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By Academia - / Thursday 18 August 2011 08:45 / United Kingdom
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By  Niicky_fml  |  20

Let them be stupid. They'll regret it when they don't have any kids who come to see them or talk to them. They'll just come crawling back one day, and u can tell them they did it to themselves

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Totally agreed. If they're that controlling and crazy, why would you want them in your life anyway? You have to live with your decision the rest of your life. They'll get over it, eventually.

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  AriTheAirhead  |  10

Okay.... So I'm reading all of these comments, and all of them are on your side. But is anyone thinking of what the parents? I mean, they are telling him to purse the right course because they want him to have a successful life, alright?! They don't want him in a place that may make his life difficult. All they want is happiness for the kid... I do agree that the "disowning" comment was a bit far but if you think about it, it's out of love. Maybe for the parent's taste, his older sister was not the brag-about child, so you should do better. :) (I mean this with all kindness and dont care how many thumbs down I get. I know my oldest bro is in a way in this spot, but I can see how my parents feel.)

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  tenniscrazy2  |  6

58, I that is completely fear-based thinking. If OP's parents make her do something that she doesn't like to do, she will be unhappy for the rest of her life, no matter how rich and successful she becomes. However, if OP purses her passion, she will be happy, even if she doesn't make as much money. Keep in mind that money doesn't buy happiness. My father is from India. His parents tried to make him become a doctor or an engineer, but my dad knew that that wasn't what he wanted to do. So, he rebelled. He loves playing tennis, so he decided to come half-way around the world to the United States, and build a tennis facility. He's now a certified teaching tennis pro, and owns a facility. Sure, he's doesn't make as much money as a doctor or an engineer, but the point is he's HAPPY (unlike the rest of his family who are all doctors and engineers and HATE their jobs). OP's parents definitely have good intentions, but good intentions mean nothing if the person who has them is ignorant. OP, please take my advice: Pursue your passion, no matter what your parents say. Everything will work out for you in the end, and you will be happy for the rest of your life. Good luck. :)

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  HowAreYouToday  |  32

Sigh. Humans don't really understand this: your parents might be the biggest douches on the planet, but because they are still your parents, you'd still want their approval. GET OVER IT! OP JUST DOESN'T WANT TO END UP THE BLACK SHEEP OF THE FAMILY!!!!

By  Niicky_fml  |  20

Let them be stupid. They'll regret it when they don't have any kids who come to see them or talk to them. They'll just come crawling back one day, and u can tell them they did it to themselves

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  BlackbeltSubo  |  4

It's not that easy though, to switch course now you would have to go through clearing and so would probably not get a better course as most of the hood ones are already full or wait a year and have to pay the new £9000 yearly fees (if you start this year it's £3000)

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  IndiRae  |  9

That's way easier said than done. They're OP's parents, whether they're over powering pricks or not, OP obviously cares if they speak to them or not. Otherwise this FML would have never come into being in the first place.

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  elmski87  |  0

Never said people from outside the US don't go to American schools, however the chances are if OP could get into Harvard then they could get into Cambridge and personally I know which I'd rather go to!

By  kate3101  |  15

I think it's pretty naive of people here to say "go and do whatever makes you happy". That will work as long as what makes you happy is minimum wage. There are very few opportunities for non-graduates, especially in the UK. That degree doesn't have to be in a relevant subject to open doors that would otherwise be closed to you. I'm pretty sure that your parents just want you to have options in life. If you want to work in McDonalds, that's fine, but it should be because you want to, not because that's all you can get. Good luck.

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  SeasonedLemur  |  5

You stole the words right out of my mouth, I'm re-taking my a levels next year because there's little to no jobs or future for yourself in this country without them. it's harsh on you that your parents said they'd disown you if you didn't take the course but they are only looking out for you. Go work as a shop assistant for a year and see how depressing and demoralising it is when you realise you'll never be able to fufill your full potential.

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  sbsq11  |  0

It's pretty naive to get a degree in something you didn't want to take in the first place. OP should have control of his own life if he's old enough to go to college.

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  NNiiKKiiEE  |  3

that's also a good point. at first my mom wanted me to pursue something in the medical field (good thing I was interested in it and went to a specialized program for it). but when I got older, my preferences changed to engineering--which I'll get a bachelors (at least) in---but now I want to get licensed in trucking, piercing and massage therapy so my mom is just like "Nikkie *facepalm*, do whatever you want". but she knows I don't want to be broke so she's confident that whatever career I choose will be a fairly lucrative one :)

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  SeasonedLemur  |  5

Very true #32 but I think in some cases people, myself included need a kick up the arse to get them motivated and doing something. OP should take a year out in my opinion and see a bit more of the world then she might have a better idea of what she wants to do later on in life and take a more appropriate course next year.

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  Cinn_fml  |  21

SeasonedLemur (#39) - That's a good idea, but in the UK the fees are set to increase dramatically after the academic year that starts this September. So unless the OP can still officially defer a year it could cost her more than she can afford.

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  SeasonedLemur  |  5

Damn Uni fee rises! I thought they had already gone up, perhaps not. it's utter bollocks anyway especially seeing as students in Scotland don't have to pay a penny! Our govenment continues to screw over it's younger generations.

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  elmski87  |  0

Since when have there been few opportunities in the UK for non-graduates? There are loads. Out of the people I went to college with and still know, all of the ones that went to university are doing menial, shitty jobs and all the ones who went straight into work or apprenticeships all have great jobs.

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  SeasonedLemur  |  5

Hmm I guess it'll differ from area to area but all my mates who took apprenticeships are having a shite time, they say it's the same shit every day with no hope for promotion until their boss is six feet under!

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  Cinn_fml  |  21

Elmski - it depends case to case I think, or maybe region, I don't know. I know people who've done well out of apprenticeships and I know people who've done well having gone and gotten good degrees, and I know reverse situations for both cases. I guess it depends on a combination of personal drive/motivation and opportunities in that area etc. What I do know is that there is a certain amount of uni focus at school. Like at GCSE level they encourage you to do Alevels and then at Alevel level they encourage you to go to uni. You have to go out and actively seek information about things like apprenticeships. Or maybe that was just my school...

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