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By  cacheson  |  34

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By  nzhx  |  23

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

I don't understand why you've been downvoted so much. This girl in the FML, and others who think that it's necessary to text every single day and apparently are livid when these wants aren't met, are very, very clingy. It's ridiculous that people not only are so clingy that they have to talk every single day, but they would rather get mad at their partner than be worried that maybe something might have happened (if texting everyday is a regular occurrence). People have lives outside of their relationships, and it's selfish to expect it to always have to involve you.

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@88 my thoughts exactly I can understand being concerned that something is wrong( I tend to text people every day or so but when people poof I'm never mad only worried... Hope you find someone who's not a butch op someone who reacts like that isn't worth your time!!

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  Setareh23  |  34

#88 I think people get mad BECAUSE they become worried. I text my boyfriend at least a "good morning" and "good night" every day. If he suddenly stopped answering, I call him and it goes to voicemail, I try to contact his family and none of them know what's going on, I visit him and he doesn't answer the door, etc...I would be VERY worried about him and think something bad had happened. I get that if you only contact each other once a week, then 2 days of no contact is not that much. But if you check in regularly, then a two-day total disappearance with no warning could be very worrisome. So if after the two days I find out he was just chilling in his apartment the whole time, ignoring my texts/calls/visit for absolutely no reason, I would be peeved and I don't think that's unreasonable. If he wants alone time that's fine, but I think the least he could do is give me a head's up rather than simply totally ignoring me and letting me worry sick about him for 48 hours.

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

#97- There is a big difference between you and the gf in the fml. Her: no texts, immediate assumptions of a breakup and "cheat" with multiple people less than 48 hours after ending it You: actually attempt to communicate with your BF in other legitimate ways if you're confused/worried. Your situation is completely irrelevant because you'd try to figure out what was going on. If OP said "we didn't communicate at all and she attempted to reach me through work/family/coming over, but I ignored her" then I'd understand your argument. It sounds like they simply didn't text, and even if they hadn't seen each other for those two days, it sounds like she made NO attempt to figure out what was going on if she was truly concerned. Instead, she went and slept around. So either she's a selfish bitch or a stupid one.

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  Setareh23  |  34

#98 But the thing is, most of the comments are precisely asking for more information. They are wondering whether she tried to contact him and he just ignored her or whatever (and then confirming that if he had no legitimate reason and was just ignoring, they would be annoyed too), or whether she made no effort at all. We don't know whether she tried to contact him (or how)...all we know is that he didn't contact her for two days, and it is this lack of information which allows some people to imagine why she might get angry depending on the situation. In either case though, I agree that she's obviously a bitch because even if he WAS ignoring her that's no reason to cheat.

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  Setareh23  |  34

Anyways, the point of my comment was in response to your assertion that people who would be angry after the two days were clingy because they should be worried instead, and that even the fact that people like to talk to each other every day is clingy and desparate. Maybe this is not what you meant, but it's how I interpreted it, and I just wanted to point out that the anger often stems from the worry itself. And you also expressed that opinion in the comment thread below, where the comments were specifically asking him whether she tried to contact him in other ways and he ignored her for no reason, and that if this was the case they'd be upset too. So I'm saying that imo if someone tries to contact you because they're worried, you simply ignore them with no reason, then I agree with others that being angry (NOT cheating) is a legit reaction.

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  Setareh23  |  34

#102 yeah, obviously not, but thatonechick has been commenting that they're suprised ANYONE would be angry if their SO suddenly stopped contacting them for two days without warning or reason, and that people who would be upset are clingy and obviously don't worry about their SO. And that is the part I am disagreeing with. That the gf is a scumbag, I agree on totally.

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  it___happens  |  12

Even if you didn't text her back out of respect and love for your relationship she should've had the patience or come to your house to see if you were okay. For all she knows you could've gotten into an accident or something (hope not but that's just an example) My boyfriend has had his phone broken for a couple days before and not been able to communicate or talk with me. And I didn't just assume he broke it off

