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  fmessiah  |  16

Probably been awhile in which time he has also been crushing on her and building her up. Next time, cuddle up for awhile and let him recoup, then start kissing gently, building up, wandering hands, etc and the second time should last a lot longer unless his name is Jim and you are Nadia(?names?).

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  CrewBoy  |  10

Or it's just one of those days. Some times ill only last a few minutes and somedays I just can't cum for an hour or more and just go until it hurts the girl too much. There are so many factors that cum into this whole cumming business. Maybe the dude was just having a good day?

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  redmane  |  20

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  gracehi  |  31

That's what I was thinking, 1. My boyfriend probably lasted about a minute our first time, but he hadn't had sex in about a year. Now he lasts anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour. And the same thing happened with my ex when I got back from boot camp. This COULD be a good thing, OP. It likely means he doesn't sleep around. You don't want to date a slut, do you?

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#107 You need to stop watching porn and listening to bullshit. Come back to the real world and realise that men don't last hours upon hours, we all have pours, womens breasts aren't naturally as large and perky as they are in pornos.

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  redmane  |  20

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  MedKits  |  9

What you think to be the regular amount of time? Well now, let me see, you would only know the 'regular', or in other words, average time of men if you had slept with the majority of the men on the planet. Something you wish to tell us? Hmm?

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  redmane  |  20

147- Let me restate. It is what I think SHOULD be the amount of time. I'm not denying that 2-7 is the average. I've had 2 long term boyfriends. I'm not an expert, nor did I claim to be. The current one is one I'd wish to keep. I'm no slut. Obviously, you don't have to be a slut to have sex. Other commenters have stated the average amount of time, getting their facts from, I don't know, studies that come from journals in the internet maybe? Brown university did one. I'm just saying that the average should be higher. Sex is good. Therefore, more sex is even better. But thanks for drawing a completely inaccurate conclusion from that one little comment.

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  cajekraze  |  7

Take charge. Use a phrase like "Now that we got the first one out of the way..." Then get him a new condom and keep him aroused. You'll get a lot more playtime the second time around and he'll probably think you're awesome

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  JBM3292  |  19

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  evilplatypus  |  33

93 - I've been with my fiancé two years and we've never had sex. Neither of us has a discernible sex drive, though we enjoy watching porn together. My parents are together and love each other and haven't had sex in six years. Neither of them have ever cheated (trust me, there are no secrets in my family. We all know WAY too much about each other).

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  BriannaMGK  |  15

But if you don't have a good sex life with someone, it's proven to cause frustration & resentment. So you have to have a good sex life to keep a balanced relationship.

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  free2speak  |  14

I agree that having sex is a healthy part of a relationship but I don't think sex should determine whether you stay with a person or not because sex can be improved upon. 95, I'm not sure what you hoped to accomplish by writing that since that is a rare example. In my opinion, sex is normal and healthy. It's not an "icky" taboo thing. Its actually rather fun when you're committed to someone. I've been with my bf for 4 years and nothing beats waking up on Monday morning with a good dose of morning sex to get the endorphins kicking. You're missing out ... but to each his own.

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  baileygirl88  |  8

As *crazy* as this sounds, some people still like to wait until marriage to have sex, me and my boyfriend of almost 4 years being 2 of those people. I agree that while I'm sure a good sex life is important in marriage, I assure you it's not the only thing that matters. Maybe when me and my boyfriend get married we will have horrible chemistry in bed...won't know until it happens. Doesn't matter. Point is you can have a long, fabulous relationship with someone WITHOUT the sex!

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

Instead if all these assumptions, maybe the guy had a crush on her too and has been waiting for this moment for 5 years. And it is no secret if a guy has been waiting that long, to sexually be with his crush/date/girlfriend or whomever, that most likely he will orgasm very quickly. OP, give your crush a chance. This could easily be that he was overly excited, which you should take as a compliment.

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  free2speak  |  14

153, I find the boy's dedications to be worth an applaud. I don't know anyone who is in a relationship for that long and hasn't had sex yet. if you have to force yourself to not have have sex because of moral or religious reasons then I believe it's wrong. It's just a biological function, except it's one of the more complex one which requires more careful evaluation. If you're with someone for 4 years and the thought of having sex has never bothered either of you then that's fine. Odd but still fine.

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  evilplatypus  |  33

124 - I gave two examples (so four people) from my family alone, so it obviously isn't that "rare". Nor am I (or my parents) prudes or consider it "taboo" (where the hell did you get that out of what I wrote?). My fiancé and I simply have no sex drive. We get no pleasure from it and have no real desire for it. An asexual commented not long after me, so apparently, once again, it is not that "rare".

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  McAninch35  |  9

I think most of you are generalizing too much. Some people value sex more than others. Personally, if I don't have any kind of chemistry with someone in bed, it does affect the relationship. I find that connection to be an incredibly important one. However, others don't feel that way. They wait until marriage or something of the sort, and that's fine. Perfectly fine. Everyone's definition of a relationship is different, and everyone makes them work in different sorts of ways.

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  meggieeee51  |  9

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  SkoomaKi  |  23

"Guys get off and girls are left disappointed". It's foolish to generalize the whole male population. I can assure you that many of us "guys" would prefer to get the girl off first.

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  meggieeee51  |  9

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  Drigr  |  8

Yep 4, I'm one of "those guys." I don't have sex very often, so by the time I do, its like "OHMYFUCKINGGOD!!!!!" What seperates a guy who finishes too quickly from a complete jackass is making sure to spend other time getting her off, or upfront, suggesting a second round. My partner probably has 3-4 orgasms to my 1

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  Epikouros  |  31

Sorry to spoil your blamefest, girls, but I'm not sure that 'le_evan' is a woman. If OP's a gay bottom, there's not much of a replacement for getting fucked. But he should give this guy another chance if he's worth crushing on for five years.

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  SammyS2012  |  21

If a girl orgasms, she can still continue, while a man might have trouble continuing because most of the time, he "softens". That's why if a woman finishes early it's not that bad. Of course both parties should focus on satisfying their partners and not just themselves.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

65, The OP could be a girl and she could have used his name. I believe in French, "le" means "the". So maybe, "The Evan" is what the girl is calling the situation, after her crush's real name. And, OP is a boy, who really cares?

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

23, My guy makes it about satisfying me first every time. Gives him gratification and makes him perform better. Basically, I concur. But, younger men who are new to sex, usually do make it about themselves (not all but most).

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  redmane  |  20

Evan Rachel Wood from the movie "Across the Universe" is a woman. It still doesn't matter if OP is a man or a women, but "Evan" is a unisex name.

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  StalkerChick  |  13

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What I don't understand... is why it took her 5 years to hook up with the dude. Ladies - If you are interested in a guy, present the goods, and leave the rest to the men.

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