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By Anonymous / Monday 4 October 2010 04:04 / United States
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Oh wow. That really sucks! I am surprised you're feeling horny with all the other emotions, but I guess that's your smallest 'problem'. Good luck with your sister, the baby and the ex.

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He may be a jerk but he's the one stuck with a kid and doesn't have a girlfriend that obviously would have had sex with him. That guy is obviously the dumbass in this situation.

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22: That doesn't fully make sense. He *did* have free access to sex-- he just didn't pick the OP to screw. And he could be in a relationship with OP's sister now, meaning, again, free access to sex.

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193- Shutup. There is a difference between not WANTING sex and not HAVING it. Every man and woman wants sex. it's human. however, men can be celibate and straight for moralistic or religious reasons.

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perhaps she was the marriage material, guys around here dont ever touch their marraige material, doesnt mean they wont touch other girls.... though the sister? awkward

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naive? that isn't naive. it'd be more normal for him to be antisex (bc some people are surprisingly) then to knock up her little sister.

Oh wow. That really sucks! I am surprised you're feeling horny with all the other emotions, but I guess that's your smallest 'problem'. Good luck with your sister, the baby and the ex.

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I'm not wishing the ex good luck. At least I didn't mean to, I meant good luck with DEALING with your sister, the baby and your ex. Because since he got her sister pregnant, she'll probably see her ex around. Or not. That depends.

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... ....... Seriously? I'm not sure if many guys would WANT to bullshit their girlfriends about no premarital sex. At least, I don't know of any. From the way the girl makes it out to be, she was definitely DTF.

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I don't think that's true. Not always does that line mean that. sometimes, yes. But it is a matter of personal opinion. Just because I say I am not going to have sex with my boyfriend doesn't mean I don't want to. I actually want to have sex with him, but I told myself and him that I'm going to wait. I don't know, I think your statement is pretty generalized.

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my boyfriend and I are waiting. And it's not easy. We've come very close to doing it on many occasions, and then he always says "remember our promise?" and we stop. Just because a guys not having sex with you doesn't mean he's being unfaithful.

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0 advantages... except that then when you get married you know for sure your genitals aren't wrought with disease. Just saying.

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Wow. What do they teach the kids in American schools these days? Genitals wrought with disease. Class. You are aware that if neither you nor your boyfriend have had sex with anyone else then as long as you only stick with each other, you're not going to get a disease. Also, there's this new thing called a condom which, if you or he has slept with someone, prevents disease. Not to mention, if you're worried, you could go get checked with him. And finally, if he did have a disease and gave it to y

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89 you kind of supported what I said. If you don't have sex with anyone til your married than you're practicing abstinence. If you have sex with three people, then wait to have sex til you're married with your current partner, you're not.

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I'm not agreeing with what you're saying at all. You're saying that if you don't practice abstinence then your genitals will be "wrought with disease". I'm questioning this. I've slept with 3 girls, but sensibly, not gone sleeping around with anyone, but certianly not practiced abstinence and yet, my genitals are fine. So your one advantage of practicing abstinence is null, as in this day and age, it is fairly easy to avoid STDs/STIs if you engage your brain.

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I agree with JohnBoy - what on Earth do they teach kids now? You'll notice that on here, a woman that sleeps with even one guy is automatically a syphilitic whore. Guess what people - sex is normal, fun, and you're being lied to in the name of some unrealistically naive religiously motivated notion of celibacy propagated by people who are too self-conscious to tell you the truth. If you choose not to do it, fine - no big deal, it's your own decision, but if you are safe, responsible and get chec

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Fallacy: Anyone who has sex before marriage is a whore. Fallacy: Anyone who waits until marriage is a stupid, ignorant maniac. Reality: All people who convince themselves that only their methods are correct are obtuse and should be put in solitary confinement. I think, but I could be wrong, that this is something 137 hinted at. If so, I thank you for being intelligent.

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Yep, that was what I was getting at, but the 'fire, brimstone and virulent pustules' that I was railing against, sort of made my rant a little one-sided. I feel that people are being fed an unrealistic version of what sex is and represents. Obviously, it's not for everyone, and I'd strongly advocate that a choice of abstinence is a valid one, but it seems to be the only one promoted, I believe at the expense of education that - lets face it - most people will genuinely need. The thing about choi

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CitrusGirl: I'm certainly not against abstinence, but citing the avoidance of disease as the sole motivation for staying abstinent is rather silly. As oc mentioned, there's a multitude of totally nonsexual ways to contract diseases. For example, my grandpa contracted Hep C through a blood transfusion during open-heart surgery. Shall we abstain from such procedure as well, to prevent contraction? And before you cite the necessity of such surgeries, consider that many responsible, mature adults do

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Ah. Then Zeb, we do agree. I'm particularly against abstinence-only sex ed, both within schools and at home.  meteor: "To each their own" is a fine philosophy, as long as it isn't used to justify, excuse, or God forbid, propogate ignorance, especially in something as important as sex. I have a hard time leaving each to his own when an "each" is content to mindlessly accept that "Premarital sex is just bad!" And I can't, in good conscience, accept it when an "

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I have to agree with Irish, discussing sex should be done without any kind of bias. Some people chose to wait, some chose not to, and people should understand the merits of both whilst making their own choice.

