own the house." Basic courtesy really should be a given, unfortunately, too often it isn't. A parent who lords their control over their child's security over them constantly is using fear tactics and breaking trust, which I find cruel, as

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Moving out - cutting links to your family, finding somewhere to live - that really isn't that simple. It is easier said than done and a lot of people couldn't afford to move out and rent somewhere anyway.

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#11, that's my parent's logic as well. My parent's are very rude to me and when I reciprocate that behavior, they tell me that I'm rude and if I don't like how they are treating me or don't like what they say to me that I should find somewhere else to live.

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