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Abuse is a horribly traumatic thing to endure at any point in your life. I'm sorry OP that you had to go through that. I hope the person that hurt you is rotting in jail or in hell. I have 0 tolerance for abusers. I hate people that make excuses for someone that's abusive. You shouldn't be able to walk this earth if you allow such evil to escape from your body! I have dealt with so many sex offenders and it makes me sick to think about the things these people would do. Your girlfriend is obvious

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this one time one of my families friends brother wanted to take pics of me when I was 11 I was never the same, I hope that bitch gets what she deserves, a man less than you op. n 35- yr a hottie :)

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40, you're wrong. A man that molests little boys is not necessarily gay and not all pedophiles are born that way. This may be why the OPs girlfriend left him, out of fear. 75% of the sex offenders I worked with were sexually abused as children and 9/10 by a close family member. Some commit their crimes out of anger/revenge or hatred, because of their childhood. Yes, there are some sex offenders that are genetically prone to offending, but that is not always the case. The topic is not so black an

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I know this is a serious fml and all, but all the people saying "fuck her" Op might take that the wrong way. I think that's what she's scared of haha

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Just a note on statistics: the fact that 3 in 4 child molesters were molested as kids is all but irrelevant. What does matter is the percentage of those molested as kids who do go on to molest children. This percentage is much lower: less than 5 percent. Between 1 and 4 percent of the general population is a sex offender. This makes OP just 1-4% more likely to molest her children than any other man.

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no kidding! how horrible. she should watch for signs (just in case, as it's true that people with that past are more likely to act on it, too) but if there are no warning signs, just keep it in mind! but that's a really uncalled for reaction. sorry, op. /=

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fyl indeed. you're better off without that stupid twat. she's obviously not mentally equipped to deal with sensitive issues. if anything, her kids will be screwed up because of HER. f her kid's lives.

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I agree with 91. 3/4 pedophiles being molested as kids does not mean 3/4 people molested become pedophiles. These two statistics are independent of each other and shouldn't be confused with each other.

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Even though I feel bad for OP, the gf's fears are indeed valid. If you're put in a situation where you are uncertain about the safety/well-being of your children, any responsible parent would do what it takes to get rid of all doubts regarding their safety. This is not to say that I think OP is untrustworthy, however OP shouldn't want to be with someone who has those doubts about him but stays with him anyway. I broke up w/ someone b/c I got bored. does that make me mean? No, but my reason is le

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FFML your stupid stop trying to correct people with a comment that takes up the whole screen. this isn't "correct people and tell 5 facts that support your correction app" Jeez get a life my god

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I agree with 91. Let's say 50% of Americans commit crimes, and 56% of americans are women. Does that mean only women commit crimes and that of all women only 6% don't? That was a false statistic, but you get the point. It doesnt matter how many abuse victims are among sex offenders, but how many sex offenders are among these victims. Kind of narrow-minded to look at the statistic that focuses on the negative.

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Thank you, ygdrassil. I was just about to point out the fallacy in peoples arguments when I saw your response. Y'all are looking at things the wrong way round. Most people who were molested do not become molesters. Go read #91's comment.

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I'm hoping people aren't under the impression that I think most children that are abused become sex offenders, because that's absolutely not how I see it. The percentage of people that are abused, that become abusers themselves is significantly lower than those that do. People are automatically judging the girlfriend just as they say she judged him. It's a never ending cycle, but the truth is, if she felt in anyway that her children weren't safe, she did the right thing. I'm sure she could have

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I'm torn here. I agree with some of what FFML and oc are saying, but 91/ydg, ktbird and RedPill make a very important point. FFML, I think you may be giving the girlfriend a too much credit. Sure, she *may* have had a valid reason to have that fear, beyond simply knowing about OP's history. But it's just as likely that she's extremely misinformed about the cycle of molestation, and ignorantly assumed he's permanently damaged and destined to do the same. There's a lot more media focus on the ho

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I agree IJD, I'm just trying to see it from a wider perspective, because I don't know OP or his girlfriend. I don't think it's fair for people to out right bash her for her choice. It's a topic that's very sensitive and extremely hard to comprehend. I don't want to give OPs girlfriend all the credit, I'm just playing devils advocate. People are certainly misinformed on the subject and it's sad. I don't think OP is a child molester, but like I said, I won't sit and call her a wicked bitch. She ma

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OC, your last statement is absolutley the point I was trying to make. I'm glad somebody gets that I'm not trying to say OP deserved it or is a sick child molester.