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

Except there is a HUGE difference between being frustrated at a situation because you're worried and being pissed at your SO for not being able to respond for a short amount of time. And yes, the FML DOES directly say where the communication was failing- through text. If he meant he avoided communication in general or multiple attempts at communication, he'd more likely say "I ignored her for two days" instead of directly pointing out a specific medium. And I see no problem with wanting to communicate with your loved one daily. In fact, I find it very natural that someone would want to be around their partner a lot. However, /wanting/ to be around/talk to someone daily is VERY different from "oh my god if my boyfriend didn't text me in (specified short time period) is be livid". Wanting to talk all the time is natural, demanding that your SO constantly keep up with these daily needs because you're needy and being pissed because they can't is very clingy. I'll say it again- people have busy lives that can't always involve their partner. Yes, in the grand scheme of things, your loved ones should take top priority, but on the small scale, some things require more urgency and effort. In fact, I broke up with a past girlfriend because she was very much constantly like what the other people are saying- for example, she got pissed at me for not wanting to talk 24/7, even when I tried to explain to her that I had a lot to focus on for finals week that were very, very important for my grades. But she refused to hear it. She did things like this constantly. Maybe I'm biased, but this is exactly like what everyone is coming off as, more or less. It's clingy. And this is all my opinion on if this is a regular occurrence between the two of them. If that's the case, I'd have to say that he clearly would have a standard reason at this point (school, work, etc) and she's stupid for not realizing this is one of those times. If this is a rare or one-time occurrence, I'm even more inclined to think it's fucking ridiculous for people to get worked up. Because it's not like everyone is always on top of things (such as thinking you responded when you didnt), but I'll be damned if anyone ever makes a simple mistake around anyone who justifies the anger of this girl. You guys aren't giving him any leeway when it comes to mistakes. Not being texted for two days is something that can and should be brushed off when he apologies for it and explains why (unless his reason is fucked up). If you can't brush something so small like this off without "being peeved", you have bigger problems on your hands, honestly. If OP comes on here and gives details that show he intentionally ignored her, she was worried, she tried contacting him different ways, etc, then of course my opinion of him would change to "dude what the fuck?" for the specific situation. But with this hypothetical situation we have currently, my opinions will stay the same regardless.

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  Setareh23  |  34

#113 Look, I get your point. IF there was no communication whatsoever, IF she did not try to contact him in any way, and IF he ignored her for legit reasons (like busy, phone broke, etc…), then yes she is being clingy. And of course, even if she was not clingy she was still in the wrong for jumping to conclusions and cheating. But I think you ARE being biased towards commenters based on your own experiences, because they are writing comments specifically about OTHER hypothetical situations. For example comment number 2 says she’d be peeved if her bf ceased communication with no explanation. #39 says it depends on whether she tried to communicate [in other ways] or not. #10 says being upset if the lack of communication is with no notice and for no reason. #47 says wanting alone time is fine but that it's more considerate to give warning before disappearing [so no one worries] #34 says she’d be freaked out and worried. Etc… And all of them say cheating is NOT an appropriate reaction. They are not talking about being angry simply because they craved attention, and despite the fact that their bf had a perfectly good reason for not contacting them. They are saying they’d be annoyed and find it inconsiderate if they were worried sick and tried to contact their bf in various ways, and in the end it turned out he ignored them for NO reason (so he wasn’t busy with life or school work, his phone was not broken, he wasn’t hurt or injured, he just had NO reason). Because (while it seems unbelievable) there are many people who will ignore their gf/bf’s worried texts/calls simply because they don’t give a shit about whether that person is feeling worried and stressed. I mean, you said yourself "if OP ...shows he intentionally ignored her, she was worried, she tried contacting him different ways, etc, then of course my opinion of him would change to "dude what the fuck?" for the specific situation" and that is EXACTLY the type of situation those comments address. Sure, you thought it was obvious that the FML girl was not worried about him, had not tried to contact him at all, and that the bf had a legit reason why he didn’t answer. And honestly, I interpreted it similarly. But they clearly interpreted it differently, so I don’t think it makes sense to judge them and call them “clingy” for their opinion on a hypothetical situation which is completely different than the situation you described. Heck, they aren’t even saying the guy definitely did this. They are just asking him for more details, giving a completely alternative explanation to yours which they believe could justify worry/annoyance but NOT cheating, and then relating how they’d react in said situation.

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  darkangel7410  |  13

I really have to agree. No idea why the massive number of out votes is there. No where in the world is there a law or rule that says you have to respond to your bf/gf at least once a day. More than that assuming you broke up with her and sleeping with other guys two days after the fact. Sounds like she never gave a damn to begin with. I mean who ever down voted you must be girls or guys who would have done the same thing she did. Sure if you like someone you talk to them but maybe she didn't think to herself "Maybe something happened and his phone died", or "Maybe he is really busy with stuff." I mean i have no idea why txting should be a make or break. Because if it is a make or break who ever you are with DOES NOT give a damn.

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  wawa_sxm  |  9

OP is from sint maarten, 20 square mile island.....she wasn't worried about him, anything bad happens the whole island knows. She probably cheated knew he was going to find out and came up with this lame excuse.

