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I understand that this FML is a bit rude about her weight, but the rudeness is fully justified. I don't understand how people can look at this FML and think that the obese woman was not at fault. Could she have not just chosen an empty seat?

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OP's wording sounds like he was in the seat first. So, why should he move for her? It was the woman's fault for trying to squeeze into a seat that she couldn't fit into.

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I agree that it was rude sounding but at the same time even if her weight isn't her fault it does not give her the right to push OP up against a window. If she couldn't stand for a long time she could have asked OP to give up the seat for her.

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OP only made a comment about the woman's size to describe how big she was. and even if it was rude, I think it was rude of the woman to completely disregard OP's personal space and just decided it was okay to take up somebody else's seat.

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as a fat girl... STOP SAYING PEOPLE CANT HELP BEING OBESE. there's such a small amount of obese people who are in the situation solely for other health reasons. 99% of the time it's pure laziness (which I admit to on my part).

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Actually, being someone with hypothyroidism myself, I can assure you that with proper & responsible use of medication accompanied by a heathy diet, there is no reason for a hypoT patient to be obese. A tad overweight, maybe. But not obese.

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One of my friends had to have her thyroid removed due to tumors. She has issues with staying in shape, but she eats so healthy and is constantly active. She plays and teaches soccer. She also works part time at a ropes course on top of her job and going to college. She one of those most fit people I know. Stop making excuses.

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Op never even called the lady fat. She could've been a very large masculine lady. That doesn't mean that she's fat. People need to stop putting words into Ops mouth.

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You seem extremely accepting of the discomfort this persons obesity is forcing on others. "It's a fact of life, deal with it" is hardly a valid argument. We all pay for the same seat space. If you can't fit into it, either pay for 2 seats or find a different method of transportation.

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@29 I find it to be a positive thing to be intolerant of something that has negative effects on others. I have no sympathy for those who are so selfish and self-centered that they have no consideration for others. This is not a simple case of being a bit on the heavy side. Being so morbidly obese as to occupy multiple seats either results in someone like OP getting squished, or people having to stand because one corpulent individual took up an entire row with their plus-sized buttocks. The woman

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I would also like to add that most people with disabilities can lose excess weight with a proper diet and exercise. Not all, but most. The majority of people today claim they have a "health issue" causing their obesity, but only a small portion of people truly have a health condition.

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For those of you saying she should pay for another seat, public transit doesn't make you pay per seat, hence the reason you're not guaranteed a seat or how people can take up more than one seat, either from weight like in this fml or for things like groceries.

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Anecdotal evidence doesn't really help when people's metabolisms are vastly different, you really can't make the assumption that your friend's and family's experiences with certain illnesses are exactly the same as other people's. Also this is all entirely discounting the fact that mental health problems often have a part in it too.

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For the most part, there is little excuse, which is okay because it's their body and they can do what they want, but just because your experience with an illness didn't cause obesity doesn't mean that that's what causes it. Most people I know who are obese to the point of it being a small burden gained the weighty due to a crippling injury. Overall though, unless a fat person does what the woman in the fml did, who cares? It's their health and image, not yours.

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Medical conditions don't turn you into an obese hog. Yes, there are some that will make you a bit heavier, but being 80, 100, 150lbs overweight is a decision; a decision that doesn't just impact you.

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My uncle is partially paralyze in half of his body, has seizures, and has medical conditions with his feet that's required several surgeries. Yes, he should exercise more than he does, but there's really not much he can do. Just an example. Yes, some people just use an excuse, but there are some people who have a hard time just moving around, so exercise isn't so easy.

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In most cases people are obese due to being negligent, (lack of exercise, overeating, alcohol) but there are also those few cases of genes being passed on but even then that percentage is small.

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Obesity can be due to a 'neglectful lifestyle' but occasionally it can be due to medical reasons or reasons outside of said people's reach, to categorize all overweight people as neglectful is demeaning however.

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This is partially true, but even if you have genes for obesity a proper and healthy lifestyle management plan can cut down on your overall size/weight significantly. Ultimately if you're physically large enough to take up 2 seats on a bus, it's your fault.

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Obese and overweight are different. Also, you don't need excercise to be at a healthy weight, you just need to eat properly. Excercise is important, but you aren't going to end up obese because you don't excercise if you eat properly.

I understand that this FML is a bit rude about her weight, but the rudeness is fully justified. I don't understand how people can look at this FML and think that the obese woman was not at fault. Could she have not just chosen an empty seat?

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It really depends, because sometimes the bus is so crowded that the only seats are next to other people. If no one's willing to give up their seat, and she's unable or unwilling to stand for long periods of time, someone's going to end up with her. OP just drew the short straw.

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Because the woman obviously has indicators of poor health? Obesity can be a symptom of a multitude of illnesses, from arthritis to depression to hypothyroidism - she might be unable to stand for very long. There is no indication that the OP *needs* to sit down at all. Assuming the worse and throwing horrible insults at her - especially when you really have no idea what her weight gain was caused by - is really gross and prejudiced.

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51, this is coming from a fat person, but it's not OPs responsibility to deal with her probably preventable condition. The bus is the no mans land of the world, she got on the bus fully aware of the risks of a full bus and continued.

while I don't think it's ok to rag on her for her weight I do believe that that was very rude of her! did she not see that you obviously had no room? its so inconsiderate on her part

Probably no other empty seats; im sure she would have sat in 2 empty seats if it was available; and probably cannot stand without tiring easily from what i interpret her size is from this fml

why didn't you tell her to get up? if she has no regard for how you have to sit than you should have no regard for her. not saying be cruel but def could have told her to move or stand or something

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Yet that woman paid for a seat too. If op wanted to demand she give up the seat she paid for they should have offered to reimburse the woman for the seat. Im not excusing the woman as she could have offered to take the inside seat letting the op have the more spacious aisle seat. But what is not acceptable is the op and other's language about her weight. There are many factors that could contribute to her weight including: depression, slow metabolism, low income/ multiple jobs, or even personal

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Because tattoos piercings don't physically affect your comfort? You may not like them, but I've never witnessed a tattoo or piercing to cause someone to be crushed against a window or wall.

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And that's the reason you are fat actually, if you don't eat enough, your body identifies it as a situation of survival with little food available and stores even the slightest fat it finds. I'm surprised your "doctor" didn't tell you about that. Besides, i know people with hypoT and my mother who has a very slow metabolism and has a hard time staying in shape but none of them are that fat. With the required medication, a healthy diet and enough exercise, you don't get morbidly obes

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Screw you, dude. My mother is a vegetarian who loves excercise but she couldn't get out of her bed and walk down the street without a day of rest and went up several dress sizes - if she didn't previously have hyperthyroidism she definitely would have become very obese. Now, 5-10 years later, and she's been back down to her previous weight after a LOT of work and some serious trauma. It doesn't matter if you believe (with no evidence) that a small percentage of obese people haven't acquired tha

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I'm always amazed at how many thin people on the internet know everything there is to know about obesity. I always wonder, if they know exactly how everyone can lose weight, why not just go into business and make a million bucks?

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Maybe "thin people on the internet" are actually thin because they know how to stay in shape or used to be fat and got back to a healthy weight, despite illness or metabolism, so yes, they know how to lose weight and you really don't need to be a genius for that.

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