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  ThatOneChick856

Well she must be fine with polygamy, too, if she knows about the wife and OP and is chill about it. I think polygamy is fine because people can do what they want with their relationships, but it's a jerk move (and kind of fishy) that OP wasn't told about this. Being "out of the loop" is technically being cheated on in their individual relationship because OP had no say in the matter from not even knowing.

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Yeah, I'm all for people having polyamorous or open relationships Id they want them, but EVERYONE has to be informed and in agreement in it.

By  oj101

I can't decide whether everyone involved (apart from OP) has really low standards, or if OP's boyfriend is an irresistible catch.

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Open relationship mostly means he t And the wife are polyamorous this does not mean they have low standards, a lot of people are not cut out for monogamy

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^that's a dumb statement. I dated a married guy. He and his husband are extremely over the top in love. They've been together for 15 years and he made it clear to me what our "relationship" would be. They like to have a little fun outside of their relationship and bring people into it every once in a while. I know a few other couples who have similar relationships. Monogamy isn't for everyone and monogamy doesn't always define a marriage.

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Oh shut up, #38. You're monogamous, yay! So am I. Doesn't mean everyone else is. Doesn't mean their marriage vows mean anything less to those people. Get off your high holy horse and stop judging people you don't know.

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@39 I think she meant how the vows say 'forsaking all other even as long as you both shall live' part. In which case that part of the vows meant nothing, if you have multiple people in your relationship.

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Depends on your wedding vows. Pretty sure people don't all have the same vows, especially in different types of relationships or religions. If we get married, you won't see me or my girlfriend promising ourself to a 'husband' now will you?

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47, you are being very judgmental, claiming that because two people married can agree to be in relationships with other people that their marriage or even each other doesn't mean anything to them? Even saying they SHOULDN'T marry? If you don't want a poly relationship, don't be in one. Keep your nose out of the air and out of those who choose to's business. It doesn't mean they value vows they made any less and certainly doesn't mean they value ANY of their partners less.

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47 To be honest, people have only taken those vows seriously in the last 100-150 years. Married men have been going out whoring for centuries, and the number of wives that sailors had depended on the number of ports they visited regularly. The wives knew it, but they just put up with it. Open relationships have been apart of society for as long as society existed, it was just kept as a dark secret. The only reason people are making a big deal about it now in the last century is because they aren

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  ThatOneChick856

#47- On FML, you CAN respectfully disagree with someone without a fight brewing. You did not do that. There is a MAJOR difference between "I just don't like the idea of an open marriage because it would make me uncomfortable and I don't understand how that'd work out" and "you shouldn't marry if you do that." The first is stating your personal preference/opinion and admitting your ignorance on the subject. The second is just being self-entitled by stating that people "sh

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Well people who are in open relationships don't really have relationships like this on the side but just have sexual relations with other people.

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Op has to be aware too. Just because she wasn't his original partner or who he married doesn't mean he can't cheat on her.

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Yes! If it actually is a true, open marriage, the main couple discuss terms of what's acceptable. Usually it's a few flings per year- not multiple partners at once. I have a feeling that maybe the one who knew about the wife is the original "open" woman and the others are unapproved side flings. Only way to know is to ask the wife. FYL OP.

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It sounds to me like she DID meet his wife and it was his wife telling the girl that they were in an open relationship.

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