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By Sfg_926 / Sunday 26 June 2016 05:02 / United States
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I think the way workplaces are now, saying anything after this may be considered strike 2. I would count my lucky stars, put my tail between my legs and slither out. You cannot win this one..

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The coworker has the right to ask OP not to comment on her appearance. I'm sure OP had nothing but good intentions, but if it makes her uncomfortable then that's all there is to it. What makes this an FML is her involving the whole office. That's unprofessional and not okay. She should have emailed OP privately or involved their boss at most.

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Most jobs have a Human Resources Department, the Military has SHARP. If it made her uncomfortable she could've gone to you, but she didn't have to. CC everyone back with an apology for complimenting her outfit, and probably never talk to her again, especially without someone else around you.

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In a professional work environment, discomfort does make it inappropriate. If a coworker does something that makes other coworkers uncomfortable that's a problem. I don't call people I don't know well, or am not hitting on cute. The best action is to say that makes me uncomfortable, second best go to a manager or HR, but maybe the OP is creeper, unintentionally or not and needed to be called out on it. Hopefully the OP isn't, but plenty of work environments have that person, who is overly compli

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I don't see how this won't effect OP's work. She made sure to humiliate him as publicly as she could. Other people weren't there, they don't know OP didn't say something awful and given this, they'll probably assume it. This was horribly uncalled for and juvenile. If OP replies he should be very careful. These things can horribly spiral and he could be fired. If he replies, I suggest something very neutral and apologetic like "I'm sorry I made you feel that way, it wasn't my intention and

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As a follow up, these fmls are hard cus we don't know all the details. To be fair to the coworker, she could have previously been in a very toxic work environment and be afraid of that happening again. People who have dealt with shit, tend to expect it. People who have been harassed (like really harassed) will be primed to see it. OP doesn't know her past. Validate her feelings (she could actually have a good reason for feeling this way without OP having actually done anything wrong) but also w

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Look, you don't have to be a feminist to know that you shouldn't sexualize people. why is it that when anything involving women comes up you idiots cry feminism. Do i believe calling someone cute is sexualizing them? not really but its not anyones right to tell someone they should or shouldnt be uncomfortable with something

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ah a wild feminazi on the loose. There's a difference between a compliment and being objectified. Objectified is "i want you on my face." compliment is "hey, you look cute today."

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Plus so much is in tone and body language. How you say things is just as important as what you say. You can tell someone they look cute, but if you grin and wink while doing it, it's creepy. Context, tone and body language are very important.

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There is nothing inappropriate about the word cute, this is just one person being overly sensitive. And even IF what you said is true for her, she could have simply told op that. If anything, her open attempt to humiliate op in front of everyone is way, way worse than that.

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I think what the problem is that the OP could have done this more than once and she's putting a stop to it - "it makes me feel uncomfortable when you say things like that to me". I'm sure the OP's intentions are good and he was just being friendly, and maybe a bit flirty, but she obviously doesn't think that sort of thing is appropriate in the workplace, or maybe she experienced sexual harassment at work before and thought she could nip it at the bud by 'CCing everyone to let them know

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You might not use the adjective 'cute', but really, you wouldn't ever tell a guy who looked like they had specifically made an effort to look good that they looked good? That an outfit looked sharp, or the gym was paying off?

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Oh no, getting an innocent compliment, the horror! Just because someone thinks your outfit looks good/cute, doesn't automatically mean that person wants to fuck you. Get over yourself, please.

Send her an email saying "it really makes me uncomfortable that you told the whole office you didn't like what I said and I shouldn't have to feel that way at work. Next time you have a problem with me just let me know before you try to publicly embarrass me."

Reminds me of an SNL sketch where the real answer was "Don't be unattractive, be attractive." Having been through several related corporate training courses, attention is bad if its undesired. Since we can only rarely know in advance if the other person at work desires attention from us, it's smart to absolutely avoid any remarks that could be taken in the slightest sexual or "dating" like way. For example, "nice shoes" or "that dress is my favorite color&quo

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