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I agree - you are SO much better off without her. If the woman has absolutely no understanding of abuse, then she'll never be able to support you anyway. AND what a bitch for leaving you when you thought you could trust her. Kudos to you for opening up - fuck her for being an insensitive cow. PS I hope 1 of the other 2 people are the police who may catch and convict the fucker who abused you. You probably are not the only kid he/she has done it to.

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I agree - you are SO much better off without her. If the woman has absolutely no understanding of abuse, then she'll never be able to support you anyway. AND what a bitch for leaving you when you thought you could trust her. Kudos to you for opening up - fuck her for being an insensitive cow. PS I hope 1 of the other 2 people are the police who may catch and convict the fucker who abused you. You probably are not the only kid he/she has done it to.

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I'll admit, FFML, I am taken aback by the fact that you seem at every turn to defend the ex-GF's standpoint as logical. Would it also be logical to dump every other potential mate because they hold some minor "risk factor"? Most people have suffered some sort of trauma or abuse as children, and others as adults. Some people just have mild personality or psychological disorders that have little or nothing to do with family history. Why, the only logical thing to do is to be impregnated

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OK, I am not defending the girlfriend because I think she's right. I'm meerly pointing out that it's not as black and white as so many people on here think. Like I said before, she probably went about it in the wrong way and may have caused OP unnecessary pain. I'm going to assume that most people are not reading all of my posts, because I give my deepest sympathy to OP. I'm not afraid to admit that I was molested as a child, by my brother. He is a sick and twisted individual and believe me

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I mean I lol'd at the opinions In here. both are correct. I've never told anyone details but I was abused as a kid and I don't plan on saying anything more to anyone it happens I'm not some sick twisted ass now. I'm just a regular guy. she is in the wrong and the righ in my opinion.

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Being born with HIV is not a risk. It is a fact. Marrying and having regular sex with a positive person pretty much guarantees that you will eventually catch it. Not so for molestation. And seriously, you just compared HIV infection with being molested as a child? I never said that I don't believe that child molesters deserve punishment. I was simply trying to offer some comfort to those who have experienced it, and yet are currently powerless to legally punish their accosters. I do believe

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But she didn't seem to be worried about her kids until he told her about his unfortunate past. Yes, one should follow their instincts if they feel their child is in danger. How did her instincts tell her that her boyfriend was just fine right up until she found out about something in his distant past? I realize that some of those molested go on to molest, but trusting someone enough to tell them about what happened to you doesn't make that percentage go up.

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so not only does she NOT feel bad for you, she breaks up with you? unbelievable! I feel bad for you and I hope u have no problem getting over that asshole

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2635 people have clicked you deserved this, i cant see why, nobody deserves to be sexually abused, there is a lot of heartless people in this world !

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It's apparent that it wasn't right and that's ok. You have to be able to move on and not dwell on that relationship. Being abused is horrible and I would never wish that on anyone and I'm very sorry for your suffering, but I don't think your former girlfriend is some crazed woman. I don't know if you have children, but if you don't, try and see it from her point of view. Your personality may not have changed, but the circumstances have and she views you differently. People can say it doesn't mat

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Those are the same arguments used to defend anything based on statistics. If someone said they don't want Black people in their neighborhood because they are more likely to be murderers or rapists, that would be true statistically beyond a shadow of a doubt. If you didn't want an Arab in your neighborhood because they are more likely to be terrorists, that too is true. But we call those positions bigotry, and that this too is bigotry of the worst kind, to double victimize. Remember, those who ar

Abuse is a horribly traumatic thing to endure at any point in your life. I'm sorry OP that you had to go through that. I hope the person that hurt you is rotting in jail or in hell. I have 0 tolerance for abusers. I hate people that make excuses for someone that's abusive. You shouldn't be able to walk this earth if you allow such evil to escape from your body! I have dealt with so many sex offenders and it makes me sick to think about the things these people would do. Your girlfriend is obvious

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agreed 100% I also have no tolerance for abusers. they should either be in jail for life, or in hell for life. to OP: I really hope that the person that did that to you is away for life.

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