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By PaintedDoll / Monday 20 June 2016 03:12 / United States
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If you don't have a relationship with your step-father, there is no need to contact him. Don't stress about it, sorry your mom is trying to guilt you!

You shouldn't have to call him OP. He's not your father, he didn't raise you for any part of your adolescent life. You're good.

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If you don't have a relationship with your step-father, there is no need to contact him. Don't stress about it, sorry your mom is trying to guilt you!

I think that step-parents can truly embody being mothers and fathers, but after one year and at age 25? Seems totally reasonable that you didn't call.

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Not sure where you got the fact his age is 25. The other guy has been the father for the past 25 years...

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Whether making a phone call would have inconvenienced the OP or not is beside the point. The point is that the OP clearly doesn't share the same type of relationship with the mum's husband as with the actual dad.

To be honored on fathers day, you have to actually HAVE BEEN A FATHER. If you didn't raise a kid, or help raise a kid, you aren't a father. Although there is a certain cunning in trying to get a fathers day gift from an already grown child you didn't have to raise. You do no work, and they're probably earning money now to buy you a damn nice card and necktie. I wonder if stepdad doesn't care, and dear old mom is the one who really wants you to acknowledge him. To get back at your dad, or help a

My mom tried to bitch at me for the same thing. If he's not your dad, you shouldn't have to feel obligated to act like he is OP

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Why should OP have called? He didn't raise OP. And he has only been in his/her life for a year, and s/he is 25 years old.

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Why? Father's day is for celebrating fathers, the guy in a person's life who has supported, raised and loves them. The mother's husband doesn't really fit any of these, so why should the OP acknowledge him as such on this day? It would be like singing happy birthday to another person at a friend's birthday party because they feel "left out." It isn't your day buddy, so you don't get the attention, grow up.

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And? It's a nice gesture to give money to everyone to meet, if you're up for it why don't you tell me where you are so I can meet you. Op was celebrating someone who was her actual father. Why should she take away from doing what the day is supposed to be about to call someone who wasn't a father figure at all and whom she doesn't seem to have any family relationship with? Why don't we just make it celebrate all men day because it's a nice gesture?

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I'm not saying you have to give everyone a nice gesture. This is someone that is, by law, part of her family. He is her step father [key word "father"]. It's not his fault that he came into her life at an older age. But he is her mother's husband. And, unless he is just an awful person, just mentioning happy fathers day to him would have been nice. Would not have taken too much time away from her biological father. And I'm sure he would have understood.Sometimes, and I know this is a h

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Yeah, you know what's actually nice? Focusing on your own damn kids and their efforts instead of being upset over a child you don't have a relationship with focusing their efforts on their actual father figure rather than you because apparently marrying someone means your entitled to bring celebrated by their kids. Op has commented. Op has said he had his own kids. Op said they don't have a relationship at all really, only seeing each other at holidays and that's it. Instead of letting op celebr

Step parents can be just like regular bio parents, sometimes better, my dad is my step father and has raised me since I was 4. I celebrate Father's day with both him and my biological dad. However, in your situation, your mom is bring incredibly unreasonable, that man is her husband, and that is the only title he has, he is not your father. In order to be a parent, you need to raise a child and be there for them. You're already an adult and this guy has only been around for a year, he has no tr

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Is it really that hard to figure out who she was talking to?? You can't be all the bright if you can't put that together.

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