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FML - The follow-up

Today, I had to have a long and awkward meeting with my boss. It wouldn't have been too awkward though, if I didn't have to avoid staring at her exposed breast whilst she fed her 8 week old baby. FML

Wubba87 Say more :
Wow, didn't realise this would get so much attention so quickly. Thanks guys! Not suprised that this has stirred a debate on breast feeding as a whole though... To clarify, my boss has recently had a child (duh!) and has therefore been on maternity leave. This is the first time she's come back to work. I actually work in a research lab, and so my boss gathered myself and a few of my coworkers (a doctor and a PhD student) together in an office to discuss the progress of our research since she
By Wubba87 - / Wednesday 27 June 2012 10:32 / United Kingdom - Liverpool
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Actually believe it or not 164 is correct...there is a time and a place to breast feed a child in a meeting with a employee is not one of these times it can be considered indecent exposure and he was right again where he said that most "Bosses" are not actually owners in a proper company the owner dose not act as the boss.

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He's right. Just because she's his boss doesn't mean she is the boss. She could just be his manager or something. But then again, of she thinks it's ok to breastfeed in her office, she may own the business. There really isn't enough information to go on.

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80 - It's a law that women can breastfeed whenever and wherever they want. So she's completely in the right in this situation. She doesn't get to choose when baby is hungry.

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It's a law in some places. I highly doubt it's a law everywhere. There has to be a law against it somewhere. I don't know much about the UK's laws, though. Perhaps the Brits here can help me out.

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212, she wasn't wiggling her breast at him. It might have been really awkward, but that's because our society teaches us that basic bodily functions are embarrassing and breasts are only meant for sex. Sexual harassment for breastfeeding, come on.

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Indecent exposure? How messed up is western culture when using a breast as nature intended is considered indecent yet flashing boobs for bra adverts or in a sexual way isn't.

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It seems like the boss wasn't even courteous and didn't ask if it was okay. Yes, society teaches us it's not okay, but come on. Taking a piss is natural but how often do you see someone voluntarily taking a piss in public as if it's nothing? The least she could have done was ask, or excuse herself from the meeting. The baby's not gonna explode if she feeds it early or doesn't do it in the same room.

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Yeah, especially not an 8 week old but this is where pumping comes in to play. She should honestly still be out on maternity leave. I am a certified beast feeding counselor and if she's a first time mom it takes a while to find your niche and to learn your babies preference. If she is wanting to come back to work--this is where PUMPING seems like a great plan!!

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Don't know what state this is in but it's considered illegal now if an employer/owner refuses a woman her right to be able to breast feed in public. It's her choice to feed her child by breast, it's natural, has been going on for hundreds of years, they're just breast

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although its not professional, it is 100% legal for a mom to nurse anywhere she wants, with or without a cover. And I also call bullshit on the OP because if shes feeding correctly her breast is not "exposed." you would see clevage just like if she was wearing a lowcut shirt and then the babys head, not her whold breast.

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Some people use a pump in advance, so that its in a bottle when their child needs it. Its the same stuff but the mother will not need to expose herself in meeting or other public places.

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When the mother uses a breast pump, she still needs to worry about sterilizing the bottles and warming up the milk vs it being ready right then and there when the baby needs it. I'm all for breast feeding but it's not right to have the OP feel comfortable while she's nursing. She could have postpone the meeting until after she dealt with her hungry baby and then resumed it. Very unprofessional on her part.

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166 are you stupid? A baby is too young for formula? So by your logic, mothers who choose not to breast feed let their infants starve until they are old enough for formula. Personally, I have nothing against formula or breast milk. It's a personal choice, whatever. But don't come here and tell me that what that woman did was fine. It was unprofessional and she could have pumped it beforehand.

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Breast feeding is better for the baby and the mother for many reasons, and if possible should be done rather than formula feeding. That being said, if you are feeding your infant at work, it is best to pump the breast milk and bottle feed, simply because it is definitely something that could make others (men, for the most part) uncomfortable. Actual breast feeding can wait until you are home or can excuse yourself.

