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By notmarryingyou - / Wednesday 10 September 2014 17:16 / United States - Bothell
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By  Exhayle  |  20

Take it as a compliment.

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  kurodansei  |  15

It's a way of life.

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  Khaleesi_26  |  30

I don't think you know what a trophy wife is. It's generally a younger pretty woman who marries and older man. Marrying a younger woman like this is a "symbol" for a man's social status. In this case it sounds like these men believe in Polygamy, marrying more than one woman.

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  mary_13  |  22

#40 Are u Kenyan no, then u should not assume how they act and treat their wife's, they have a different way of life and from what I have heard and read about them they treat there wife's with respect and honestly if 3 different guy's asked me to marry them I'd feel pretty good about myself I would turn them down but still. Also their most likely just kidding around. P.S. you really should understand these men are not the typical asshole dudes from the U.S. most of them are gentlemen and respectful towards woman no matter how many wife's they have it does not mean they are disrespectful.

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  mary_13  |  22

#78 Thank you but I don't care about grammar I just wanted to get my point across even thou these people don't want to hear it, but thanks for agreeing with me even thou everyone is going to down vote you and me. They just judge everything with out understanding it which is sad really but true.

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who even said anything about them being old men they're just stated as three Kenyan men.The main thing to be worried about really in this situation is polygamy, i would think,not being someone's trophy wife but being their 4th wife.

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  raphanne_fml  |  33

#70 I love the fact that you just said that she shouldn't assume Kenyan husbands to be a certain way, but you had absolutely no problem saying that American guys are assholes.

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  mary_13  |  22

Okay #89 did I say all American guy's are assholes no I said "the typical asshole dudes from the U.S." which in this case I was stating that when ever a guy from here does the same thing it's not because the have different belief's it's because they are cheaters who just can't be in a committed relationship usually, but really thank you for getting to the real issue here not the fact that there are other cultures beside's our's that may be different but that doesn't make them horrible people no of course not it's picking apart all the little things in my comment. Good for you man, nice job being so understanding.

By  Khaleesi_26  |  30

Remember that different countries have different values on marriage. It's still a little weird though OP but at least they think you are disrable. Hopefully they finally get the message you're not into that!.

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  Khaleesi_26  |  30

While it may not be accepted here, it is still where their roots came from and they aren't going to forget that. Yes it may be wrong of them to bring it up, but that's the same as visiting another country and practicing your beliefs. Is a catholic going to stop praying because they are in a country that doesn't believe in the same god? Is a muslim going to stop wearing his turban because he moved to North America? No. People need to accept that not all religions and views are the same.

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  little_aliceee  |  16

You are right but this is her CO-WORKERS! They are working for the company and if the company is decent, their policy should identify this as sexual harassment. OP clearly dislikes the guys' proposal and intentions. There is an expression "when you go to Rome, eat like the Romans do." You can't go to another country and expect them to follow your damn belief. It's like trying to force someone to act like you. In fact, you can't expect OP to follow the guys' tradition when they are in her own country... Are you craZy?

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  Khaleesi_26  |  30

I was'nt saying OP should follow their belief. And yes if she does have a problem she should try and solve it and if she feels harrassed she should speak up. But You're missing my whole point. When we go to other countries its okay to continue with our beliefs when its strange to the natives of that territory. But when they come here and do the same everyone freaks out. Why can't we all accept that not everyone has the same idea of living?

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Harassment? Yes. Sexual harassment? No. Op never said they touched her or anything like that so this is just harassment.

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  PoisonOrchid  |  21

It sounds to me like this is more of them joking around than a serious proposal. I think they are using an aspect of their native culture to playfully make a pass at and tease OP since she is the new woman in the office, not legitimately expressing their desire to marry her. I'm sure they are aware of our country and cultures stance on marriage and monogamy. It doesn't sound like they are "fresh off the boat." If it bothers OP. she needs to say something to them and, if they don't stop, then go to HR.

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  Brandi_Faith  |  33

I agree with 51, it sounds like they're joking, and if so it's funny and they're just trying to break the ice etc. I wouldn't get too upset over it. Of course if it does bother you, tell them. But to me it sounds like they're joking and good guys.

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  mary_13  |  22

#67 Honestly I think they can be way too strict about this harassment shit like saying hay you look really pretty today can be considered harassment I don't think it is. I would not mind at all if someone said I looked pretty but I bet your the type that would go crazy about it. It annoys me that people get so crazy about that now, don't get me wrong there are some situations that all these laws about it come in handy, but too many people go overboard with it and the way it is now people can get fired for the most ridiculous reasons.

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  squideth  |  18

Yep. If anyone of any gender is uncomfortable by advances and comments from a coworker, regardless of how "joking" it is, it's harassment if they don't stop.

By  Leo619  |  20

Look on the bright side! Three men want you :D take it as a compliment

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  kurodansei  |  15

See the funny thing about females, especially the attractive ones, is that there are a lot more than 3 guys who find them desirable at any given time and most any given place. So it's not really a big plus.

By  CharismaGeek  |  19

I would say "At least you're attractive" but that's already been said. Decline their proposals and don't give them the time of day if they're trying to have an affair with you.

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  Khaleesi_26  |  30

They aren't trying to have an affair with OP/their wives, their belief is to marry more than one woman.

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  mary_13  |  22

#15 It's pointless to try and reason with these people they just don't get that there are other ways of life and that does not mean that they aren't good people or they want to cheat it just means they have different beliefs.

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