By  cacheson  |  34

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  Setareh23  |  34

I'd be slightly peeved too (if he had no good reason), but I don't think that's a reason/excuse to cheat on him with multiple other guys. For all she knew, he got into an accident or was very ill or something terrible happened, etc...explaining his silence. Being annoyed or angry I'd understand, but cheating just seems like a scumbag move imo.

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  domolovesyoshi  |  33

Yes it all depends on whether she tried to communicate with him and he ceased to respond. I don't know about you but I'd try and at least text or call him before thinking he dumped me.

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  Bigmike211995  |  8

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  MandieL  |  27

Nothing wrong with that, but to just drop off the face of the earth for 2 days with no explanation? I am in no way condoning what she did. She overreacted for sure, but I'd be pissed too.

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  Malsain_fml  |  10

Really? So you can't spend two days with no contact with your girlfriend?? I said Girlfriend, not wife or a girl you share your house with... It sounds absolutely normal to me, and she has no excuse... It is not even worth worrying. I would add that if there is no contact in 2 days, it also mean she did not text (we don't know if it is the case here, though)

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  ThatOneChick856  |  35

I honestly can't believe how many people on here are freaking out over a measly //two days//. I used to have a long-distance girlfriend so texting was pretty much our only way to communicate AT ALL. We texted each other when we could, which was pretty much everyday, but occasionally we wouldn't talk for a whole 3-5 days. No, neither of us freaked out at all- we assumed that the other needed some alone time or were very busy. It was no big deal. If we had gone more than a full week without speaking, I'd become pretty anxious, but that's it. It's honestly baffling to me how many people are justifying this girl's anger (not her actions). I can understand being a bit worried, but come on now.

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  cacheson  |  34

No, but if he ignored her texts for two days without even saying he needed space that's a legitimate reason to be a little annoyed. Not to cheat, mind you, just to be annoyed.

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  Zetra3  |  1

I'd be peeved if i was annoyed every day of my life. Oh no, we didn't talk! it's So HORRIBLE. what ever would we would be do.. what lives could we seriously, stop it. Your in a relationship, not a marriage.

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  ScarletteEve  |  31

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  PennyLane27  |  30

Even if they'd been fighting, it's still not an excuse to cheat! If something was bad enough in the relationship that couldn't be communicated and worked through, then break it off, or take a break, or whatever. But cheating? Not cool.

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  RebelDiaries  |  11

Wow..I didn't know that people rely on texting way too much instead of assuming that they don't care about you, how about assuming they were busy with something, don't feel like texting or whatever reason that's harmless. I tend to do that at times, sometimes, I would be in the middle of texting and forget to send or complete it. My mom always thought something happened to me if I don't reply right away, lol. I would tell her I was either working or forgot to reply which is the truth.

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  Feklfekl2222  |  32

It does seem like the GF has used it as an excuse however it is possibly there are other circumstances. For all we know they had a massive fight 2 days ago, with anger fuelled threats of ending it or questions of why they bother being with each other. The GF could have texted him and not received replies and assumed the threats were real

By  MasterTron  |  24

Really two days without talking and she thinks you guys broke up? Looks like she was looking for an excuse to leave you. Hell my gf and I don't talk for almost a week at times doesn't mean we broke up though. Edit: looks like numbers 3 and 5 beat me to the punch

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  MasterTron  |  24

We live in separate states and I work nights, so while I'm sleeping she's working it's generally a hit and miss situation though we do write letters to each other.

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  naviajack626  |  16

It's different because at least you reply. It seems as if the OP completely ignored his girlfriend. Still an over reaction as I would like an explanation before doing something so dramatic, but understandable.

By  sharkgirl4  |  23

At least it's 'girlfriend' and not 'wife' so you don't have to worry about legal proceedings and equitable divisions of assets to drop her. And now you can find someone better.

By  neuronerd  |  27

Did you usually speak daily, and did you give her a heads up that you'd be unavailable for 2 days? If not, was there a reason you couldn't contact her? Cheating isn't ok, but I can understand her being upset if you dropped off the planet with no notice and for no reason. Perhaps that was her way of dumping you (not a good way, but it is a possibility).

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  Helldemon  |  32

I don't think she would have a right to be upset honestly. If anything, she should have been worried that he hadn't texted her not upset. This is assuming she never tried to make contact with him herself and she found out somehow he was ignoring her.

By  LoZelda123  |  20

*shakes head* I get bummed if I don't hear from my boyfriend, but seriously...that's just an excuse. she either felt no committment to the relationship ir had already been cheating. FYL OP Hope you find someone better

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