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Alright...first off, no, having sex before marriage doesn't guarantee that you'll have an STD/STI, However, not having sex does pretty much guarantee you won't. (Yes, you will probably have a form of herpes, but not all forms of herpes are an STI) You won't have to worry about if they have them or not. Also, getting tested isn't always going to help, because, for example, HIV can take up to three years so show up on a test because it's not an active virus. Abstinence isn't the only way to go to

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To the people on here who think people should have sex with whoever they want, whenever they want; STD's are one reason not to, obviously, and using condoms isn't always going to help this. Condoms don't work 100% of the time. Some people don't have sex because of their religion, and no one on here has a right to judge what people believe in. I'm not taking sides or anything, btw. :] In Health Ed. they teach kids not to have pre-marital sex because it can ruin their life, basically. You have to

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Give me one good reason someone should have sex that isn't tied to his/her own selfish personal satisfaction. Maybe the reason some people don't have sex before marriage is above what you can comprehend.

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Arn't long discussions that lead to the benefit of no one just great? ( please reply, feed tha trullz! )

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Jane - I think we're on the same wavelength. In Australia, sex ed just tells you what's what. How it works, where the dangers are and how to minimise them. It was clear, concise and told you what you need to know. The teenage pregnancy rate amongst the people I was at school with was zero. My rant included religion because - especially in the US - religion seems to have wangled its way into sex education to the immense detriment of the people who are being taught. Abstinence only sex educatio

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Merit for waiting: Piece of mind that the only person you have had sex with is the one you're with. That it is something special, just between the two of you. No exs or anyone else to worry about being jealous and spiteful of no longer being with you (or possibly tempt you back). Just a belief in general that sex is for only the person that you know is 100% committed to you. These I consider much more of value than not catching a disease. In reality it's the people who sleep around that worry a

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CHILDREN! Agree to disagree and march the hell on. I didn't read any of this, but I'm going to agree with OC. Only because he's flying solo in this thread and I feel sad for him.

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You missed it completely. If that's how you're trying to quantify having sex vs. not having sex, then you have struck down every possible reason someone should have sex before marriage with that same argument. There are no tangible reasons. It all comes down to what the person wants. I just don't think that it's right to call the person stupid for wanting to do it. That's why I feel similar to Jane or boopity etc.

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Most of the health benefits seem to be linked to the orgasm and exercise that come from sex. However both of those can be achieved without having sex. Also some people hardly have any sex drive at all. If a study claims that people who have sex are healthier than those who don't. They should probably see if people who have no desire to have sex are generally less healthier than those who do have a desire regardless of if either have actually done so. Obviously the correlation could just be that

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A question for you, organisedchaos: Imagine a hypothetical situation in which you have the option of killing just one person, and you instantly receive one million dollars; there are no other effects on or from the rest of the world. Unlikely, to be sure, but were you in this situation, what would you do?

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Since I'm familiar with each of you, I have to say that this argument is going to go nowhere. Some may believe having sex before marriage is wrong and selfish. Some may believe that having sex before marriage is perfectly healthy and normal, but it's truly a matter of opinion. Let's let people do what makes them happy, as long as they're not doing harm onto themselves or other people.

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C'mon, FFML, I'm tryin' to work here. But I agree with you. However, it doesn't mean I won't at least shoot down some arguments (from both sides, preferably).

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I was moody, because I ran out of popcorn and this argument suddenly became frustrating! I'm better now though. Carry on.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and have agreed on no sex before marriage. It prevents unwanted pregnancy and makes that "first time" feel that much more special because you are each other's first. We keep our sex drives down by doing other sexual activities. It's not impossible. Both of us are 22 year old virgins and are content with our choice. That being said, we don't judge or care about other people's sex lives. What people do in the bedroom is of no one's conc

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Friendship is a relationship too, and there most certainly is. It's hard to imagine, especially in this era, that some people aren't promiscuous, but some people are.

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It sounds as though you are implying there are only two options: celibate and promiscuous. That would be incorrect.

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ImFoe is right, Dickster. If you're having sex four hours into a relationship, you may be promiscuous. Four months is a bit long, but 4 years is ridiculous.

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I haven't had sex in just about a year and a half, funzies! I actually am getting younger, every time I grow another year older, people tell me I still look 16/17...

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Actually it was a specific reply to the comment above mine. For the sake of relevance however, I don't believe that sex is a requirement or a necessity in a relationship, depending on the people's views of course.

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wait so are you saying that you can't be a boy/girlfriend of someone before you have sex? and before that you're just friends?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and have agreed on no sex before marriage. It prevents unwanted pregnancy and makes that "first time" feel that much more special because you are each other's first. We keep our sex drives down by doing other sexual activities. It's not impossible. Both of us are 22 year old virgins and are content with our choice. That being said, we don't judge or care about other people's sex lives. What people do in the bedroom is of no one's conc

The easiest revenge, is to secretly have sex with him and your sister, then expose each other. Either they'll break up or you'll get a threesome.

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