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148, Why would they say anything even if they did notice? Only the prudest of conservative people would go around telling a woman to cover up while breastfeeding. But in public and in the workplace are two very different things. Much like any other behaviour that makes coworkers uncomfortable, this is completely unacceptable. Men are not comfortable with this, and it's not up to you to tell us what we should or shouldn't be able to deal with.

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She can pump the breasmilk out, which would be way more appropriate. And using formula is stupid, PLEASE don't give that garbage to your baby. There's a reason animals produce milk when having a baby. Women don't want to breastfeed nowadays because they're scared of their boobs sagging or being ruined. Although some might have problems with their milk.

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Srsly, 166... a baby is NEVER too young for formula. Formula was designed to be used as a substitute for breastmilk, which is why it contains a lot (not all, but a lot) of the same nutrients that babies need. My daughter drank formula from the day she was born, because she wouldn't latch on to the boobie (I did want to breastfeed, but I couldn't even get access to a pump.. sucks to be poor, lol). She's turned out perfectly healthy and happy. So, take your own advice, and bite your tongue before

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233- My mom breastfed me because it was good for brain function. She proved her case beyond belief. (; But what if a mother isn't able to breastfeed? If you have breast implants or reconstructive breast surgery where the incision is made around the nipple, it's very likely you aren't able to breastfeed. There's many other cases out there where a baby NEEDS to be fed formula. Don't be quick to judge.

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240, Testimonials from a few individuals mean nothing. The reality is breastfeeding is healthier, both for the mother and the baby. Much like we can't get everything we need from pills and shakes as adults, the same applies as children. People survive on all kinds of unhealthy diets, but by breastfeeding your child you are giving it the best chance at proper development.

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I'm just gonna point out that the FML said the baby was eight weeks, not six. Which makes 166's comment slightly more ignorant aside from the whole "it's too young for formula" crap.

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240- Nobody turned out perfectly fine when they were born (there could be exception(s), but that's irrelevant). There is no doubt about it; breast milk is far more healthy for a child than formula. Don't get so angry next time. They didn't say anything openly insulting, unless someone (such as you) chose to take as an insult. A valid point was made, you made a dumb comment. Let's move on now.

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Soo youre saying 6 weeks is too young for formula? Crazy! I was unable to produce enough milk for my baby so her doctor recommended formula.... You obviously don't know everything

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I agree with 166. Breastfeeding is healthy and natural. It's how our species has survived to this day. What's unnatural is to feel awkward or get bent out of shape because of it. If you could come to terms with your own sexuality you wouldn't feel awkward because you wouldn't sexualize such a basic nurturing act of humanity. Bring on the thumbs & trolls!

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327, You're a girl, your opinion on what males should think is completely irrelevant and you have no right to tell us what we should or shouldn't be accepting of.

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She could at least put a cover over herself. I'm all for breast feeding but either wait till after the meeting or cover yourself. There's no excuse for this it's unprofessional of her.

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Babies can be formula fed from birth. My baby was premature & my body didn't produce enough milk to satisfy him so for the first 8 weeks he was mostly on formula with some top up of mine then my milk stopped so he's been on formula full time ever since. Don't criticise others for being ignorant if you don't know all the facts yourself.

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#347, you're a male, so you have no right to tell women, ESPECIALLY breastfeeding mothers, what they can and cannot do for their needy infants simply because it doesn't match your criteria of sexual preference.

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The baby doesn't know the difference and they're sucking on something that is usually covered.. It makes people uncomfortable. Especially men. I say cover the boobies when feeding the babies in public areas.

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Ask yourself WHY you feel awkward. This is about you, not the Mom. Breastfeeding is the most basic act of human nurturing. Do you feel awkward about being a mammal?

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Nothing weird to me . . . oh I work at a daycare on the infant floor so never mind. She probably feel very comfortable feeding whenever but not everyone is as comfortable being around that I suppose. Fyl

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