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By Anonymous - / Friday 27 May 2016 17:15 / United States - Kent
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  DanielleinDC  |  28

No, it's that he called her disgusting for wanting to use handcuffs but has no problem with a girl who uses animal tail butt plugs. It's okay to not want to use handcuffs, but why not say that's not your cup of tea?

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  metalcrazed  |  21

These are two very different things not everyone can handle being restrained. I think if something makes your partner uncomfortable you should respect that. For me if a person suggested that it would be NO and if they insisted it would be game over. But I am plenty kinky in other ways.

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  metalcrazed  |  21

Only if you're into it for me and I'm guessing a few others it would be very awful. But everyone on here seems to think he was wrong to express himself on what he wanted. Interesting that op went online to trash what he likes in bed but he's supposed to meekly accept her wants.

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  Shlalg  |  15

@metalcrazed You are projecting hard, here. OP said she suggested handcuffs, and was called disgusting. She brought up a want, and was shut down hurtfully. You keep talking about some people, yourself included, not liking being restrained, but she never said she wanted HIM tied down. Maybe she wanted to be? "But everyone on here seems to think he was wrong to express himself on what he wanted." He called his gf disgusting, this wasn't 'expressing' his wants. You also said: "Interesting that op went online to trash what he likes in bed but he's supposed to meekly accept her wants." NOBODY has said he was supposed to do this. And OP isn't really trashing him. This is basically "I suggesting kinky things with my bf, he called me disgusting, and is now bragging about being even kinkier than I suggested with his new girl". Because to the general public, furry buttplugs are certainly viewed as kinkier than restraints. I'm sorry if somebody was pushing you too hard to try something you don't like, but we have zero evidence of OP doing this, and you are assuming she did.

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  metalcrazed  |  21

ARGGGGGGH,ok what you and op aren't getting is that buttstuff and handcuffs are diffrent kinds of kinky he isn't going to be into everything so comparing them is silly for example saying that guy is so wierd he likes getting dressed up as a chicken and being called dirty names but he won't let me hook his nipples to car battery these are both kinky but not comparable.

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I'm downvoting you because all the comments I've read by you, on this post and others, have been very assumptive and extreme. I don't at all disagree with some of the things you say, you just immediately go to the utmost extreme with your comments. You take everything so personally. Relax, man.

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  Royness  |  8

I think they are very uncomfortable with the idea of being restrained and assume that the dude in this FML MUST HAVE felt the same with no real basis. Could say that it is projection xD

By  missnettymarie  |  25

He very well could be more into the furry lifestyle than the BDSM lifestyle. Different people enjoy different things. What may be disgusting to you may not be disgusting for him, and vice versa.

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  Migole  |  36

Yeah but you don't call people disgusting over handcuffs... He could've said that he feels uncomfortable using them and would rather prefer doing this and that. But by the sounds of it he had no intention of saving the relationship anyway. Communication is key and calling their SO disgusting for suggesting a rather common type of foreplay is definitely not good communication. It's not like she suggested he poops on her ...

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You should NEVER tell your partner their kinks are disgusting, even if that's the way you feel about it. A lot of people are really self-conscious about their needs and desires and are convinced they're abnormal for wanting something other than vanilla sex - so insulting them can be really damaging. If your partner suggests something that you're not into, politely tell them it's not going to happen. Honestly, that should really be common sense.

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Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he and his new girlfriend haven't even had sex. Guys tend to say shit like that to friends to look cool, and even though none of us believe each other, it still happens.

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  metalcrazed  |  21

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

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  metalcrazed  |  21

I am pissed that 1 she is posting about what her ex likes in bed when it's no longer her business. 2 that she doesn't accept that people have different kinks and not everyone likes the same thing. 3 that so many people think bondage is nessecary to being kink and if you refuse you have an issue.

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  DoomedGemini  |  37

He said the kinks in public? And I don't see anything saying op doesn't accept that kink, the FML is being called disgusting for a kink when he was fine with another. And sorry, for a boy and girl couple things like that ARE more extreme than handcuffs. Both are okay, but calling one disgusting isn't.

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