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FML - The follow-up
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Hey! wow this was actually posted. I work in an apprentice, I do business and admin. I am only 19 years old. I have taken it up with my office manager and HR. These guys are just creeps and have been told to stay away from me. For those who say "well you must be doing something" I am not. I dress in jeans and a top, nothing is on show, and even if it was, it does not give them the right to ask where I live and that. I have never given out where I live. I actually have a boyfriend, and if they ask me out, I do tell them, but even if I was single it is none of their business. Thank you to everyone who did back me up, and to those who are saying I must be doing something, please just leave, I do not have time for your comments. I am not to blame here, the guy was, he is married, (could tell from the ring on his finger) and if he has kids, he should be so ashamed! I am only 19!
By Mindersss - / Thursday 1 October 2015 10:46 / United Kingdom
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By  heirofhope  |  38

Definitely talk to a higher up or HR. That's really inappropriate. Set firm 'no' boundaries now, and if it continues file for harassment to your boss, don't take any of that. Don't lose your job because of someone else ruining it.

By  shablagoo22  |  11

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  gogo44444  |  28

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  Welshite  |  39

I worked in retail for four years. Got stalked. Got kissed. Got grabbed. And if you tried to politely decline, it simply encouraged them as you being "hard to get". All the girls had their predators at the store, and some of the men.

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  DoomedGemini  |  35

Yeah, I hear about things like this happening everywhere. It's nothing new even, my mom told me how she had a job as a teen/young adult and one of the older men working there would make lewd comments about her. It's just something many people have to deal with and its typically more brushed off if the person is older.

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  greeneyedx  |  23

Because only feminists see and experience harassment in the workplace. None of these women are being rude to the commenter. They're sharing experiences. Pardon them for speaking up and disagreeing.

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  9a_1z  |  12

Why won't these rabid feminists let you harass them in peace eh? (I only said that because I know it'll get people's panties in a twist, please excuse me) I think it's reasonable to assume she has vibes, I imagine those vibes are 'sweet young girl who will probably respond to grossness with a polite smile, feel free to approach'.

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  deltoren  |  11

Hell im a guy and I've had coworkers and customers try to flirt and talk lewd with me. I just treat it as a joke, but maybe that only works cuz I'm a dude.

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  cheeeksss  |  29

I can't downvote your comment enough, 2. Just because OP is experiencing harassment issues more than once, she is automatically the problem? You ARE blaming the victim here regardless if you claim to do so. Maybe OP is just super attractive and friendly, which is usually all it takes to get guys all over her. You're part of the reason why victims have a hard time speaking up for themselves. Shame on you.

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  Lexipants  |  21

When I worked at Canadian Tire, an old Italian man LITERALLY CHASED ME AROUND THE STORE. He would NOT go away, and nobody thought it was a big deal. They acted like I was overreacting and I should've just ignored the geriatric creeper trying to grab and kiss me in the middle of the store. No thanks.

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  Allornone  |  35

I've actually been groped several times at my current retail job, and despite reporting each incident, management has never done anything about it. I've been hit on constantly, even stalked by a confirmed schizophrenic at a former store, and pretty much expected to just deal with it. And I'm no model. All it takes is just being a female.

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  light_specks  |  3

Yeah, that's akin to a statement that starts with "I'm not racist, but...". That is never going to be followed by anything good. Saying "I'm not victim blaming" doesn't make it so if you victim-blame in the very next sentence.

By  DumbWater  |  17

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  dafluckster  |  6

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  syki  |  22

You don't have to physically touch someone for it to be harassment. OP is obviously uncomfortable with this kind of attention, enough that she left her last job. There's nothing wrong with flirting, but IMHO there's a huge difference between testing the waters and apparently asking your new coworker about her stance on geriatric gangbangs.

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  dafluckster  |  6

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  DoomedGemini  |  35

Yeah, men getting harassed and sexualized needs to stop to. Op shouldn't have to leave her job to get away from creeps, EVERYONE needs to understand no means no. After that you are in the wrong. Girl, boy, whatever. Respect the person and back off if they aren't interested.

By  heirofhope  |  38

Definitely talk to a higher up or HR. That's really inappropriate. Set firm 'no' boundaries now, and if it continues file for harassment to your boss, don't take any of that. Don't lose your job because of someone else ruining it.

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  sturschaedel  |  27

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  gracehi  |  31

EXACTLY! 50. Throwing out the "I'm gay" excuse implies that it's okay to sexually harass women as long as they're heterosexual. A simple "no" should be good enough.

By  may14th  |  26

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  mariri9206  |  30

#76 I think that's likely, too. I work retail and had 2 encounters with a creepy customer (the same customer both times) and now I wear a fake engagement ring at work to keep the creeps away.

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